tid bits from a chick in heels

Things that make women happy.... okay, THIS woman....

2011-04-06T17:04:00.016-04:00

SEX - Well, for sex to happen you have to be in a good place right? So you're happy, feeling loved and desired.. and then you get to cum!!! Win-win!!!

BACK RUBS.... In fact, I have an ongoing fantasy about going for a massage where it leads to all sortasa nasty goodness hehe! Fellas, take note - back rubs relax us, make us feel GOOD - in turn, we'll wanna make YOU feel good too!

WINE - another relaxer.... is it just me or does a nice glass o'vino warm up your pink parts even more????

PDA's - okay, not a wet frenchie kiss in the middle of the grocery store - but hand holding... a guy's hand on my lower back when we're out... simple little signs that he's into ME when we're out and about ;o)

REMINDERS - reminders that he's into you.... it can be as simple as a text message, a card... a snuggle with a hard c*ck at the end of a long day ;o) TMI?? Well, it is MY blog peeps!!!

KITCHEN MAKE OUTS - I don't know of any girl who wouldn't like a little sneak up from behind while making dinner or doing dishes - yes those tasks need to get done and are mundane, but add a little 'I'd still f.ck ya' squeeze into the mix from my man and YOWZA - that will make my day!

BEING COMPLIMENTED - Okay, I love being complimented by my fella - makes me feel GOOD inside and out... ie: Dancing with the stars was on, and lie or not - it felt great to know he thought I was just as hawt as one of the curvier dancers (not Kristie Ally - love her tho!)... hehe!

BEING TREATED LIKE A GF - although many of us hold the wife title or 'life partner' (PUKE) - no one really wants to be treated like the dowdy ol' wife.... so here's a little tip for the fellas - you want us to f.ck you like we're your GF and not just your old ball n' chain? Then TREAT us like we're your spicy hawt gf!!!! And ladies - this works in reverse too. Give'n'take peoples!!!

BEING APPRECIATED - again, a give and take situation here - remember the GF/BF ideal as mentioned above ^^^ if your Gf had come over and done your laundry or made you dinner - you'd be so thankful, don't let those little moments of appreciation ever slip away ;o)

That's all for now, stay kinky!

Chick xo

Shows I like....

2011-01-27T13:18:00.018-05:00

Sooo... I decided to write about something a little different. Just stuff ;o) Today, it's TV shows I looove! Here we go...

SURVIVOR - Easy, Jeff Probst is the host of all hosts - can you imagine ANYONE else in his place - ahhh no! However, I will say that my interest in this show depends entirely on the cast & over the years there have been better seasons than others. For the upcoming season I'm hoping to see Boston Rob mess with Russell - but really.. who doesn't miss Coach? I can't be the only one... loved to hate that guy!

THE BACHELOR - or Bachelorette depending on the season. It's my guilty pleasure. I look forward to Monday's whenever it's on - sad but true. I'm a hopeless romantic at heart so it's fun to get sucked into those 'created moments' and fascinating date excursions.. but I also love to witness the drama. I'm a fan of http://www.realitysteve.com/ who gives us the REALITY behind this show in the snarkiest and most awesome of ways - and even when I know the ending (thanks Steve!) I want to watch the mental shakedowns that take place while getting down to the final rose/proposal/walk-away.. what have you... Clearly, I'm not alone - The Bachelor has been around for a long time. The only reason to go on this show is as a gateway to SOME semblance of fame - those going on to find TRUE love... c'mon!

MODERN FAMILY - Anyone who has not watched this show IS MISSING OUT!! This show is so well written - the storylines are priceless and sometimes realistic. The hilarity is the key here though. From the rich old guy with the busty Columbian wife and step-son, to the gay couple with the adopted daughter and the wife/husband + 3 kids-combo - it's an easy watch, so funny and all of the characters are likeable/laughable!!

Okay, COUGAR TOWN has to be one of my absolute FAV's!! I am so bummed if there is a repeat on because I've seen them ALL. Courtney Cox plays Jules - I was a huge 'Friends' fan so I decided to watch this show.. however, my favourite characters are that of Laurie, Ellie, Grayson, Andy and of course the amazing Bobby Cobb!! Laurie is my FAV tho, she's so goofy but completely confident with that - LOVES her! After watching this show I find myself in need of my very own humungus 'Karl' wine glass... Another easy watch with characters that always get the last laugh. And who doesn't want to play *PENNY CAN* over a few drinks with their besties?!

CALIFORNICATION - the sexed up version of Mulder - okay, so Mulder's character couldn't be further from Hank's but if Duchovny does it for you - this show cannot be missed! Had I been described a show about a womanizing, drunk, semi-successful author I likely would have passed.. but Hank and his messed-up-self is totally lovable. Not to mention totally crass and hysterical. The sex and drugs is shocking and interesting at the same time - like being a voyeur in his whacked out life. This show is on HBO which I invested in specifically to watch this gem.

The new season of American Idol is FAN-TASTIC!!! I truly believe that has everything to do with the addition of Steven Tyler. Now, in all honesty - I thought he was their replacement for Paula lol!! Figured he'd be the 'spacey' addition - Was I EVER wrong about that... first of all he's hilarious and secondly, his comments are the most legit if you ask me! I decided to give AI a chance for the first episode only... now, I'm hooked. Had it just been Jennifer/Randy/Ryan I think it would have been a snooze-fest for me but Steven makes it GREAT! Nevermind the weekly eye-sex he has with several of the female contestants - if you haven't noticed THAT part yet you haven't been watching the same show as me lol!!

So... those are some of my fav's... just thought I'd share

Chick xo

Do you REALLY know what your partner wants??

2011-01-24T09:52:00.009-05:00

So, you've been together for a while now right? Things are going along swimmingly - or so you think at least. What's KEY is knowing how to KEEP it that way - and the only person that depends on, is your mate. Assuming things are 'great' just because 'you' are happy can be risky.

I think, that after a while, people get complacent, comfortable and perhaps without even realizing end up taking things for granted. I mean, how OFTEN do you stop to think about the things that make YOUR partner happy? When was the last time you did something entirely focused on making your partner feel good?? Even if this crosses your mind, DOING IT is they key - and follow through doesn't have to take a lot of work - but it WILL go a long way ;o)

The thing that people don't do often enough is stop to consider what it is that would REALLY make their partner smile. Ladies, I'm sure many of you would SHOCK the pants off of your man if you initiated sex, tried a new position or wore something sexy to bed. Most guys would list 'anything to do with sex' as their top 5 requests right?! But that's not the ONLY way to focus in on making your fella happy. What's his favourite beer? Pick some up for him - have it in the fridge and he'll see you thought of him. When is the last time you sat and listened to his favourite music and reconnected without having the TV on in the background? I don't know ANY guy who would turn down a back rub either...

Guys, think BEYOND flowers here... what does she REALLY like? When you make her breakfast - but add a little something to that to show you're into her - even a sticky note can go a LONG way to making her feel loved. Give her some loving moments that DON'T necessarily lead to sex... (make a note here fellas - the more of these moments you give the more sex you'll end up having anyways - I SPEAK THE TRUTH!!!).

The REAL key here is actually knowing what it is that would make your partner feel good. Too many people think about that THEY want and not enough about what their PARTNER wants. If you want something in return, try giving it first. If you are always the one giving and you aren't getting the same appreciation in return then there's a problem. It doesn't take hours to make these little moments possible but it can benefit for a long time when you follow through. I think the relationships that go the distance are those that regularly show their appreciation to one another. Think about it, if you're happy where you are now - you'll be glad you did...

Chick xo

taste test...

2010-05-26T13:39:00.009-04:00

Let's face it, if you're having ANY fun whatsoever during sex... at some point you are using your mouth for a little more than kissing. If you're not - pull up a chair and take notes people!!

The potential is limitless as to what your lips can do and where your tongue can linger. If your partner is hygienic (and you should expect nothing less) then there should be no hesitation to find out what they taste like from head to toe. If you're like me, the very thought will make you drool with anticipation ;o)

All too many times "if" you receive oral sex it's limited to the foreplay experience alone. This is a travesty!!!! Half the fun of a good session is knowing that a well dipped blow job can come at any time.. or being lapped at after the juices have been forced out of you *blush* ~ yes, I know what I like hehe! Do you know how kinky it is to see what you taste like coming off of your partner's body? It's DEVINE!! Everyone can brush their teeth or rinse their mouths later - when in the moment the key is to LET GO and ~play~ outside the box (and in hehe!).

Don't confine yourself to the foreplay only oral sex treatment - some people are so uptight they won't even kiss after giving or receiving oral sex - c'mon!!!!! Sex is all about fun and lust and being just a little bit daring... It's not about hesitating - you'll only experience true bliss if you let go of any worry and let the intensity of the moment carry you away!!!

There's an entire body to savour - don't go missing out!!

Vote on the poll above, comment below, email me your topic suggestions or questions to chicktidbits@live.ca ~ most importantly get your tongue exercise regularly and come back often!!

Cheers,

Chick xo

The drive of a man ~ female style ~

2010-05-21T09:34:00.006-04:00

"I love dick. To be honest, that I cannot live without."
- Christina Aguilera tells Out

Oh Christina - I hear ya sister!!!!!! I was asked once, if I could have sex whenever I wanted to - how often would I want it? ...The answer was instant "once a day!!" (sometimes more if I can get it!!! But definitely once a day is my ideal).

I've been told I give a BJ 'with love' - and I know I do.... do you know why? Because I DO LOVE IT!! I love the look of it, the feel of it, the scent, the taste.... it's crazy right?! If guys think about sex every 7 seconds, then I think about it every 5 lol!!

So now I wonder... for all the guys who think they could never be out-sexed by a woman... have you ever really had that experience? I know my breed is a rare one lol! I've had men say to me "we'll see if you can keep up" and I think... oh honey, you have NO IDEA who you're dealing with here - for as long as I can remember, I've had this relentless drive.

I tend to think that guys who have highly sexual women lose something in the pursuit -the chase - the 'hunter' side of a man. If guys can have great sex whenever they want it, does it lose some of it's lustre? Would men rather carry the torch of domination when it comes to s.x? I think most men THINK they would want a highly sexual woman but if they had one - it may overwhelm instead of turn them on...

Share your opinions here, leave a comment, email me your ideas chicktidbits@live.ca, vote on the poll above and visit me again!!

cheers,

Chick xo

Embracing your sexual alter ego...

2010-05-03T16:24:00.009-04:00

I think women either HAVE this or have the POTENTIAL for this... your sexual alter ego. It's one of those things that allows us to open the door to uninhibited sexual freedom. To fully enjoy the possibilities and satisfaction of completely 'letting go' during sex.

It's not always easy to clear our minds of the every-day goings on. Sometimes clearing our heads and getting into sex-mode is the furthest thing from a woman's mind (okay not mine, but I'm not talking about me here - I'm an odd bird that way!!). I often times enjoy adding a little SPICE to the game of sex - and that's what it should be - a full on game - play it - challenge yourself - think outside the box! (no pun intended lol!!).

Recently I put on a little cowgirl hat, added some high heel boots and sauntered down the stairs to greet my prey... After a few brief poses - it was ON!! Make him watch in the mirror when you do things to him - he can visualize that it's some dirty cowgirl down on him.. some slutty stripper that lives in his deepest darkest fantasies - but the best part - it's YOU!!! Let that cowgirl hat open the door to embracing your sexual alter ego. Behave in ways that the 'good housewife' would never think of. A little costume can take you far.

Maybe even just some sexy panties - something that breaks you out of the routine - the norm. Keep things on the edge once in a while. Everyone likes to get revved up for a surprise or two. And ladies, heels provide for leverage in certain positions that bare feet just can't compete with!!! Not to mention when in mid-air they make for wicked thrust handles ;o) MEOW!!! Maybe let him catch you 'already warming up' and see how quickly he catches up or begs to assist - let the woman take control ;o)

Don't just wait for the mundane to occur in the bedroom at the regular time on an anticipated date. Be spontaneous - allow yourself to be someone you wouldn't normally be from day to day. Let the mild mannered kitty transform into the hungry pussy once in a while. If a wig or costume or piece of lingerie does it for ya - own it! You'll be amazed what playing the role can do for you (and of course for him!)...

Email your topic suggestions, questions or comments to me at chicktidbits@live.ca vote on the poll above, comment below and visit often you dirty birds!!

Cheers,

Cowgirl in heels - and owning it!! ;o)

Jesse James Sandra Bullock - Affairs....

2010-03-24T10:48:00.019-04:00

You know, I’ll bet that Jesse James really did and DOES love Sandra Bullock. You see, most guys who cheat don’t let the potential consequences of their actions enter their minds. To them, the mistress and the wife are two completely separate worlds and for whatever reason, the majority of guys who enter into affairs – figure they can balance both – that one has nothing to do with the other. The excitement and the ‘rise’ are totally separate entities from their family/wife and what could potentially EXPLODE. And when the affair DOES come to light... it usually doesn’t end the way they’d want it to.

I wonder if any of the guys out there are taking pause now at what’s happened with Tiger Woods and Jesse James. Aside from the risk of losing their wives/families over the affair – the chicks they are having affairs with ALWAYS have the potential go to ‘FATAL ATTRACTION’ on them! Whether you think you’re just having a casual fling or are in love with your mistress – love and sex can do CRAZZZZZY things and turn people very ugly! The moment you cross the line, there is potential for that ‘other person’ to show up at your front door and bring to light that dirty little secret. And now with text messages, emails, voice mails, etc... the potential to get caught only increases. Especially if you’re having an affair with someone who is single – most women are gonna want MORE out of the situation at some point. Convincing yourself otherwise is risky business. I think the ONLY time you can AFFORD to have an affair – is when you don’t CARE if you get caught – meaning, you are PREPARED to leave the marriage at all costs. (Plus the chick Jesse James cheated with is just butt f.ckin ugly!!!)...

Now, aside from causing irreparable damage to your relationship with your spouse... consider it double fold if you have children in the picture too. It’s one thing for your spouse to discover your affair but how would you face your children being aware of it? Sandra Bullock became step-mom to Jesse James’ kids – an affair can have far reaching affects. Thing is, most guys won’t THINK on these levels when getting caught up in an affair. A new woman who shows sexual interest in you seems to be so intoxicating to most men that considering the risks of crossing the line doesn’t usually come into play.

I’m thinking most guys who have affairs aren’t CRAZY IN LOVE with their mistresses anyways... figuring they can stop things whenever they decide – not always the way the mistress thinks though. If asked what was more important to them – their wives/families or the mistress – the guys will almost always say that their wife/family means more to them of course... doesn’t mean they don’t want to take the mistress or potential mistress up on what they’re offering!

Most guys have an idea of what they’d like to see in a wife/mother-of-their-children type. And usually it’s NOT the same as what they would want from a mistress. A lot of guys want more sex from their wives but do they REALLY want their wife to be the dirty slut that the mistress is? It’s the old theory of who you ‘can’ and ‘can’t’ bring home & introduce to the folks.... It’s the rare situation where a man feels he has a presentable wife/mother type on one hand, who turns into the vixen/kinky-whore for him in the bedroom. Guys SAY they want a woman who can offer them both sides – but is that really true? Can they separate the dirty girl in the bedroom and the woman who he brings to Easter with the family? Or is the sex he has with his wife more ‘love’ based and the sex he fantasizes about with a mistress more about ‘getting off’ to his deepest darkest desires. For some reason most people don’t have ‘both’ scenarios in the relationship they have with their spouse.

I always say it’s ONE THING if your marriage is in trouble and you could possible ‘see’ that you haven’t been close physically, etc... those weak moments in a relationship always have the potential to create outside interests. But to be completely blindsided (no pun intended Sandy) has to be the worst of the worst. It’s in those cases that I truly believe the guys think... they just wouldn’t get caught... because they probably were pretty happy with their marriages. Sure most people who have affairs aren’t in the public eye – but what about a workplace affair (which is often where it begins) – there probably isn’t as much consideration for how your career can be affected until it’s too late.. Or an affair with someone that your family knows as being part of your circle of friends.. it all has an affect that most involved in the affairs do not consider until all hell breaks loose.

I think the blindside affair has to be the LOWEST of the low. It’s the true con artist who convinces his spouse he’s completely in love and devoted while living a lie... having your cake and eating it too – is ALWAYS too good to be true. Wonder how Jesse's gonna feel when Sandy finds a new man to treat her right... yeah, that's another thing he SHOULD have considered before dipping his wang in the tattoo skank!

If you’re willing to take the risk, you have to really hate your spouse and expect to leave on ugly terms. Chances are that’s how it’s gonna break down – even if things to come to light long after an affair has ended...

That’s my two cents anyways.. vote on the poll, email me your topic suggestions to chicktidbits@live.ca, comment below and come visit me often!! Until next time... think long and hard before digging into the cookie jar kids ;o)

Cheers!!!
Chick xo

The Bachelor - overpowered by the pussy!

2010-03-05T10:38:00.006-05:00

I think all a man wants is to be adored but MORE importantly, he wants the ease of getting pussy. I’ve come to this conclusion through my observations as a female and from recently watching THE BACHELOR. Here’s a guy (Jake) who has a choice between a quality woman who is seemingly PERFECT for him (Tenley) but who isn’t giving up the ‘tang’ so easily... Apparently sharing the same morals and values with the Bachelor – isn’t as important as the other woman (Vienna) who is an immature and abrasive extension wearing quack who very EASILY uses the cooter to get what she wants. Guess who he picked.... he is, after all, a man.

It became very clear on the overnight dates. Here’s Tenley – the perfect girl, who has only ever been with her ex-husband – they never show in detail what actually happens on the overnight dates but anyone with half a brain could see that Tenley did NOT screw Jake that night. Vienna – the immature fake blonde (who has risqué pics circling the internet) made it quite clear to the viewing audience as she slipped into a skimpy white camisole, that she was about to TAKE ownership of Jake. And from that night forward, Tenley took a back seat – and Vienna was the front runner.

Even when the girls were faced with meeting Jake’s famiy...the pussy took precedence. Tenley met the family and fit in right away – they LOVED her!! She is, after all, perfect. Vienna went in and the initial reaction was that the family was NOT impressed. Yet, in swoops Jake to ensure they give her the benefit of the doubt – you know why – because she f.cked him good – that’s why! If roles were reversed, Tenley would have been a shoe in. I guess there is something to be said for having some experience under your belt versus saving yourself for marriage these days huh? Goes to show, that a man’s urges are top priority.

Jake is a guy who professes to be very ‘proper’ and a ‘good guy’... listens to his parents advice... thinks he holds himself to these high standards – In reality, he’s like every guy out there – They’re on the hunt for some good pussy and once they find it they wanna make sure they can have it whenever they like. Thing is, most guys end up suffering in the end for putting the needs of their cock ahead of the needs of their LIFE. Those who are able to find a balance between the two – have a RARE catch indeed. This is NOT the case here with the Bachelor. There is NO doubt in my mind that Vienna took him to the base... and when you’re in a competition for a man’s affection – that’ll crown you every time!

That’s the key, if you want to hold onto a guy – f.ck him like no one has, or could ever f.ck him again.

You see it all the time – in those ‘what does he see in HER??’ situations.... I’ll give you the answer 99.9% of the time... it’s all about the PUSSY!

Vote on the poll above, email me at chicktidbits@live.ca for any topic requests/ideas. Comment and come visit me often – I’ll keep more up to date with the blog – been slaggin’ it for a bit ;o)

p.s. for anyone secretly loving the Bachelor/Bachelorette show as I do – make sure to take a moment to read www.realitysteve.com – he knows his stuff and makes watching so much more worthwhile!

Cheers!

Chick xo

kissing...

2010-02-10T10:59:00.016-05:00

I recently read that guys only REALLY want to kiss if it leads to sex... WELL YEAH!!!! If ONLY it were that EASY eh fellas? More times than not I could go for the kiss'n'dip lol! I do however, think kissing says a LOT about the kind of relationship you have. You can tell when you're being kissed as a courtesy, or kissed with passionate urgency or kissed lovingly - there ARE big differences. Personally, I think ALL types should exist in your relationship repertoire.

There are a LOT of awkward kissers out there. You know them, the slobber'ers', the eyes-wide-open kissers, the tongue down your throat - or oopposite - tongue is afraid to come out kissers, the kiss you like you're a sibling kissers, the never open their mouth's kissers, the biters, etc.... Pay CLOSE attention to whether or not you've been complimented on your kissing abilities - if not, then there's likely a GOOD reason for it... maybe it's time for a new attempt.

Why I think all kisses are important in a relationship is easy - peck on the lip kisses are necessary because there are times when that's all that's called for - In public places, around family and friends.... the little peck kisses are good then. However, if you are in the midst of a foreplay session - peck on the lip kisses are a NO NO! Passionate kissing is the opposite - NOT to be done in public or around others - save that for more intimate moments. This is when you kiss with a little more pressure and urgency - use your tongue - heavy breathing, you get the idea... I think anyone can handle working the kisses I've described here - even tho not everyone is good at it ;o)

I think the most important kiss that is a tell tale sign of your relationship is the loving kiss. The one where you can FEEL there's meaning behind it. Maybe it's gentle, it's definitely MORE than the peck on the lips - but a little more loving than the 'I'm about to take you' kiss - somewhere in the middle. I think it's softer, fingers running through your hair maybe, just the right amount of tongue - maybe the slightest nibble... It's the one that every now and again - makes u dizzy ;o)

All too many couples lose the zest for decent kissing as a relationship goes on. Anyone saving those good kisses solely for use in the bedroom, are missing out. (and a hint... what better way to end up in the bedroom then the spontaneous kiss in the kitchen - ahhhh! Now you get it!!). I truly believe anyone who isn't putting an effort into making out with decent kissing is losing out on real intimacy. You want more passion - then give it, and start with those luscious lips of yours will ya?!

MWAH!!!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Chick xo!

Tiger Woods ....Another guy who thinks he just won't get caught

2009-12-10T09:20:00.009-05:00

I think even the skeeviest of guys is shaking their heads at Tiger's 'transgressions' and his complete lack of control. Talk about a fall from grace. Was this guy wound so tight that he had to have SOMETHING give eventually? Maybe... or maybe he's just one o those types who thinks they can have their cake and eat it too. That shit always catches up to you though - in one way or another. In Tiger's case I think the count is up to 12 and increasing...

Who knows what the back story is here... how unhappy his marriage was, etc. I'll be the first one to sympathize with the pains of being in a sexless marriage - but was that REALLY the case here? I doubt it - they have a 9 month old baby - and the affairs were ongoing for years with some of these women... Clearly, invincible on the course does not mean invincible in life. It's one thing if your spouse is aware of the lacking in a marriage - but to present it as 'perfect' and continue to welcome children into the mix - it just screams GREED. It's not a situation where he went onto meet his soul mate here - he was pokin' a hole in any warm place that was offering. Not to mention the deets coming out about being unprotected during these indiscretions - yuk! Gawd help his wallet if he ends up passing STD's around this already skanky mess.

And ya know, even if you're married to a dreadful hag - if you have the MEANS (and we all KNOW he did) then *man up* and get out!!! Tiger's flaw was maintaining the facade of perfection while living a lie. I do think that most guys, if they figure they had the capability of getting away with it - would cheat - and still keep their cushy lives at home in tact. That's likely why a lot of affairs DO happen - because people think they'll get away with it. Most think of covering their tracks, not what they will lose when they DO get caught. I hate to think what his kids will feel as they grow up and are able to access the truth about their Dad and what he CHOSE to do... that kinda stuff is irreparable.

I heard a good analysis of this issue recently.... that Tiger was a pretty 'geeky' fella growing up. That he was mastering his golf game instead of sowing his wild oats when he was younger... so it was building up in him and had to come out eventually. It just happened to come out at a time when he was married with two young children and pinned a spotlight on his complete lack of control over himself.

So why is Tiger suffering under such public opinion and David Letterman did not? Well, David Letterman spoke out prior to the public's general knowledge of the indiscretions. ALSO, people seem to have a lot more tolerance for cheating if you are with a 'girlfriend' or 'boyfriend' as opposed to a 'spouse' who holds a marriage license. As committed as some people may be, that piece of paper that defines you as 'married' does hold a lot of weight. In other words, had Tiger only been living with Elin and not married to her - I'd bet his 'transgressions' wouldn't be so newsworthy. Sad, but true...

Even if Tiger had legitimate feelings for the women he had affairs with, the sheer number of women discounts any meaning here... I sure hope he thinks it was worth it - his life will never be the same again.

So if you're going to cheat - and you don't have the b@lls to leave your marriage/relationship first - then make sure you are fully prepared for the sh.t to hit the fan. And ensure that you are prepared to lose the person you betrayed because more times than not, it's inevitable. Some situations may seem worth it - but I can tell you, it's NEVER an easy road to take.

What's your take? Comment below... email me any topic suggestions to chicktidbits@live.ca vote on the poll and come visit again soon!

Cheers!!

Chick xo

My tramp stamp...

2009-11-02T11:20:00.012-05:00

So this is my new tattoo... purdy huh? I wanted something feminine and flowy. Tat's are edgy enough to go through with and I wanted something that would look pretty... always. Pretty, for a "tramp stamp" eh? Gawd I lothe that term. Lower back tat's get a bad wrap. I think the term tramp stamp should belong to someone who is daft enough to put cherries dangled at the top of their ass crack - or the words 'back door lover' - that kinda thing. Truth be told the lower back is one of the SMARTEST places to get a tat. The skin doesn't tend to change a whole lot - it can be well hidden if need be - or displayed when those intimate moments call ;o) Oh... and did I mention that they are fawkin' sexy too??? Well, at least I think so!!

My new tat covered one that I had done when I was 18 - it wasn't even half as pretty (and I can say that cuz I had designed the first little one). For a LONG time I had wanted to update it or change it - and now that summer was over I decided to go through with it. I forgot what tattooing felt like - and it felt a LOT different from how I 'thought' I remembered it - I think that had everything to do with the fact that my new tat was at least 4 times the size of my first. Some spots I could take okay - but SOME spots definitely had me gritting my teeth argggggg!!! I sat slung over a barber-style tattoo chair for about 2 & 1/2 hours - OUCH!!! I couldn't wear proper pants for a week but ya know - it was worth it - I love it!!!

Tattoos are so much more popular now than they were when I got my first tat. Personally, I like one tattoo - a focal point - but I do "get" it - it's a creative outlet. I don't understand people who get them to show their toughness or memorialize a pet?! I flipped through a tattoo magazine while I was being ink'd and saw a girl with a 'strawberry shortcake' on one arm and 'hello kitty' on another - WTF - really W-T-F???????

Anyways, I like my tattoo - tramp stamp - whatever u wanna call it - good thing too, from what I hear - it'll be there for a while ;o) I think I'll call it my 'tramp stamp' when I'm feelin' frisky and my tattoo when I'm feeling like a 'good girl' hehe!!

Vote on the poll above, leave your comments - do you find tattoo's sexy on a woman or man? Do you have any? Would you get one?? Email me your topic suggestions chicktidbits@live.ca come back often - and support your fellow ink-headz ;o)

Cheers,

Chick xo

Beejers...

2009-09-25T09:45:00.009-04:00

Ya know why BJ's are virtually non-existent after marriage... because MOST women (if they are honest) do not LIKE giving them. The only reason they do give them is to PLEASE their man... Yup, I said it - it's true! Rare is the woman who LIKES to give BJ's - If you find one - HOLD ON TIGHT!!! For whatever twisted reason couples seem out to 'impress' one another until marriage - then they often times seem to just 'give up' - and the sex is the first to go.

Think about this... do you have to coax your woman into giving you a bj? Do you have to ask for it? Is it hard enough to get sex as often as you want it - so you don't wanna push it with a request for oral play??? Then guess what... she doesn't LIKE it.

If a woman feels unloved or unappreciated and that you only want to give her attention in order to get sex - guess what - she likely won't wanna blow you. So... that part aside, let's figure you are a good guy - attentive - loving - someone who spends time pleasing your woman - then you SHOULD expect some lickin' love in return ;o) But I guess the REAL key is how do you get your woman to LIKE doing it other than just to please you....???

My tips are simple. First off, be very clean - I don't just mean having your morning shower, going to work all day then expecting a lick-fest that night. Tidy up right before you get physical.. if you can, grab a quick shower.. if that's not possible then make your way to the bathroom and do a sink/dink-rinse ;o) Secondly, pay attention to the BUSH - yes guys - your man-forests!! If you are comfortable - go hairless (my personal favourite - allows me to lick and suck and drip all over my guy's skin).. If bald-eagle isn't your style MAKE SURE you groom - yes, trim those pubes fellas!!! Get down there, and trim away - the less hair the better chance your woman will want to venture south. I mean think about it - would you prefer to munch on a hairy bush or glide your tongue and lips across some 'barely there' action?? - the answer is simple... My final tip is to pay close attention to what your partner likes or dislikes about oral sex... If she doesn't want you to cum in her mouth - don't! If she doesn't want you to hold the back of her head and force her to take you deeper - don't!! The more comfortable you can make your woman the more apt she will be to TAKE you down...

A little tid bit - if you find a woman who likes to give a bj, will take it in her mouth, wants you to pull her hair while you shove it deeper into her throat... (*blush*)... keep'er ;o)

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Chick

I hate it when I don't get laid....

2009-09-23T15:17:00.008-04:00

Yeah, that's the MAN in me I guess - I just get *miserable* when I go a day or so without it. It actually pisses me off!!! No wonder guys are at the mercy of most women when it comes to getting some action. At least I know I will have relief in the very near future - I can't imagine what kind of tension would build up if I did not have a foreseeable cum within site.

For as RILED up as I get.. I won't 'do the deed' myself at this point... it's been too long (3 days eek!!) and when I get to this place the only reasonable release would have to come from nothing less than a FUCK RAMPAGE. (where did that LADY in me go???)... don't worry she'll show face again when it's time to cuddle ;o) FYI, it won't be time to cuddle until I can no longer stand up lol!!

Seriously, am I the only one who gets this way??? I wanna be kissed and grabbed, pushed up against the wall and ripped apart... over and over and OVER again ;o) After a day or so I wanna f.ck my guy like he's being punished for keeping it from me. Make him PAY... As much as that may make me sound like a man - that's what makes me ALL woman!!!

What do u think? Do you get cranky without sex?? Is it a slow boil for u or an instant FLASH ATTACK that oozes from your pores??

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Chick

Love thru the ages... does it change?

2009-09-21T15:58:00.011-04:00

From puppy love.. to dreamy teenage dating.. twenties romances.. and adult relationships.. do you think the love changes??

At first it's all so innocent - puppy love that is. It's easy and it just IS - because you don't know any better. It's giddy and it's part of being a little kid at some point. Teenage relationships are usually hormone driven/inspired.. so much is changing and new emotions come onto the scene. In your twenties you are exposed to the 'bar scene' of dating and relating - perhaps you're looking for that 'lifetime mate'... or what may be the START of that kind of relationship. Getting a true taste of Independence, perhaps a career is started... Into your thirties, fourties and so on seems to be a little more 'settled and directed'... you have some sort of LIFE established and you want to find someone who fits into that scene without too much of a struggle.

I tend to think, if you've met someone when you were younger and managed to stick it out together and STILL feel the love - then you are indeed, a rarity. I would think, if this is the case then you and your partner obviously were able to grow TOGETHER which isn't usually the norm. If on the other hand, you are in the majority - then you have likely dated several people through several different stages of your life - which will (or has) eventually bring you to whoever you are with at THIS stage of life. I am of the belief that each relationship provides a clearer and clearer picture of what you truly want in a mate. Does the love change? I think so - I believe, the more you have been through the more you understand what you really want in a relationship. I do also think, that whatever the LOVE feeling is for each of us - many of us knew how we wanted it to feel from very early on.

When you're young all you think about is whatever makes you feel good, or who pays attention.. in your twenties it's likely more to do with fun - who fits in with your friends and makes for a good time.. into your thirties and fourties I think you start to get a little bit more grounded and mature about who you want to build a life with.. and onward from there - the important things are who makes you happy and who will be there for you thru the long haul...

Of course life, and kids and bills and jobs.. etc... tend to affect the lives of so many couples. And it's the couples in mid-life who face the challenge of balancing it all - and still wanting their relationship to take centre stage. That's just the thing though, too many people lose site of their relationship being a focal point during this time. Think of the stories of people who send their kids off to college and realize they no longer know one another. Yet, there are those who grow closer and closer over time - and as they go thru various things in their lives - together. You know the ones, the old fogies who are still holding hands. No matter what phase you are in now - I think you have to believe in it - if you really want it.

Regardless, no matter what stage you're in - when you feel the magic - you'll know it. There will no longer be the 'check boxes' for what ideals your mate will fit - they just will. Those relationships are the ones that go the distance. That are meaningful past the first few months ;o)

What's the key... I think, if you want it to be a priority as your life goes on... then it's upto you to make it your priority - hopefully the partner you've chosen will do the same ;o)

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Chick xo

Messy sex

2009-09-11T12:11:00.010-04:00

When I think of 'messy sex' I immediately think FUN!!! I mean, who wants neat & tidy boom-boom?! NOT MOI!!! The more bodily fluid that's spewed - the more fun you'll have ;o) There's sweat, spit, blood, cum, squirt... never mind the wine spills (cheers!!). Sheets?! What sheets... that's what laundry is for hehe!

Messy sex is having wildly kinky fun abandoning any inhibitions. Sex without sweat means you're not working hard enough ;o) I pride myself on squirting thru 3 layers of bedding - now THAT's a good time!!! Ever get so riled up with your partner that spitting in their face while you're in the thick of it only ads to how hard you fuck? ...oh, just me then? oops! I'm not talking about EVERY time - that would be a wee bit degrading right?? (hehe!) But... yeah, whenever the mood strikes that makes you wanna rip into your partner's body to GET YOURS ;o)

Don't be afraid of messy sex - everything can be cleaned off later. Let the fluid FLYYYY!!! Slippery, dirty sex is earned I say ;o) If you've ever had the sensation of being squirted, then you know what I'm talkin' about... If you've ever let your yogurt shoot all over her face, you'll be on board with this train of thought hehe! If you have yet to play in this manner - get on board folks. Leave that missionary, lights out, ironed sheet sex for the "happily" married couples hehehe!!! I kid...

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Chick xo!!

The tendency to go 'SAFE' after being burned...

2009-09-09T16:05:00.010-04:00

How many of us can admit that we went SAFE after being burned??? ME... see me raising my hand over here?? Yup, it's true... I went from the good-looking, crazily obsessed and over-protective guy to a chubby, safe guy... why is it always after MUCH reflection that this seems so pathetically obvious?

I even went as far as to marry Jabba The Hut.. I can say that now because I've since moved on from that minor distraction ;o) I later learned of the nick-name some friends of the family had for us as a couple 'beauty and the beast' - thankfully my ex was referred to as the latter...

Unfortunately safe isn't always BETTER. In some cases, maybe it is - perhaps going with someone who appears safe can make life easier. Maybe they are heavier set or not so easy on the eyes.. and perhaps that unconsciously puts our mind at ease for the risk of cheating - the less attractive our mate is, the less attractive they will be to others. Maybe you're shaking your head reading this now - but I'm sure, if you haven't experienced this phenomenon yourself - you can guess someone around you that has. I've known the odd guy or two who SETTLED down with the SAFE girl after being cheated on... went with the less attractive girl physically but went for the girl they felt was loyal. Knowing what I know about guys, I doubt they'd have gone that route had they not been burned first off. I know, it sounds shallow and vain - well, it kinda is... no one will admit this, but it's likely often the case after surviving a rough relationship.

I do believe you can have both, the attraction and the loyalty - a fine mix for sure - one we are all searching for. Ultimately if you're happy that's all that matters... I just think defense mechanisms tend to kick in when choosing a partner after a burn-experience.

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Chick xo!!

Do men only get married for pussy???

2009-09-04T11:18:00.009-04:00

So, apparently this is true in MANY M-A-N-Y cases of marriage. This is a very common theme as to WHY a guy will propose and marry a woman - so that he doesn't have to 'do the work' anymore to get pussy. Sounds a little f.cked up eh? But - if guys are honest - I'll bet you, that this is true for most.

It's much easier for a girl to go out and get laid than it is for a guy. Guy's usually have to work for it - play the game - put in their time - to even have the potential to get some action. Once in a relationship - guys don't forget what it felt like to previously go without - and a motivating factor to 'hang on' or commit to a girl via marriage - is to have guaranteed pussy. So ladies, just when you think your guy is a romantic, is deeply in love with you or that he's your soul mate... consider this, that ring on your finger... is similar to a regularly-redeemable-lap dance ;o) It was likely purchased with your pussy in mind - not just your MIND... Most guys won't man-up and admit it - but ask other guys - they know better...

Megan Fox was recently quoted saying "Women hold the power because we have vagina's. If you're in a heterosexual relationship and you're a female, you win." And most of the time - this is true. Unless you are like me... the rare breed of cock-whipped-females out there - If all it took was to put a ring on it - I would!!!!! And you'd better believe that a commitment like that DOES and SHOULD come with expectations of a healthy sex life ;o)

As highly reported, sex often dwindles after marriage - but these guys can still likely get action easier from their wives than they can from anyone else - so they stay, and they hope they'll get laid every once in a while... sad huh? I've been on that side of a marriage - wanting sex with no desire from my husband coming my way.. it sucks, and it was a BIG factor that ended that situation.

So, shocked as I was to hear that most men are heavily motivated to marry for pussy - I guess it's probably true. So much for true love, fireworks and all that jazz huh....

Oh well - if you're like me, you still think that the HAVE IT ALL situation DOES exist... If you're married I hope you're getting laid, if you're single - make sure the one you eventually commit to loves sex... good luck to us all!!

Cheers,

Chick xo

My thoughts on masturbating...

2009-08-31T12:43:00.013-04:00

So, we all do it.. and anyone who says they don't do it are either extremely repressed or lying - more than likely it's the latter ;o) I think masturbating is fantastic - it's healthy, it feels good - no one gets hurt and it's reliably satisfying!! So long as masturbation doesn't REPLACE your sex life it's all good..

I know I'm not the only one who has done the deed in spaces other than my bedroom. Anyone else take it into the bathroom stall at work? At your desk maybe - *blush* - in your car - on a boat down below while everyone else thinks you're changing hehe! I'm sure tons of us have done it in bed while our partner slept.. There are times when I get so greedy I'll play even after an intense round of sex with my partner - when on a roll why stop the game?!??

Subjects of my masturbation fantasies vary. Anything from the simple images from watching porn, to staring at my partner's body or imagining it, to fantasizing about encounters with multiple men... ahhhh the list goes on. What is fairly consistent though, is that when I do masturbate - I've got that goal of cumming in mind and I can get there pretty quickly if I want to ;o) Sometimes, once isn't enough either... I'm capable of getting there when I need to ;o)

My favourite means of pleasuring myself is circular motions with my moistened fingertips. Many women prefer vibrators - I've got my share of toys but they never seem to measure up to the feeling of real, warm skin on skin play ;o) In a pinch tho, I'm able to take myself over the edge fully clothed - with the right amount of stimulation of course hehe! I like my scent, I like my taste - I like to play and I KNOW I'm not alone... Afterall, if we can't enjoy ourselves fully how is anyone else gonna be expected to do it? Lucky for me, masturbating doesn't take anything away from sex with my partner - in fact the more I cum - the more I WANT to cum - so it only benefits him ;o) Every now and again I'll with hold - and by the time I get to cum the ramp up is intense!! You can also consider throwing a little self-pleasure into your sex play - doesn't the thought of watching your partner touch themselves turn you on??? EXACTLY!!!!

Hope you enjoyed this as much as I (often) do hehe!!

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Chick xo!!

The perfect tease...

2009-08-19T16:04:00.007-04:00

I have to share one of my favourite bedroom ‘themes’.. and that’s THE BIG TEASE. Now, most of us are fully aware of the ‘pre-bedroom-tease’ games. Maybe a low cut blouse, short skirt, maybe he’s freshly shaven, is wearing cologne – all of the many ways in which we lure our partner into further contact.

My partner knows I’m always OVERLY eager to get him naked and POUNCE!!!!! Every now and again I like to throw a loop into the mix and tell him I could go without... That’s when I’ll kiss him a bit... gently touch him... but make sure it’s in his head I could wait until another time to hit the sheets with him... If you’re a ‘GIVE-IT-UP-ER’ like me, this little ditty is bound to raise the eyebrow... Suddenly he thinks, ooh, a challenge – make her want it – and the game is on!!

Surely enough, I let him TALK me into it... NOW THIS is where you perfect your teasing. It’s all about timing, pressure and taking control!! This applies to all aspects, from kissing lightly until you can tell he wants MORE... to oral sex where you barely allow your tongue to touch just under his tip (mmmm!!) – feather light touches make anyone’s desire overflow – and at just the moment when they can’t take it anymore – TAKE HIM DOWN ;o) Just when he thinks he’s finally gotten what he wants – slow it up again and tease all over... the more you tease the more intense the final results will be. I like to continue to play this game when I’m on top too. Ever so gently gliding myself on him.... just barely moistening the tip.. tease, tease, tease... pause... then FULL entry!!!!! A few good grinds then back to the tip-tease ;o) Ohhhhh that game is such fun!!! And payback – HEAVENLY!!! Be aware that by the time he flips you over or gets on top of you – the punishing penetration for teasing him may be EXACTLY what the good little kitty wants ;o) MEOW~~~

You wanna get into it more? Feathers, light blowing on wet surfaces, touching yourself before you let him touch you.... you catch my drift ;o)

Tease, please and have yourself a wickedly tantalizing time!!

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Chick xo

What men want women to know....

2009-07-19T10:02:00.006-04:00

I was reading an article about amazing husbands or something like that and one of the sections identified what the men wanted women to know about MEN... I thought these points were vital!

What he wants women to know about men:

"We're different than you! Also, I think it's important to realize that marriage won't change a person. You're marrying the man in front of you, so make sure you can accept him as he is."

~SO TRUE!!!!! Side note here: After watching ‘Bride Wars’ last night I can sure tell ya that there are WAYYYY too many women who get caught up in the wedding and don’t realize that’s the START not the PURPOSE. Weddings last a day, marriages are meant to be for a lifetime.. Whether dating or marrying – never be out to change someone – would you want them to change you???

"We're not really that complicated, so you don't need to overanalyze us. There aren't usually five meanings behind everything we say. We're pretty straight-forward."

~I am so freaking guilty of this one – women think about 10 different things at once on a dull day – it’s easy to fall into over-analyzation mode!!

"I can't speak for all men, but for me, the small gestures, like a 'thanks' or a hug, are significant. They're simple reminders that I'm appreciated and loved."

~This one goes for women too – everyone likes to feel appreciated – and it’s the little gestures that count!

"We can't read minds. We're simple creatures, and we need to be told what to do. If there's something that needs to be done, just tell us!"

~You see, EVERYONE knows that no one can READ MINDS but sometimes I am sure we expect that without even realizing it... so, definitely a good point to consider ;o) I know I’m not the only one who has thought ‘can’t you SEE what I mean?!’ but NO, he can’t – he’s not YOU!! Oh yeah.... (insert red face here)...

"The stereotype that men only want one thing — and I think you know what that is! — isn't always true,"
Okay, well, all but that last one – I mean c’mon..... who is he trying to convince?? Probably buttering up his lady love so he WILL get some more action lol!

I think the truth in that tip is that men don't only want one thing - they want oral sex too lmao!!!! I can safely say that because I am wired like a fella in that dept ;o)

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Cheers!!

Chick xo

Playful sex.... taking the reigns...

2009-07-17T09:22:00.007-04:00

Isn't it fun to shed the 'work/parent' mode once in a while and bring out the sexually charged playful side?? To get to that place where you don't think about the project you have to work on tomorrow, or cleaning up after the kids - that place where your mind is taken over by the playmate in you ;o)

Even without the final sex act in mind.. I just love to tease and be playful and giggle and touch.. whisper in my fella's ear - naughty little tid bits that ever-so-often cross my dirty little mind ;o) Being at ease with flirting - it's all about the flirt - being playful with your partner is guaranteed fun - and if you do it well - a guaranteed score lol!!

This is what happens when you allow your mind to be clear - which it should be - in those intimate moments. After all, when your mind is clouded by other things you really aren't THERE for your partner or yourself... I'm sure we can all vouch for that! We all have stresses in our lives but if you're going to indulge in having sex, do yourself a favour, regardless of what else is happening in your life, clear your mind and let the sparks fly!!

If you've read this blog before you'll know I feel routine sex can get dull - so spice it up and keep it interesting - you'll both benefit from this. The best orgasms come from places where you hold no inhibitions. Sometimes that means you take control of how the session goes - push him down, do what you want to do to him... and other times, let him take the reigns ;o) Believe that you are sexy and you'll both get off a lot more intensely ;o) Or even better, have sex come out of nowhere - on a night where you weren't 'planning' for it - and it just suddenly comes over you.

Everyone likes it when their partner pursues them - who doesn't want to feel wanted right???? Now, how you go about it has a lot to do with the response you'll get - I mean, don't grab your partner right after their work is done for the day - allow for some 'chill' time - then go for it!! You'd be amazed how a little back rub can turn into a night of pleasure!!!

Keep it kinky!! Go out of your comfort zone or routine and be spontaneous once in a while - you'll find you end up playing on a whole other level and I know you'll like it!!

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Chick xo

Cut or Uncut - my preference.........

2009-07-06T11:55:00.016-04:00

I consider myself somewhat of a penis connoisseur ;o) And I know what I like. First of all unless a guy is unhygienic, penis is penis and it's ALL GOOD ;o) It seems that everyone has an opinion when it comes to circumcised vs uncircumcised. Now, I'm not going to delve into the medical mumbo-jumbo on this one - my point of view is simply regarding sex and attraction when it comes to a cut vs uncut fella...

I honestly can't believe people who have predisposed judgements when it comes to what TYPE of cock they prefer. I mean, all Va-jay-jay's certainly don't look the same now do they?? And overall, once you're having sex.. it ALL feels good - I mean, unless a guy is 2" long or a woman is so loose you'd get more sensation from a bucket of hot water.. on looks alone, the cock/pussy connection is always a good thing!!

I suppose we can all have our ideals - Personally, one of the highlights of foreplay for me is putting my lips around the forskin on the tip and using my lips and tongue to work it back over the tip.. knowing I'm the one exposing that sensation is such a turn on!!! There is definitely a whole WORLD of sensitivity on an uncircumcised guy that a circumcised fella will just never truly be privy to. It's natural, and I even get worked up just thinking about it... It's the sexy hoddie that ever-so-thinly keeps my favourite fuck toy wrapped up - I admit it, I love that outline - and it makes me want to unwrap it with animalistic urges ;o) (it's getting HOT in here!!!!).

Now, I have had the unfortunate experience with some not so fantastic peens too. I am not a huge fan of a guy who'se foreskin doesn't go back when he's erect. I mean, the tip is such a kinky part of the penis - having that hidden during sex it's like... well, like you're missing something!?! I also think a lot of women THINK they prefer a circumcised cock for hygiene reasons alone. Well ladies, cut or uncut an unhygienic peen is NEVER appealing. So, as long as it's clean (as us chicks should be too!!!) once hard, cut or uncut doesn't make much of a difference to look at. Having had sex with both cut and uncut guys I am of the belief that the sensitivity level of an uncut cock trumps that of their cut comrades. For any girl who doesn't like the look of an uncut penis, I sure hope they've taken a look at the bacon sandwich between their own legs lol!!! Looks can be deceiving ;o) All that matters, is that it FEELS GOOD!!!!

There is also a myth that the added sensitivity to an uncut fella means they won't last as long in bed. Ummmm.... how do I say this.... NOT TRUE!!!! Lasting is all based on control - having hold-back control is individually based and doesn't have anything to do with being cut or uncut. I'll never forget the 'cut' guy who came in his shorts when I kissed him - he certainly doesn't measure up to the guy who waits for my O's to hit double digits before he considers finishing ;o) I find that the exposure of a cut penis can make for a tip with somewhat less intensity.. constant exposure will do that.

So, for anyone fearing the hoddie fella - I hope I've opened your eyes... If you like the guy and the sex is good that's ALL that should matter - identifying who you'll date based on being cut or uncut is vain if you ask me.

Think what you will, the only facts that matter to me are the ones that get me off in the bedroom ;o)

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Chick

My personal man turn offs....

2009-07-04T09:01:00.035-04:00

K, so here goes... things that I commonly find cause a gag reflex when it comes to some guys... In no particular order ;o) CHEAPNESS - that has GOT to be one of the biggest turn offs. Now, I'm not talking about wanting a guy who flaunts money - I'm ALL for a good bargain. I'm talking about guys who avoid picking up the cheque - or who don't bring a bottle of wine when invited to a dinner party - guys who never consider picking a little something up for their lady (and the same should be expected in reverse fellas!). The person who won't leave a half decent tip.. that sorta thing.

FACIAL HAIR that's another one of my 'icks'. Now, I don't mind the guy who wears facial hair and is committed to taming the beast - some guys can carry off facial hair when it's well kept - and by well kept - I mean minimal!! Ya know, that scruff that's 'in' right now - I'm on the fence over that one but as for a turn off - it's for the guys who wear the furry moustaches, beards, goatees - (insert fake puke face here) yeah, it's gross! Not only is it distracting when you are kissing - but who wants to kiss hair in the first place?!?!? ANYWHERE for that matter ;o) (nudge, nudge - wink, wink!!).

Another turn off is guys who are KNOW-IT-ALL's or UPPITY - Phaleeze!!! Who has time for that?? You know the ones, the guys who talk OVER you not TO you - who are more into hearing their own voice than that of others. The guy who ALWAYS has an opinion and deems himself an expert in the area. Yeah, those guys... the ones who induce internal eye-rolling.. the guys who NEED to be the centre of attention wherever they go. The ones who buy all the drinks just to SAY that they did. The guy who WANTS you to be well aware of what label he's wearing - ick. Just plain ick!

This blends well with guys who are ignorant, rude or demeaning towards others. NOTHING could be a bigger turn off - even bad breath is better than this! I have no time for people who are out to make others feel LESS THAN. You know them, the guy who treats the waitress like she should be kissing his a$$ or takes issue with people who have different lifestyles than they do.. etc.. This is the guy who's always shouting at other drivers in traffic - pathetic.

What else grosses me out? SLOBS.. people who don't care what they look like - who wear clothes with 'unintended holes' in them - who really don't give a shit what they look like going out the door. Who are not out to take care of themselves or their things. After all, if you don't care about yourself you'll likely carry the same lack of effort into a relationship. This category also includes the unhygienic type. I use to work with a guy who had these yellow pit-stains on every dress shirt he owned - the thought still turns my stomach to this day. You can also have a perfectly dressed fella, looks very well taken care of - but when you get him naked - LOOK OUT - no one wants to deal with a cheesy peen or hairy ball odour.. hurl!!

And how about the commitment-phobes? The guys who just won't jump in with both feet - always keeping the door slightly ajar?! You know them.. the ones who introduce you as their 'FRIEND' even tho they reap from all of the boyfriendly-benefits.. The guy who doesn't introduce you to his family or shelters you from seeing what he's like with his buddies. The guy who doesn't let you into his whole life - keeps you at arms length. The one who wants to have his cake and eat it too.

I may hear backlash from this turn off - but it's a BIG one for A LOT of ladies. And that is GAMERS.. yep, the grown men who are still buying the latest video games. Seriously??? WTF? Now, I'll admit to enjoying the initial fun of Guitar Hero one Christmas Holiday - but I wasn't out buying accessories or trying to 'beat the game' or whatever?!? I mean, some of these people have actual HEAD GEAR and spend a LOT of money on video games - not to mention how time consuming it is. So fellas, if you are a gamer - and not having so much luck with the ladies - perhaps it's time to change up the hobbies just a bit... Leave the games to the kids ;o)

And... last but not least, people who are FAKE. The ones who are out to impress you for the first 3 months then drop the ball completely. Or the ones who act one way to your face, and change the moment you are gone. This includes players, who act like the perfect boyfriend when they are with you but have a lot going on behind the scenes. There would be nothing worse than getting duped by someone who plays the FAKE game.

So, those are some of MY turn-offs - Yup, I'd much rather deal with something stuck in their teeth, or bad breath over these... Vote on the poll above, share your turn offs at chicktidbits@live.ca or comment below.

If you've managed to wrangle a partner who is turn-off-free - hold on tight!!

Cheers!!

Chick xo!!

What I've learned from my build up sex experiences...

2009-06-29T11:57:00.015-04:00

So, recently I tested myself with playing the ~waiting game~ for sex. Instead of everyday - I decided to challenge and *TOY* with myself and waited a whole 4 days for sex... no masterbating... I wanted to see how CRAZY I could drive myself and my man ;o)

Now, I know for a guy... build up creates HUGE urges... and once those urges are released.. LOOK OUT!!! I think the old saying 'the more the merrier' applies here doesn't it fellas??? So, I was curious to see if the same would be true for me - I can't say it's the same for all women as I don't seem to think like most gals - or so I'm told ;o) I did know that by day 4 my man was extra attentive and EXTRA HUNGRY!!! ;o) I kept teasing him that he LOVED me so much more when he had a LOADED GUN hehe!! And by the time we FINALLY got down to it... I could have easily confused him with granite ;o) Yummmmmm....

Without doubt I was also ON FIRE when it came to the intensity and excitement. As much as I tried to force the big O away - in anticipation - driving myself even CRAZIER - I couldn't... I think that was record breaking cum time for me ;o) And I couldn't help myself - greedy biotch that I am hehe!! Lucky for me I can catch that ride multiple times during a session.. BUT, what I DID find was that in the LONG DAYS building up to the final frontier - the more I got away from it the less my urges were... I mean, I'm a sexually charged girl and it's never far from my mind - but I am MUCH more insanely horny when I can have sex everyday - or at the least, every other day!!!!! For whatever reason, when I HAVE IT MORE... it makes me WANT IT MORE!! Apparently my gun is perma-loaded when it comes to desire ;o)

Have you tried this experiment before??? What did you prefer... build up?? More regular release?? Or maybe what I want to know - is what kept the intensity of your horniness going - waiting for it or getting it?? My vote is simple... I want it, and I want it NOW... screw the build up I've got an O to get to ;o)

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Cheers!!

Chick xo

Patience.. build up.. horny...

2009-06-24T09:39:00.009-04:00

Let's talk about keeping things fun, playful, spicy!! Remember when you first met - you likely didn't see one another every day right at the start.. The moments when you DID meet up, things felt irresistible, insatiable and you HAD to have each other!!! I think, if you like sex it's easy to keep the fires a' burnin'.. However, in order to keep 'routine' from cooling things off - consider ways to make things playful and stimulating..

Even the sex addicted couples can fall into quantity vs quality in the bedroom. I say, MIX IT UP!!! And this is coming from a gal who's ideal would be twice a day - EVERYDAY!!! What can I say, I know what I like ;o) One of the things I sometimes like to do is create a little build up. I'm NOT talking more than a week - because a day off is a BREAK to me ugh! This advice isn't for those who 'maybe' have sex once a week or less - if you're in that predicament then you've gotta take WHATEVER you can get!! I'm talking about the couples who are in sync - who still love having sex together but who like to create the fun - foreplay - build up.

Think about it in advance - a night when you have no other plans but to be with your partner. If you usually have sex every 2 or 3 days - wait it out for say, day 5... Here's the key - in the days between - keep the flirty play in high gear ;o) THIS is when it gets to be ultra kinky and super fun!! Ever have teasing playfulness during foreplay?? - the build up can make your session insanely exciting!! So imagine filling that cup of ~cock teasin'~ to the brim - it's sure to make the level of release CRAZZZY!!

Keeping things in the bedroom fun and playful is sure to enhance the spice!!! Little things like this shouldn't feel like a grandiose effort - both people should want to participate in the excitement factor - never let complacency take over ;o)

What's your take? Vote on the poll above, comment, subscribe, email me at chicktidbits@live.ca and come back often!! Here's to build up - sometimes - cuz' other times, ya just wanna get some ;o)

Cheers!!

Chick xo

Visually stimulating... Position chit chat...

2009-06-20T09:51:00.024-04:00

I recently saw this picture of Bruce Willis - yes, I said Bruce Willis -
Now, let me clarify, he's "never" been one to turn my crank but what I LOVED about this shot was how his hand was gripped onto her hip bone. It just reminded me of how much I love that grab'n'push motion when I'm on top. So in my books, it was hawt!!!

I realize I'm a whole lot more of a 'visual' creature than most other females in this galaxy - but hey, whatever turns my crank ;o) So yeah, those soap operas never worked for me - I'd rather pay to see the movies with the money shots at the end tee hee!! There's something so kinky about fleeting images that can summon the most delicious tingles when you least expect it yummmie!! I love it when I catch an image that instantly turns me on - who doesn't?!?

Surprisingly enough it doesn't ALWAYS have to be a sexually explicit photo either. It can be a kinky look in the eyes, etc.. body language has SO much to do with visual stimulation.

What seems commonplace in the photos I've chosen however, is they all identify sexual positions. And, positions that I quite enjoy!! Maybe that's the trick, these photos trigger something in my mind that reminds my body of what I LIKE ;o)

What does it for you?? Some people like less 'evident' pictures leaving most to the imagination.. if you're like me - you want to get to the good stuff hehe! Which embarks on another topic thought altogether, ever do any kinky self portraits? Hmmm.... where's my camera ;o)

Let me know... am I alone in my visual stimulating world here??? Is it a guy thing?? Lordy! I must be in my prime - that's the only excuse lol! Vote on the poll, email me your topic suggestions or questions chicktidbits@live.ca subscribe, comment & come back often!!
Happy viewing my furry friends ;o)

Cheers!

Chick xo

Boobies ( o )( o )

2009-06-17T11:52:00.006-04:00

Everyone has their own feelings about boobies... what they like and what they don't like. There seems to be a lot more detailed discussion about a woman's breasts vs say.. a guy's schlong. I mean, there are a variety of 'looks' for all body types right - boobies, however seem to invoke attention ;o)

Even tho I am a girl I have a 'type' of boob that I find sexy too. I am NOT a fan of the fake breast - it's too well, FAKE. I find it to be distracting - too round, too perky.. too unreal looking. Instead of getting turned on about looking at a pair of tits I find I'm thinking "those are so fake" and it's distracting from what SHOULD be enticing. Nevermind the botch jobs you can see on some pornos.. the scar marks, the shaking boobies that you can SEE the silicone bag through.. not purdy! On the other side I am not always a fan of the natural boob either tho. I am not a fan of the flat chested tops at all. There HAS to be more there than a nipple for cryin' out loud!! Give me a curvy chick to watch anyday over a skinny, deflated flat top. I think the saying is true... "more than a handful is a waste"... but a handful is ALL GOOD!!!

So yeah, I can definitely say I find a sexy pair of tits on a chick to be a turn on. I like real boobies, with toonie sized nips - bouncy, juicy boobies - I'm like a guy that way, lol!! I guess cuz' I don't mind my own hooters that I tend to lean towards similar ones that I like to watch. If I'm gonna invest my precious time on viewing porn I want to see boobies that I enjoy looking at ;o) I've inserted a pic of some drool worthy boobies that I thought were sexy...

Bras can also throw a loop into things here... There are some kick-ass bras out there these days - ones that can make your boobs look MUCH more appetizing than they really may be. A little advice ladies, don't over-pad those bras cuz' the LAST thing you want is a guy unwrapping you and being disappointed. Bras do offer great lift though.. I even wear a bra to bed to keep the girls in check. Gravity won't win if i have anything to say about it lmao!!

What's your take on boobies...??? Is it the best feature on a woman in your opinion? Do you prefer tiny boobies on a skinny frame, curvy boobies on a curvy frame.. Let's here it. Post a comment here, vote on the poll, subscribe, come back often or email me your topic suggestions/thoughts to chicktidbits@live.ca

Happy boobie watching to ya!

Cheers,

Chick xo

There is no "i" in TEAM but there is an M and E

2009-06-09T21:17:00.013-04:00

Plus, the letters in TEAM can also spell ME... EAT... MEAT... lol! How ironic ...purrrrr!!! So today my feathered friends I share one of my many tawdry fantasies - the team event!! Am I the only one who has imagined being the towel girl in a locker room?! - Okay, MAYBE lol!! Being the focal point in a room of sweaty fellas just aching to corrupt me.. Oh, it's one of my most delicious desires ;o)

Part of me pictures the ravenous wolves who would take me over with throbbing intensity. All vying for the sensation only I can give, in a room that drips with heat where the only focus is to be filthier & nastier than the last.. Ohh, sorry - too much too soon?! Just be glad I leave out the mind numbing (leg shaking) details on this blog hehehe!! (and i do!)...

The other team fantasy scenario is the craving to be in total control of the fellas ;o) A room full of animals who have to follow MY rules.. my requests.. my desires.. Just using the crowd to please me. Truth be told, the mental images I find exciting never really focus on the 'others'... It's just a haze of naked, and very EXCITED men... ready to go... with me ;o) And doing so, while I stare deeply into the eyes of my own man, letting him watch what he KNOWS I can dish... - Should I be blushing at this point, maybe - but I can't seem to get the devilish grin off of my face with this topic...

The variations are many... sometimes it's a locker room, the showers, on the bench, on a boat, in the bathroom of a dark bar... The options are endless.. being held up against the wall, focusing on one or focusing on many... having every opening indulged, DP's (who doesn't love a DP image?!?)... lining them up and taking them down... It's a fantasy peeps - it's supposed to be outrageous ;o)

Ahhhhhh, blame the Stanley Cup playoffs for inspiring this one tonight - either that or the hot heads (I kill me!!)... Maybe this post will inspire a few dirty thoughts - that's what fantasy fun is all about folks ;o)

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Cheers!!

Chick xo

Peen-eye!!!

2009-06-08T15:50:00.009-04:00

Okay, I can admit it... I am a big fan of the purple eye of man!!! Yup... in all it's splendor ;o) From chode to tip and EVERYTHING in between. I am of the few female creatures for whom visual stimulation is likely as tantalizing as it is for my male counterparts. I like the package - (preferable pronunciation with a kinky smirk on your face is PUCK-UHH-JUHH lol!!). The MEAT...and potatoes hehe!

If it's on display, my eyes are glued!! In any form, au natural prior to excitement, dripping after a shower, sweaty after a hockey game, waterlogged after wakeboarding ;o) , raring to go & full of juice, still solid after explosion, and one of my fav's is the tease of the outline under a pair of undies, it's like Christmas morning and the best gift is still wrapped just waiting to be torn open!!! ~ yep, my secret is out ~ I am weak to the peen ;o)

Now, I'm not as much of a raving lunatic as some may think... I do have standards and it is true, there are some not so pretty peens out there too! You know the ones, foreskins that would make George of the Jungle swing through the trees with the greatest of ease ;o) Bushes that best belong in the amazon. Of course anything smelly or small is a no no... 6" and up please - yes... you must be -----THIS LONG----- to go on this ride fellas!!

I just find that I am the only one of the girls I know who really ENJOYS the peen. I like to feel my tongue over every inch of it.. I like to tease it.. to smell it.. to taste it.. to jerk it.. to play with it.. and most of all to ADORE it!!! I don't have one, so I make the most of the ones I come into contact with hehe!!

Fellas does your woman's eyes go south of the boarder when you are naked around her??? Does she fawn over your schlong??? Or maybe ask yourself, does she get stirred up at the thought of your man meat the way you get a rise out of just picturing her pink parts?? I wonder...

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Cheers

Chick xo!!

Fucking vs. soul sharing....or maybe BOTH!!!

2009-05-22T10:23:00.010-04:00

I believe there are two general ways to have sex... 1. is fucking and 2. is soul sharing/love making... Clearly the latter describes someone you are deeply connected to and the emotions are so intense that the physical act of sex is merely reactionary to your feelings. Fucking is a little more obvious - it's raw - it's kinky - it's a basic animalistic urge... It's about getting OFF!!! ;o)

So look upon your sexual experiences past. I'll bet there was likely more fucking than love making no? Perhaps you didn't know it in the moment but looking back I'll bet most of us can admit that. I figure it all depends on whether love or being horny is affecting your brain at that particular moment. I know some of us have been guilty of letting our cravings affect our decisions too lol! (Admit it, I'm not alone!!!!!!)

What is ideal however, is when you find a partner who will indulge in the full spectrum with you. One who will love you when you need to feel loved and fuck you when you need to get fucked ;o) If you are lucky enough to have a multi-skilled partner you will find you CAN have both facets in one session - which of course is complete utopia!!! You'll know it when you have it. The tenderness that comes from the soft kisses, slow caresses, loving eye contact and gentle grinds... That's the meaningfulness of soul sharing or love making. I like to start off that way (sometimes) but the tables tend to turn when the excitement in my body takes over... Then it's time for fucking ;o) Taking your partner on with no remorse, no mercy just hard core. Switching up positions, sweat dripping all over your bodies, no inhibitions just crazy stuff!!

I have enjoyed and experienced both. Some partners got to see one side of me more than another. The fine mix comes with the partners who you can do both with. Share love, fantasy, kink and passion with. I think you can truly only fully enjoy both when you are with someone who you completely feel safe with - you can't really give your ALL otherwise.

Run along, fuck, make love... go for gold and play both sides ;o) When sex is fun and loving it's the best of both worlds!!

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Cheers my furry friends xo!

Chick

The two sides of jealousy...

2009-05-13T10:34:00.008-04:00

I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying ‘jealousy is a wasted emotion’... well, maybe – but it certainly IS a powerful one when it is present. Some people pay no attention to jealousy and never seem to feel it themselves. If you are one of those people, consider yourself lucky but keep reading – as you are likely the minority and if you’ve had any relationship experience you have probably encountered jealousy even if that emotion isn’t initiated by your own feelings.

I take ownership of the fact that I have jealous tendencies. Even my astrological sign of Taurus suggests I am the jealous type – yeah, sometimes. I believe there are several things that fuel jealousy. Jealousy is ultimately stemmed from passion – passion for another person – raised emotions – fear – insecurity – longing – anxiety – low self esteem... Yes, all of these are true. I believe jealousy can also be a situational result.. in other words, an effect that can be triggered or has an initial cause. For me, jealousy comes out of the protective nature I have towards someone I care immensely for. It comes from the fear that something could ever take that away from me. It’s that sense of waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you’ve had bad relationships before and then find someone you feel is amazing, fear of losing them can overwhelm any rational thought. OR, if you are like me and have previously experienced a great loss – you may be able to relate to the anxiety that goes along with losing those you are closest with – because you already know how crippling that pain can be.

The jealous kind are seeking reassurance.. Even if you have jealous tendencies, I believe if you are in a happy situation that will ultimately prevail and give you the confidence and security to overpower any jealous fears. Even the best of relationships can face situational jealousy. I always say, one of the best ways to think about your partner is to always aim to make them feel like the most important person in the room – in your life. The reason why I feel there are two sides to jealousy is that most jealousy does not evolve from nothing. If you know your partner is the jealous type are you willing to invest in reassuring them? If so, are you doing all that you can to alleviate the fear? Do you build them up and make them feel strong and confident with you? On the other hand, if you are the jealous one can you own up to that? Do you know how to take a step back and pull yourself out of the disaster thinking? Are you willing to be open about your feelings with your partner so that you can understand and appreciate each other’s needs? If you can work together, then you are ahead of the game.

Jealousy can bring a lot of tension to a relationship. One side fears a broken heart and the other side feels untrustworthy... If the couple can recognize that neither of these two views are true then that is the beginning of working together to stay strong. Ultimately taking the position that you want to be supportive of one another and loving to each other should take precedence over taking a defensive stance. Focus on what is helpful, on what will make you stronger and maybe jealousy will be kept at bay.

Never take what you have for granted, tomorrow is not as important as now. Vote on the poll, email me your suggestions for topics or questions to chicktidbits@live.ca comment, subscribe and come back often!!

Cheers....
C xo

Online dating... how to get started

2009-05-04T09:49:00.010-04:00

Setting things up...

Before you begin, I suggest you create a new email address – one that protects your anonymity and gives you control. This is a safeguard to keep your regular email address safe from creepies that you may not want contacting you.

Rule number one – do NOT give out any personal information right away.

Chances are you will have to pick a nickname or ‘login name’ for your dating site – take a moment when considering this – (as stated before, do not give out your name yet) what will your nickname SAY about you?? After all don’t pick ‘busty Betsy’ if you aren’t so busty – if you falsely represent yourself you only set yourself up for failure... Not to mention if you care about who you are to attract and what characteristics they will decipher from your portfolio. Don’t pick “lonely heart” if you don’t want to come across as desperate. Try to keep it light – maybe consider what your hobbies are – like “Hockey girl” for example.. that can also make for a great starting conversation maker when you are contacted by someone.

Clarify what you are looking for up front – if you want something with long term potential say so, if you are looking to casually start dating again – again – be upfront.. State some of your basic likes and dislikes when it comes to dating & relationships. You may value loyalty, you may prefer a non-smoker..

List your hobbies... things you enjoy doing on a date maybe... your idea of fun!!

Most dating sites will tell you that posting a picture will generate a lot more responses. I say, go for no photo at first and see how that goes. Maybe once you have comfortably established some chat with another person you can specifically send them your photo without having it out for public display.

If you are comfortable going the photo displayed route then ensure you are using an accurate depiction that is CURRENT. Thing is, you should expect the same in return as well. I once heard a suggestion where you have the person hold up today’s paper when sending you a photo of themselves lol!! That’s not that bad of an idea!

Now, before you go on chatting with just anyone through email or messenger or the dating site’s chat function – take a look into THEIR profile. Make sure this is someone you want to strike up a conversation with – don’t waste anyone’s time and expect the same in return.

Now, what I believe is the KEY to online dating success – is being able to ‘chat/type’ the same way you would actually ‘speak’ if the person was in front of you. It always amazes me how often people who I know are very social and fun can come across as daft during a messenger conversation lol!! Try not to only give one word answers – have some questions that you’d like to ask. Toss the nerves aside, the benefit of online dating/chatting initially is that you remain somewhat anonymous... you don’t even have to worry about what you look like unless you venture into video chat ;o) (if you are on webcam chat.. make sure you’re presentable)...

Chatting through online dating can give you a lot of information in a short amount of time. This is a bonus as it saves people from wasting time if they discover something they aren’t keen on about the other person. It also can make you feel less inhibited to talk about things. On a real date there are always distractions – online the focus is the conversation and whether or not you feel the ‘click’.

When you feel comfortable meeting in person, do so in a public place during daytime hours if at all possible. Provide your own transportation initially as well.. have a friend check in on you at some point during the meet (maybe they can send you a text) in case you require an ‘out’. These are standard concepts when meeting a new person anyway... hopefully the person you were chatting with online turns out to be an honest representation of themselves. There are always people out there who have used photos from their ‘better days’ or who haven’t been completely honest with their relationship status, etc, etc... just be aware before you dive right in.

So keep that initial meeting short – coffee or a drink – not dinner. If all goes well, dinner can be next time. If what you are looking for is something casual and you wish to take things to another level – just be safe – going anywhere alone with a stranger poses threats – keep yourself protected at all times and in all ways ;o) Even if you use a reputable dating service you never truly know the person you are meeting initially so be smart.

Online dating can be a great way to branch out and it no longer holds the stigmas it once did. There are likely more couples meeting online as there are in bars now-a-days. Plus, you’ll likely know a lot more about the person you are meeting face to face then you ever could find out from someone you meet in a bar.

Sharpen up those typing skills – and open the door to the online possibilities!!!

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Cheers!!

Chick xo

Aggressive sex....

2009-04-25T10:05:00.005-04:00

I’ve gotta admit – the thought of kinky, fun & playfully aggressive sex is a HUGE turn on! This isn’t an everyday occurrence but it’s for those times when the HUNTRESS in me has adrenaline running through my veins. I know what I want and I know how to get it – and sometimes I want more than that!! If you have a willing partner it can be very kinky & exciting to unleash some scratch marks down the back or smacks of the ass ;o)

I would only advise this type of play when both parties find it kinky and fun and more importantly, when there is a LOT of trust and comfort already established. The intent is never demeaning or hurtful – it’s like play-wrestling for example, you kinda want to egg your partner on and see who can end up taking control. (side note: some of the hottest sex can come out of play wrestling lol!!)...

Now, if you’ve never “played” this way before you may want to ‘build it up’ before you completely unleash on your partner. After all, you want them to play along here. Start off with some less obvious moves – nibbles that gradually increase in pressure, light dragging of nails down the back, a firm squeeze of the butt cheeks... If all goes well in time, see how adding more to your repertoire goes. Nipple pinching, ass smacks that leave a good mark, a slight squeeze with your hands around their neck, hair pulling – ohhhh the list goes on!!! Everything in moderation though and the focus is on PLEASURE. The point of invoking aggression into your sex play is to heighten the level of intensity – the passion – the FIRE!!

Most guys would probably say they’d like a girl to be aggressive from time to time in the bedroom. I mean, who doesn’t want to feel like their partner wants to f.ck the shit out of them sometimes?! – Isn’t that the ultimate compliment (oh... okay, maybe it’s just me hehe!).. The reverse is usually true as well – taking turns with the aggressive play is ideal!! Sometimes feeling overpowered and submissive can give you the feeling of being completely TAKEN ;o) There is a level of kinky play here that definitely gets the blood pumping – among other things!!

As much as I love the naughty play (a.k.a. an intense f.ck session ~MEOW~) I will be the first to admit that I wouldn’t want that ALL the time – After all, anything that becomes ‘routine or regular’ defeats the purpose of having those spicy times come into play. Mix it up – sex is so much more intensely fun when you aren’t quite sure how crazzzzzy it’s gonna get ;o)

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Cheers xo!!
Chick

Social networking sites... make cheating easy

2009-04-17T12:17:00.010-04:00

My motto for Facebook... “Facebook is for stalkers.” Think about it, it’s true. I would venture to guess the MAJORITY of people on these social networking sites are looking to flirt or hook up, not the minority. Do you really think the men on these sites are investing time to catch up with other GUYS they stopped talking to in highschool?! Trust me, most people are drawn in by the intrigue of what friend requests they may receive from the opposite sex. Sure it’s easy to convince ourselves that this is not the purpose of why WE or our PARTNERS are on these sites. It’s simple to believe that private settings mean you are protected from the hunt or being hunted - not so. Just because you know of your partner’s social networking sites and find nothing threatening – don’t be so quick to assume that is the extent of their online activity. ANYONE can create alternate email addresses or an online alias – one in which they distinguish themselves as single, available & looking to hook up.

Between Facebook, Myspace, Twitter.. and so many others – almost every single profile promotes your relationship status. Can you honestly say there is NO possibility that your partner has accounts you are unaware of? How much time does your spouse spend on the computer? Social networking is even promoted in many workplaces as a communication tool. If your partner has access to a computer at work – and who doesn’t? The door is wide open. Whereas before social networking, people might pick up on their partner spending time away from the house, etc – now it’s as easy as having a private email account – logging onto a social networking site and planning a lunchtime meet....

I always say, the more unexplained ‘outings’ your partner requires – or the late nights after work – are all MAJOR red flags!! Be aware...

These are just the regular social networking sites that can present such temptations. Nevermind the dating sites that are now available. There are even sites promoting casual encounters, no strings attached affairs, etc. Ashley Madison is specifically aimed at hooking up people who are married and wish to have an affair. For some reason so many people who find themselves initially intrigued by the attention or new conversations don’t really qualify their online ‘relationships’ as affairs. I say, anything you can’t do in front of your partner’s face – qualifies as an affair – that goes for anything you type in an email/chat too.

How to proceed if you feel there may be questionable behaviour happening in your relationship... There are certainly ways to educate yourself on how to search your computer for online sites that may have been viewed or photos that may have been looked at. Use Google to educate yourself on these techniques if you feel it might be worth a look to ease your mind – or confirm your suspicions. If it means downloading computer monitoring software – do it. If your partner is constantly viewing their blackberry for messages – even after business hours – it’s a fair scenario to ask to see for yourself if things are legit. All too many people are finding out about broken trust through their partner’s online profiles or activities. Be informed that the numbers are on the rise for people using social networking to lead double lives.

The best advice I can give is to be open about your online activities with your partner and expect the same thing in return. Be aware of work related activity on the computer as well – this is a common screen for other things. If you and your partner have nothing to hide from one another – there will be no risk of invading one another’s privacy. Conduct yourself online as if your partner was sitting right beside you... hopefully they will do you the same courtesy.

If you take the risk, prepare for the consequences. Not everyone who uses social networking sites is out to cheat – but be aware – many are and the numbers are on the rise.

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Cheers xo!

Chick

Regular reminiscing ~ a relationship tip...

2009-04-15T09:34:00.007-04:00

Ever stop and reflect upon your relationship? I happen to think that successful couples do. Not everyday, but once in a while.. thinking about the little moments you've shared - or having pause in your day to think about your main ~squeeze!!~ The secret world that only you and your partner are completely privy to.

I've heard of people who suggest remembering the things that first attracted you to your partner (usually advice given when trouble is already on the horizon)... My suggestion here is that happy couples often draw upon those shared moments because they STILL hold that level of passion. Basically, if you find yourself smiling when you reflect on your life with your partner it means you are still going strong. People who are in unhappy situations don't look back and recall the butterflies.

The moments that make you stop and smile don't have to be the whirlwind trips you took or even anything extravagant - It can be as simple as your first kiss.. A time you laughed so hard together.. How nervous you were before you met.. If you remain in a space where you couldn't imagine anyone else sharing those experiences with you, than you are likely still moving along strong!!

Remember the spice... does it still stir something inside you today? There is no reason to lose that first feeling of desire and lust. If you still want to impress one another, if you still feel the passion and excitement that drew you together in the first place - you are golden!! If you still think about your partner and want to rip their clothes off - you've GOT IT!

So take a moment, reflect, remember... do you still get tingles? ....GOOD!!!

Now run along and keep the fires a'burnin'!!!

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Cheers!!

Chick xo

Blow jobs...always essential!!!

2009-04-01T20:38:00.014-04:00

All too many times I hear about the guys who keep their fingers crossed about getting a birthday blow job.. Or the ones who were constantly blown while dating only to look back on the glory days as a faded memory after marriage. Most guys are so grateful to get the odd roll in the sheets.. that they settle for sex without oral as still being a huge achievement. WHY is it that so many women would rather skip the glory of giving a good blow job?? I don't get it?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Okay ladies, I am not oblivious here, I ~~CAN~~ appreciate that a lot of guys can literally *stink up the joint* south of the boarder. If that is the case - anyone can sympathize with not wanting to go that route. Understanding as anyone would be when faced with a cheese-curdling smell - I'd still wanna figure out a way to put my lips on his tip ;o) If you can't convince your guy to 'spruce up' before getting kinky - keep in mind that spit can work wonders!! Then toss in the commentary of how you like him well rinsed off like that - that it makes you want to stay down there even longer... or how his fresh out of the shower look makes you c.ck hungry!!! (oops.. is that kind of pillow talk only for me??)

What I don't understand is just plain ol' NOT wanting to go down on your guy?!? I mean, my motto is.. "it's not sex if there are no blow jobs" lol!!! And why is it that blow jobs (if they occur) only tend to happen at the very beginning of the 'session'??? What is so wrong with several sucks throughout??? What is so scary about going down after he's dipped into you?? If we're all in a good place regarding hygiene - it's all good - and extremely kinky!!! Plus, whatever isn't to your *taste* is made for spitting ;o)

When the scope of your bedroom play minimizes.. so does a part of your connection. The person you choose to have a relationship with should be the person you invest the most time and effort into... regarding all aspects of your life together. Unless you are having a quickie - find time to LOVE that lollipop!!!!!! Pleasing one another should be looked upon as a turn-ON not a chore.

Open wide... even if you're his bride ;o) Haven't met a guy who didn't like to be savoured... don't think yours is any different.

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Chick xo

Men complaining about their wives... and sex lives

2009-03-28T21:57:00.007-04:00

I was out & about today and stopped to grab a bite. At the table next to me were two middle aged fellas. I couldn't help but overhear their conversation.. it was crowded so they weren't being shy about their topic of choice.. wife bashing. This wasn't all encompassing wife bashing but rather, it was focused on complaining about how their wives no longer 'put out'. I think my ears naturally perk up when I hear anything regarding sex lol!! So, as I sipped on my iced tea I listened - and attempted to hide my "it's been 4 days since I got f.cked" smile ;o)

From what I could gather one guy mentioned how he never gets regular sex. How he has to WISH for it on a special occasion and even THEN it's not guaranteed. He went on to talk about how he had to make these grandiose plans to go out of town on romantic trips to get laid!!! He even mentioned having to go all the way to Vegas with his wife because the 2-hour drive to to a country resort just didn't cut it... (FYI from where I live , Vegas is a 5 hour flight). These guys sounded so defeated. I was once married to a man with a non-existent libido... I could relate.

I have a really hard time understanding why some women withhold sex??? Does it become less important to them once they have been married for a while??? I mean, if you VALUE your marriage you'll want to ensure your partner is happy in EVERY way. Why don't people see that having a 'dry spell' in a relationship is a DANGER ZONE!!!! Sending a guy, who hasn't had sex in a while, out in to the wild... is dangerous!! Someone who is hungry... sooner or later... is going to EAT!!! Take it from someone who has been there.

I often think, I want my guy to be the one who is the most satisfied in the room when he talks about me ;o) ...Oh, and he is!!! I do not want to give him reason to even consider swaying... On the other hand, I do wonder what kind of effort these guys are putting in?? I mean, sure the romantic trips are great - but are they lazy slugs on a daily basis - cuz' that's certainly NOT attractive. Connections cannot just show up on birthdays or vacations.. but if you aren't having sex allow me to enlighten you - SEE THE BIG HUGE RED FLAGS WAVING IN YOUR FACE!!!!

Who would have thought I'd end up with an earful like I did today from a quick lunch stop?! I did enjoy carrying the scenario over to my fantasy life tho.. ya know, who doesn't want to be taken on a table top in a restaurant??? Oops... did I say that out loud?!?

Be in touch with the satisfaction of your love life... be proactive... you don't want to be the topic of negative lunchtime conversations....

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Chick

Sex in a car ..or truck ..or anything u can park!!

2009-03-25T18:09:00.014-04:00

So maybe this hadn't crossed your mind since the teen years.. but I am here to say THINK AGAIN!! I mean, why not?!? What was enticing about having sex in a car when you were a teenager still holds true as an adult.. It's exciting, it's risky, it's naughty, it's spontaneous and it's FUN!! I am sure that most adult relationships could use a little FRISKINESS every now and again - am I wrong??

Most of us have jobs, maybe children and responsibilities that are extremely time consuming. Once you have a home and a bed to have sex in - the excitement of 'where and when' to get kinky can fade out. Even transferring from the couch to the bedroom can lose some of the anticipation and spontaneity. A bedroom is surely great to maximize position potential - but for many couples, regular sex in the bedroom can become routine. Changing up the plans or the environment can add a whole lot of spice to the mix every now and again. For this, I suggest giving sex in a car a consideration.

I like to roll play when the potential for sex in a car comes about. Ya know, the 'we just met' situation or 'maybe he picked me up at the corner for a good time'.. Remember the passion you had as a teen when you made out in the car - you'll find that doesn't go away - but now you are older and wiser and may even be a bit more experienced when it comes to maximizing positions!!

Whether it's reclined bucket seating or full on back seat bench play - there are so many options. Riding reverse cowgirl, girl on top, guy on top, doggie, or my fav - girl on top in the squat position with her feet on the seat tee hee!! ;o) Just ensure it's dark outside and that you've staked out a secluded spot. Country roads are devine for this!!

Lock the doors, turn up the kink & have fun fogging up the windows!!!!!

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Reuniting after a break up???.... NEVERRRRR!!!

2009-03-18T20:00:00.013-04:00

Okay so this is one of my biggest rules of dating & relating... Never.. N-E-V-E-R.. ever reunite with someone you were once in a relationship with. We all know someone who has done this, or we ourselves have - those couples who are 'on again - off again' - 'break up then get back together' - the ones who explain the length of their relationship as "well, all together we've been together ***, minus the break ups of course." WHAT IS THAT?!?

Now, I'm not merely talking arguments here.. because EVERYONE has their differences and their fights - that's normal, that's life. (For the couple who you think doesn't ever fight - they lie!). Disagreements however, are different - they do NOT cross the line. When the words 'we're over, we're through, I don't want to be with you anymore, I'm done with this, I don't love you anymore, etc... are uttered - don't plan on calling the bluff. Why???? Because whatever gut-wrenching pain it may induce is guaranteed to be so much worse the next time it happens - and mark my words - it WILL happen again. Another clue, if you have not reconnected in some form within 24 hours of a fight - consider that a huge warning sign - the easier it is to be apart in times of struggle the more likely it is that the torment will repeat and be worse the next time around.

What happens when you've broken up, your friends & family have made their opinions of your dreadful ex known.. how do you (and your reunited partner) plan on dealing with that side of things as you plan on trying again. Now, don't kid yourself - I am fully supportive of giving a relationship every chance to survive and thrive - but a hard and fast rule of mine is that I do not break up and get back together again. It's an important topic to discuss with your partner, so that you are taken seriously if he/she ever considers walking away - that they should be sure before crossing the line.

If you are reading this and have experienced heart ache - believe me when I tell you - you ARE better off without that person. No one should feel they aren't worthy of being with a partner who WANTS to be there. Difficult as moving on may be, take it as a lesson and BELIEVE that you are no longer wasting time with the wrong person... which means, the right person is even closer to your door step! If you are the one who initiates the break up - don't fall into old routines just for security's sake. If you let go - do everyone a favour and don't play both sides of the fence. Bottom line for everyone involved, you break up for a REASON and a one time break is always enough.

Stay strong... move along ;o)

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Chick

Bromance ...gotta love it!

2009-03-13T12:41:00.032-04:00

"Oh, Paul Rudd is dreamy. . . So one time I was fast asleep on the couch, and I just feel Paul and his gentle touch on my shoulder going, 'Hey, Jase, wake up. It’s time to wake up, buddy. Wake up.' And I slowly open my eyes, and Paul is standing there with his dick out. And he just gives me this weird, mischievous smile and walked out of the room."

- Jason Segel on his I Love You Man co-star Paul Rudd, to Time Out NY

Okay so I admit it, that quote was cause for a naughty little smirk on my face ;o) A secret turn-on for me is being witness to a good ol' bromance. Bromance is described as the complicated love and affection shared by two straight males. There is something enticing about two straight guys who can 'borderline' flirt with one another. Let's be clear though, we aren't talking about guys who are gay or effeminate in any way... These are what I like to describe as a 'guy's guy'. They are easy going, they tend to have a devilishly-delicious sense of humour and they have close guy-friends who they can joke around with hilarious innuendo.

This type of 'bromance' doesn't happen in just ANY guy friendship, it has to be special. There is a level of comradery that is a very fine mix. These guys are close - they can talk about anything together and they are usually familiar with the raunchiest of skeletons in each other's closets. They know anything and everything about each other's sexual escapades, generally share similar likes and dislikes, often times engage in the same sports or hobbies and REALLY enjoy one another's company. It's just like having a crush but between guys!

You know the ones, the guys in the locker room who can whip each other's butts with a tightly wound wet towel ;o) Bromances just happen to be on the top of my list of turn-ons!! There's something frighteningly kinky about two straight guys sharing a little good flirting ;o) If you are a guy and you simply cannot relate to this - picture it in reverse - what guy doesn't find it a little hawt to witness two girls joking around and being flirty together?! See....

So tell me, have you experienced a bromance? Comment here, vote, email me at chicktidbits@live.ca and subscribe!!

Let's hear it for the boyz!!! You know who you are... ;o)

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Chick

SEX... yes, it's ALWAYS on my mind ;o)

2009-03-07T11:51:00.029-05:00

I recently read a quote by Mel B. of the Spice Girls and she said something along the lines about not knowing anyone who has a sex drive like she does - and I thought 'ME TOO!!!' Admittedly, it's crazy how often I think of (and want) sex!!! I swear, I could challenge the most hormone raging teenaged boy over how often sex comes across my mind ;o) Apparently, the average male apparently thinks about sex every 7 seconds - k, I've gotta be around the 3.5 second mark here and I do *not* have a penis lol!!

And when I think about it, often times it's a thought so intense that I can FEEL it creating warmth & *tingles* in all the right places ;o) I call that the 'F-oner' - female+boner if you will (a.k.a. bloodflow to the clitoris) ;o) If I see a couple walking together I'll often think 'hmm.. wonder what they look like having sex?!' - If I catch a couple making out on TV it stirs something in me.. the juices flow very easily for someone who is so sexually charged ;o) Watching porn is always a turn-on too - I appreciate the stuff that looks legit versus staged tho... A few of the pass times of a highly-jacked chickee ;o)

I'm thankful enough to be with a fella who obliges at my every request when it comes to my crazy sex drive!! Thing is, often times once orgasm is achieved it just sets off a whole new level where I want it even more ;o) It opens the floodgates!!! Even after multiple orgasms during sex there are some times where I'll want to cap it off with a little self stimulation as well. Plus, at that point I have my fella as my audience/assistant so why not?!

For those of us who are highly sexual creatures masturbation is a necessity. There have been times when I've been guilty of self pleasuring myself while driving - admittedly tho I was in traffic & for safety reasons I do not recommend it lol! Surprisingly enough tho, I am not a fan of artificial stimulation (vibrators, etc) - they can be fun for a little kink every now and again but they are NOTHING in comparison to genuine skin on skin contact ;o)

If you have a high sex drive it's usually very easy for that to be interpreted physically. For guys it means they can get an erection almost instantly and for women it means you get wet and turned on very easily. There have been times when my cravings have been so high that by the time I have sex there is a huge flow of juices released out of me. I imagine this has a lot to do with being easily turned on, afterall if sex was a DRY topic and uncomfortable ya wouldn't crave it so much.

This doesn't mean that because you are highly sexual being that you are easy or out to do every thing that walks by. It does however mean that sex is important to you and when you are in a relationship you will tend to be very... very sexually active ;o) But hey, consider that an extraordinary connection instead of a vice!

I don't look at my affliction as a bad thing however... I find sex to be exhilarating, healthy and fulfilling in so many ways. If sex is my favourite hobby over say.. knitting, then that's a-okay with me ;o) I do realize that it is not common for women to be the ones with the higher sex drive. It has been difficult to relate to women who are of the majority view point with regards to sex. But hey, this is why I blog - if I had the same views as everyone else wouldn't that be boring??

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Chick

SHE'S just not that into you...

2009-03-04T11:02:00.006-05:00

She’s just not that into you... Okay so we’ve all heard about the trials & tribulations which inspired the ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ book turned movie (loved it btw!!)... but how about the reverse??? It seems to me that guys, being the natural hunters that they are, often times miss the cues that women give THEM when SHE’S just not that into you. Many guys continue to aimlessly persist with the hunt.

First of all, as is true with both sexes if the person you are pursuing doesn’t make themselves available to see you at every opportunity they can – then it’s true – their interest level is not equivalent to yours. Especially when it comes to women, if they are interested in seeing you – they will. Of course the obvious exception is work – but everyone gets a lunch break right?! The point is, there are always WAYS to see one another. With all of the conveniences of technology available – texting, social networking sites, messenger, and who doesn’t have a cell phone these days?! ...there are no more excuses for not being in contact – other than lack of interest.

These cues are all a part of making an effort. If you do not SEE an effort being made in response to your advances – well, there is a reason for that – not an excuse, but a reason. Take notice in how a woman dresses when she is with you. I mean, sure – she’s dressed but does is it obvious to you that she put quite a bit of effort into her looks when you had plans together? Did she recently get her hair done before your date?? Nails maybe – that’s a good indication! Is she flirty when she’s with you & maintain eye contact – if not, guess what... that’s a sign of disinterest. If she does not initiate contact – be it by communication or even when it comes to being physical – again take note. Does she respond to your attempts at contact with equal levels of response?? (i.e.: a text for a text, a call for a call) if a girl is truly interested you will not have to wait or pursue or...AND THIS IS KEY... wonder! If it’s legit you won’t have to question her interest – you’ll already know. If you’re fooling yourself that she’s playing hard to get or taking things slow – consider yourself now informed – she’s just not that into you.

If a woman is truly interested she will think about her fella constantly – I mean, we’re multi-taskers at heart so if we have interest in you, in one way or another, you are always on our minds. If you don’t catch that vibe – that sparkle in our eyes when we talk to you – the smile you can hear over the phone when we speak – if that’s not obvious (because it should be if we’re really into you) then take note – interest levels are definitely not in sync.

The thing is, being knowledgeable when coming to terms with this is actually to your benefit. No one should be left hanging and if you are then you are wasting time. When in doubt – move on fellas.. when it’s real it’s easy & there is no doubt. Hanging onto hopeless hope only keeps the ‘right one’ further away – release the grip and embrace the next turn on your path ;o)

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Chick

Anal sex ...

2009-02-28T09:13:00.008-05:00

Has it crossed your mind? Is it something your partner has eluded to? Is it the one thing you haven’t tried yet? That taboo position that is almost never a road you can travel for the first time without some sort of conversation about it first... Yes my friends, I’m talking about anal sex ;o)

I’ve always been of the mindset that I’d pretty much be up for trying anything with a partner I felt secure and committed to. After all, sex is fun and exciting so why not explore it in every way possible right?!? Okay, that being said I can share from ‘some’ (*wink, blush, nudge*) experience ;o)

First off, DO talk about this topic before ASSuming you have the green light fellas. Some people are dead set against it whether they have had previous experience or not, obviously, ya gotta respect their feelings. If it’s something you desire and your partner is not interested, you are still warranted to discuss your desires to at least try it. If you cannot come to an agreement – maybe try a little ‘meet in the middle play’ put some lube along her butt crack and thrust along the line of her butt without any penetration (picture when you slide yourself between her breasts, same idea) – maybe you’ll take some ‘boo’ out of taboo that way... just a thought. Plus, that little tid bit can show your partner that they can trust you which is vital to a positive introduction to anal sex. Anal PLAY can also be a good stepping stone into the attempt at anal sex. Anal play can include penetrating the anus with your pinky finger, perhaps simultaneously having finger play with her va-jay-jay, oral play with the anus – licking or lightly tonguing, even just massaging the outside of the anus to show the pleasure you can receive from that area.

The #1 rule for any anal play or penetration is LUBE.. LUBE.. AND MORE L*U*B*E ;o) The #2 rule is to have your partner feeling completely relaxed.. tension and anal sex don’t work well together. If this is something you desire to try more than once, do your best to make the first time a good experience. Listen to your partner, be calming, go SLOW... be constantly aware that the *green light* you have can change to amber at any given moment!! If your partner is game and you plan on giving it a go.. ensure her mind is not focused on the concern of pain, keep her in the mood – make sure she is turned on in other ways – spend time on that before going for the bull’s-eye ;o)

When you are ready, when your partner is ready – coat yourself in a good dose of lube.. lube up your partner as well.. begin with small penetrations.. your pinky fingertip.. up to the knuckle.. etc.. if that is going well and the light is still green – S-L-O-W-L-Y- move in.. Now, as a side note here, the tip is usually the most shocking part of anal sex for the woman. Once the tip is in, keep your movements extremely small, edge in further as the pressure allows... Continue to keep your partner aroused.. kiss her back.. keep her feeling relaxed – remind her you will stop at her first request – but PLEASE, do yourself a favour here guys – don’t THRUST away on her unless she’s an anal-loving-kinda-gal ;o) This article is for the first-timers – the seasoned vets already know the drill & how they like it lol!!

In my humble opinion, the best of anal sex experiences are those that happen with a patient and trustworthy lover. If you try it and it’s not something you want to try again – you still get full marks for giving it a go ;o) But fellas, if this is something you wish to have as a part of your sexual repertoire with your partner then invest the time and patience on a gradual start – your chances of a second go-round will increase tenfold that way ;o)

Ladies, if it’s something you would never consider – do you know why? I mean, there are a lot of people who are appalled by sex itself for any other use then baby making – imagine what they are missing out on?!? Maybe think of it like broccoli – you may not like the thought of trying it – but maybe... just MAYYYYYBE you’ll be pleasantly surprised once you give it a try. Personally, I think vaginal sex is a lot more pleasurable – but I have found the kink of trying anal sex exciting in a different way – Overall peeps, don’t knock it til’ you’ve tried it right??

And fellas, it takes two to tango... if you wanna venture into that kinda play with her – she just may want to explore the depths with you too ;o) the more the merrier right??

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Chick

Rub'n'tug...

2009-02-21T16:41:00.019-05:00

At first I thought, what kind of guy would be attracted to the whole idea of 'actually' going to a rub'n'tug facility??? He likely wouldn't be getting much action in his 'real life', might not feel comfortable going 'all out' with the prostitution route, maybe he wants non-committal, guilt-free interaction with a woman, the kind of guy who figures he can get away with it this way, wants to get more action for less money then a stripper's lap dance would run him, the guy whose drunk buddy wants to broaden his horizons, and/or the guy who craves a little *strange* every once in a while...

So... regardless of how you end up at a rub'n'tug... a.k.a. 'massage parlour' you already know what you're getting into. You'd be hard pressed to find a 'registered massage therapist' who would show up for your massage wearing a bikini, lingerie or some sort of slinky robe - hint numero uno ;o) And, from what I've *heard* you actually DO get a massage - - I mean, on your back, for starters of course lol!! Don't plan on being shy once you roll over though, there is no foreplay or awkward conversation here - oil up the gear and get'er'done ;o)

I'm assuming the guy who would venture into a rub'n'tug would not be all that concerned about the hygiene of the place.. I mean IMAGINE the black-light artwork in one of those rooms eeeek!!! If you're naive enough to think you can't get crabs from the sheets or towels they use, you are sorely mistaken. And the girls.. or ~tuggers~ as I like to call them, are they obsessive hand washers?! They must have fantastic cuticles from using all of that oil.. How do they deal with the "happy ending" - do they aim it away from themselves? Do they clean you off afterwards? Does it cross over into more then a tuggggg?? And if the customer cannot achieve his *happy ending* does he still leave a tip??? Is there a time limit? Can you specify - no massage, I'll have the "all tug" special today please ;o)

My take... you'd be a lot better off and a lot more budget conscious if you just grabbed yourself a bottle of baby oil, lathered up and went to town!!! If you're looking for a different feel then throw on a rubber glove and name her whatever your heart desires ;o) I guarantee you you'll wind up with the same satisfied outcome in the end, more money in your wallet, less guilt on your conscience (if you are in a relationship)... and you'd feel a lot less 'used for your money' by yourself then by a rub'n'tug.

Just on a side note though... why the heck don't they have rub'n'tugs for us ladies?????? Oh.. wait, I guess I'm the only kinda gal who'd raise an eyebrow to that temptation hehe!!!

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Chick xo!

Public displays of affection....

2009-02-18T15:47:00.008-05:00

Ahhh yes, public displays of affection - sometimes known as PDA. What is too much?? There are such varying degrees of PDA.. You have your exhibitionists who get a rush out of attracting attention from strangers. Those who would likely be out for the 'shock & awe' effect.. Versus the couple who holds hands walking down a street or gives a peck on the cheek.

There is nothing sweeter then spotting an older couple who still holds hands. However, there is a fine line as to what is considered classy and what is considered cheesy. I too, who promotes love in all it's forms have thought 'get a room' when I pass an overtly public make out session in progress. There is the train of thought that if you love someone show it however you feel it - live in the moment and I am all for that, but does that take away some of what is sacred and personal between the couple if overdone?

We've all seen the couple at the bar at the end of the night who are sloppily making out not realizing they are in plain view of the rest of the world.. and who probably don't care much about it. That IS different then a couple who shares a sweet fleeting kiss. I suppose it all comes down to what you feel and what is comfortable for you. Many people seem quite uptight about showing ANY affection in public - I am of the mindset, that if it's classy and real - then do what you feel. It's a turn on to know the person you are with is proud of it... but do I want to be up against the window of a Starbucks with his tongue down my throat while being felt up? (in fantasy - OF COURSE!!) in reality, no freaking way!! I guess my rules are classy - YES, tacky - NO.

Ya gotta let people do what they want to do... sometimes you will agree and sometimes you won't. If you are participating in PDA's then you might want to prepare yourself for commentary - put yourself out there and that's a possibility. Nothing wrong with expressing what you feel in the moment, just take into account your surroundings - you can have passionate moments without creating a scene.

For those who are disgusted by PDA's I think you have to look at the varying degrees. If hand holding isn't your thing, why is that? Are you afraid of people looking at you or are you not an affectionate person in your relationship? Regardless of how you carry yourself when you are in public with your partner - if you slip your hand into his back jeans pocket - or if you are the type who walks together but at arms length - do what feels right - you should only really judge yourself anyway.

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Chick

Valentine's Day.... my take....

2009-02-11T12:57:00.028-05:00

Well, it's almost here again - Valentine's Day... I have so many different thoughts with regards to Valentine's Day. Sure, I'm all for celebrating your love and why not have a recognized day for it?! But... then I sorta think, if you're doing things right in your relationship you shouldn't need 'dedicated events' as a reminder to make your partner feel special. And.. what about those single friends of ours who would probably rather skip February 14th all-together... Or what if you're involved in a relationship that is going through a bad spell - then what do you make of V-day?! I'm ALL for promoting love and recognition in a relationship and in life but I hope a day like Valentine's inspires and doesn't pigeon hole merely appreciating one another on expected yearly dates.

So, assuming you are in a relationship. What are the expectations for Valentine's day? Do you agree to go out for dinner? Who makes the plans? Do you purchase gifts? Chocolates? Flowers? Jewellery? Is it an unwritten rule that sex is expected to happen? Do you buy new lingerie? Bring out the kinky play? So... suddenly Valentine's day means you need to figure out what the plans will be. Let's assume that you are n0t the type of couple who 'fakes' happiness on these types of occasions because that would make the whole situation too hollow to go through with. Gawsh this sounds like such a negative view point on Valentine's Day - in reality I think Valentine's Day can be a really nice. I think, the key to avoid any confusion is to talk about what you'd like to do to celebrate - if you choose to celebrate.

I am of the school of thought that everyday should feel like Valentine's Day if you are in the right relationship... cheesy but true, and here's my reasoning.. It doesn't mean wining & dining or spending money on gifts - it's the little things - the little ways that you show how you feel - everyday. Doing things for each other that expresses your appreciation and desire. Treating one another with the same 'special' feelings as you would on special dates such as V-day. Valentine's day type of expressions do not need to cost a fortune or be uniquely extravagant - little love notes, a text, candles at dinner instead of the norm, wearing something fun (or nothing!) to bed.. etc.. turn off the TV at night and listen to some music together.. In other words, if things are on the right track in your relationship then V-day should just be a little icing on top. It's not about who gets the biggest bouquet of roses or guys who may feel they need to bend over backwards to end up getting laid - I think, it should just be a day where you spend a little extra time appreciating what you have & being happy together.

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Chick xo

"Keep the fights clean & the sex dirty!!!"

2009-02-04T20:45:00.016-05:00

When asked the key to his long & successful relationship, actor Kevin Bacon was quoted as saying "You have to keep the fights clean and the sex dirty" - I don't know if anyone else could hear it but inside of my head I heard a scream of glee "YESSSSS!!!" Finally somebody gets it! It's that secret that the very rare couples are able to understand, appreciate and execute ;o) This quote is enlightening considering it comes from a man who has been happily married for 20 years now!

If you can maintain your sexual attraction to one another, keep the sex you're having intriguing & spicy you will benefit by staying connected to the level of excitement that first brought you together. The thrills of sex don't have to end at the 3 month mark. Lust and desire can endure - the secret - wanting it to... After all, couples who are still having great sex are bonded on so many other levels as well. It's unlikely that you'd be having continued sex-fun with a partner who, outside of the bedroom bores you or disrespects you or who you no longer enjoy being around. A great sex life in an extended relationship is proof of the health of your compatibility.

In a Redbook article Kevin Bacon & Kyra Sedgwick give their top 5 relationship tips - all of which, I believe are intertwined and have to 'click' into place just right (hence, the rarity of happy, long term relationships)...

1. Have trust that your significant other is always going to be there with you...

2. Make time for each other - keep your relationship as a couple strong, it's the foundation on which everything is built...

3. Always take time in life for yourself. (Plus, independence is a turn on)...

4. Make your family a priority, this gives you perspective to separate the small stuff in life...

5. Be a support system for your spouse, talk, and talk a lot...

The comment about keeping the fights clean is also very key to long term success. I am always stunned at what couples will say and how they will treat each other when it comes to fights. The majority of people out there will be more demeaning & insulting to their partners then they EVER would be to a complete stranger?! It's mind boggling!!!???!!! Fights occur in the best of relationships, no doubt.. it's HOW you relate to one another that is vital. If you can learn to be constructive in your differences, speak to each other with decency and courtesy you will find that your challenges, may in fact, create an even tighter bond.

I think most everyone aims to have a relationship that they are completely fulfilled with. And everyone aims to achieve the points listed above - However, with all 'best intentions considered'.. it's truly the 'luck of the draw' as to whether or not you find the one who 'clicks' with you on every level... so, when you do, or if you have, live by the motto 'Keep the fights clean & the sex dirty!!!'

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Now run along and get y'erself some DIRTYYYY ;o)

Cheers!!

Chick xo

I always thought I had a different point of view...

2009-01-28T10:08:00.011-05:00

Hey sistas!!! I am very thankful to have some faithful female readers (guys too!!). I am fortunate enough to be in contact with some of my readers and am ALWAYS thrilled to get any and all feedback... **hint hint.. comment, vote or email more peeps! (I listen! I listen!!)** and here's proof.. This one's for the ladies who 'may' see this blog as setting unrealistic expectations.. I say, this blog is not for setting standards - it's to create unique thoughts, tid bits that will hopefully bring more fun and excitement into your life ;o)

Sure my blog promotes the 'unique' view I have on life, love & sex. I figure, if I had the same view as 'everyone else' it might not be all that fun to read lol! My hope is to induce thought outside of the box, create conversation, engage the playful side of every one's life. I don't want men to read the blog and think 'I wish I had that' or women to read it and think 'I'd never want that'.. but I do want to spark the question to each person of what 'you' can do to make your relationship more fun to make the MOST of your sex life and to enjoy the person you are with. The kinky suggestions or thoughts are what *I* think about... create your own fun & fantasy - This blog is to inspire that not create false expectations.

Always look at what you put in vs what you want to take away from a relationship. If you are missing passion, put in an effort to be as passionate as possible. If you are unhappy, figure out what YOU can do to make your situation better. Take ownership.. and come here often... for a laugh... for some tips... for a unique view. I always knew my view point was different when it came to sex and love. I'm here to celebrate that instead of hide it. Give the relationship you want in return.. so much is within our control and all to many times we allow our disappointment to set on our partner.. and that is no solution. I've been told so many times that I 'think like a guy' when it comes to certain things ;o) Maybe, just maybe I could create a medium for women to read this blog and hear a different side of what their men aren't quite explaining.

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Chick xo!!

Is your sexual schedule in sync?...

2009-01-21T13:43:00.005-05:00

In the beginning, sex was EVERYTHING!!! All encompassing and ALWAYS in the forefront. No time, was a bad time for sex. Any chance you had alone was an opportunity to PLAY.. and play you did!!

Sometimes, it ends there and for whatever reason sex was the only thing that you had. Sometimes it goes on longer and develops into a real relationship. Well, as your relationship develops changes in your sex life seem to be inevitable. The question I pose is this.. is it impossible to hold fast to those initial *freaky-deaky* days? Maybe I'm the last one around to believe it's possible - but do you know why that is? Because I WANT it that way...yes, still ;o)

Some people schedule 'date nights' (a.k.a. she gets dinner out and he gets laid). I kinda think the spontaneity is lacking when it comes to a scheduled date night. I mean, even if you have kids at home and find it difficult to have time alone.. there ARE WAYS.. go for a drive - park the car and hop in back ;o) Put a lock on your bedroom door.. have a coffee later in the day if you find yourself too tired for sex at the end of a busy day. Doesn't anyone else look at sex after a long day as a reward anymore? It's a release, it will help you sleep, and it FEELS GOOD!!! However, much of the problem is that too many people view sex as 'work' and that will only kill any hint of a sexual appetite.

So, somehow you manage to find some time for sex even for the busiest of schedules. What happens when your partner isn't 'feeling it'??? If your desire or frequency cravings are off it's something you may want to pay attention to. Is it causing you to have sex a lot less then you want it? Sometimes planning a sex date isn't all it's cracked up to be. The same is true in reverse, if you expect sex all the time it can be a turn off for your partner. My suggestion is TALK, TALK AND MORE TALK. Just because you are in a relationship together doesn't mean you will always agree - but the key is to find a common ground where both people feel satisfied. If that means you give a little, then give a little.. but don't give to the point where you put your wants & needs too far behind.

Pay attention to how things are when you do have sex. If you are having infrequent sex and it's not exciting well that IS a problem. If you find that times you do come together are still worth the wait in between, then that is a GOOD thing. If you have sex frequently ensure that's what your partner desires as well and lead the charge in keeping things fresh to avoid a feeling where sex could lose it's edge.

Point is, both people need to be on the same path. Desire in the bedroom translates into desire for each other in your everyday life. Pay attention to it, because just assuming it will be there is risky. Appreciate what you have and keep the feeling front and centre that you want to be the one to make your partner the happiest, most loved, and appreciated - especially in your sex life. After all, that's what makes your relationship sacred from all others.

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Scrap the sex calenders - if you are paying close enough attention to each other - you won't need them. Make sex a priority - keep it special - everyone wants that skip in their step ;o)

Cheers!
Chick xo

One girl's review of the 'Viagra' experience...

2009-01-11T11:47:00.014-05:00

My initial reaction is to scream from the hilltops that ~I LOVE VIAGRA!!!!~ Yes, I do ;o) So, here's the summary of my virgin viagra experience along with some opinion of Viagra use overall.

So one day a little blue pill came into our lives... I wasn't quite sure what to expect, would his erection fling out of his jeans and slap me in the face right after he swallowed it?! lol!? Seriously.. a little part of me wondered how much control this pill would have over my man?! It was like waiting to see what Santa brought me on Christmas morning (picture hands rubbing together and salivating at the anticipation!!). Fear not my dear friends, viagra doesn't wallop you with an uncontrollable erection upon initial ingestion. It still requires that you have the desire to be 'turned on' which is ultimately in your control. Once you do have the opportunity to feel aroused however, viagra does not disappoint ;o)

Now, we just used viagra to *play* not for any dysfunction type of situation. Our experience was merely that of, "lets see how much fun we can have with THIS" lol!! I do consider myself a bit of an erection expert ;o) and viagra did ROCK my world when I was presented with the FULL EXTENT of it's capabilities. Now, anyone who reads this blog regularly knows that I am in a very sexually active relationship - but the best way to compare the benefits of viagra would be to say - if you hadn't had sex in a while and you were just EXTRA JACKED UP - those are the times when you are just 'that much more erect' - that's what it's like to experience viagra. You are very easily turned on and the blood flow to your penis is at FULL CAPACITY!! Experiencing sex when you are just 'that much harder' is beneficial to you and your woman. We had a LOT of fun with our first viagra experience - and for those women out there who like to go several rounds (guilty as charged!!) viagra provides your man with means to go like the Energizer Bunny!!! Even into the next day we found it was very easy to coax a full on erection to come out and play ;o)

Now, this isn't something I would use regularly. I figure, most guys really don't need it unless they are experiencing erectile dysfunction. Most of the time, guys seem to be hard up when it comes to sex (no pun intended) so they usually don't have much trouble getting aroused at the thought of having sex. if you have sex almost daily well then viagra is fun to throw in there once in a while for a little 'kick'. I figure viagra is best used for it's advertised purpose - generally for older guys who might want to experience the rigidity in their erections that they experienced when they were 18 ;o) - - - Ladies!! Pay attention here, you receive the love and experience of your man (in his yonder years) with the added bonus of his 18-year-old hardness!!! For me, it was a BLAST. Not anything necessary because I enjoy sex with my man however he dishes it - but - it's always fun to play and mix up the spice.

And for the record - in comparison to Christmas morning - SANTA CAME THROUGH - I must have been a very, very good girl because when I unwrapped my present - it was MAMMOTH and EXACTLY what I wanted ;o)

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Here's to maximum capacity blood flow - I love you Viagra!!!

Chick xo

Lingerie ...a MUST!!!

2008-12-20T10:54:00.018-05:00

Ahhh lingerie! The topic crossed my mind as I was planning what to pack for an upcoming trip & getting excited about some of the kinky 'night time play' outfits I will bring! To state the obvious, men LOVE it. Let's face it, the whole purpose of lingerie is dressing up to entice sex! What man wouldn't LOVE that kind of eye catching invitation? Thing is, not a lot of women want to put in the effort of lingerie - I guess they figure, putting out is good enough - NEVER I say! Lingerie isn't ONLY for the guys...

It's true that many women are self conscious about their bodies so, the thought of wearing lingerie to invite attention to your body can be a daunting thought for some. Thing is, there are so many different styles of lingerie that there is something flattering for every shape! Plus, most guys are so excited by the thought of having sex and would be SO jacked to see the effort to be sexy for him has been made - they don't focus in on the flaws that we see in ourselves ladies! Really! Plus, if you are self conscious about your body, there is amazing lingerie out there that can enhance the good stuff and distract from the worrisome areas. The bottom line is that men are VISUAL creatures and lingerie adds to the excitement of being tempted - it's a GOOD thing!

I'm a 'gotta match' the bras & thong kinda gal - it's a little thing but it counts (and who knows when you'll ever get in a car accident - who wants to be seen with ratty ol' panties on?! Won't be me!!). I like to make sure I have a good selection of nice bra/thong sets to choose from and mix em' up often. However, lingerie is different - it's not something I wear every day but it is something I wear often enough to need a small drawer to store all of my 'pretties' in lol! I find when I wear lingerie it sets a state of mind. It arouses the sexual prowess within! I've got everything from dress up costumes - darque cowgirl, naughty school girl, daisy duke - to cute little lace camisoles - sweet little teddies - right into corsets, garters & all! I like to play... guilty as charged! The thing is, with all of these options I've collected along the way - I get to 'dress up' for whatever mood may strike. And ladies, here's the key - there is something about slipping into lingerie that creates a mind set - lingerie is sexy - and that's just it - it MAKES you FEEL sexy when you wear it. If you aren't sure, give your man a lil' show and you'll be sure about your sex appeal soon enough!!!

Guys, I think it's a very fine line when it comes to buying lingerie for your lady. In fact, I think you have to know her VERY well to buy her the right stuff. Never mind sizing being an issue for most guys when buying lingerie for their lady - but it can come across as intimidating to a woman to have a guy WANT to see her in something if she's not quite sure of it herself. There are however, ways in which to encourage your lady to wear somethin' fun in the bedroom. Tell her you would really love to buy her something sexy but that you want her to choose it and surprise you with what she likes - Encourage her as to how sexy you know she'll look. I figure that's a win-win situation as she gets to chose something she likes and YOU will ultimately benefit when it's on the bedroom floor - am I right?!? ;o)

As for men, I am not a huge fan of seeing a guy in a man-thong. I mean, there is just something not so MANLY about that for me. I'm a boxer-briefs fan but what guys CAN do is make sure you've got some nice undies yourself. If you don't want your woman wearing old cotton granny undies with holes in them - then you need to set the bar. Women take notice when a guy looks good in his undies too. However, I secretly would love to find my guy with a bow tied around himself underneath (I know, I'm twisted but it's all good!).

Bottom line is, sometimes the effort put into the wrapping can make the present underneath SO much more appreciated!!!!!

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Happy lingerie wearing 2 u!

Chick xo

Regular sex doesn't guarantee a good sex life... it's all about SPICE!

2008-12-15T13:37:00.006-05:00

Sex, it’s the one thing that connects a couple above and beyond all other relationships in your life. So, happy couples who are close and connected ARE the ones having sex, and having it often. This, we know... right? And by often I mean, MORE than once a week. So, if you’ve achieved that continuous connection in your relationship and you’ve got regular, good sex going on – you’ve got it made right? You’ve figured it out and are STILL doing better than most couples out there right? Sure – you CAN say that – but if you really think about it, you can admit that regular sex – however wonderful, can often mean ROUTINE sex – which is NOT always so wonderful.

It’s good to know what you like, but that doesn’t mean that starting off in the same position or using the same moves and finishing style is what’s gonna keep things hot and spontaneous. Might be great to be able to say you and your partner have sex every other day but if it’s ROUTINE sex it may as well be once a week. Routine sex can make even good sex go bad. This doesn’t mean you have to spend hours on foreplay or do handstands in the bedroom – but it does mean that you each have to put a little thought and spunk into things – keep it SPICEY!

Start off differently, don’t ONLY have sex in the bedroom, rip his pants off in the middle of the kitchen one day! Bend her over the couch.. don’t ask if it’s time for sex.. just GET INTO IT! Sure, it’s the most comfortable to have sex in your bedroom, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore a hot screw on the staircase on your way up there – railings were MADE to be clung to!! We all have our favourite positions but switching things up and trying something new is always fun! Imagine if every time you watched TV it was the same episode of your favourite TV show.. what keeps people INTERESTED is not always knowing what comes next – take that train of thought and apply it to your bedroom fun ;o)

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Chick xo

Dirty talk... Gotta give it a try!!!

2008-12-05T10:41:00.009-05:00

Dirty talk... Isn't it true that every guy wants his sweet, innocent girlfriend to become a MINX in the bedroom? To turn into that wicked vixen who dishes the smuttiest bedroom talk ever?! OF COURSE it's true!! (Ladies, even if he DOESN'T admit it). So here are a few tips from a chick who knows a thing 'r' 2 about a thing 'r' 2 ;o)

First of all there are a few things to think about with regards to dirty talk.. Dirty talk is NOT for everyone. If it's delivered 'half-assed' then it's just NOT gonna have the effect you want it to have. You've got to be CONVINCING and believable when it comes to your trashy bedroom talk. These aren't the soft 'I love you's' that you can save for AFTER.. I'm talking about raw, uninhibited, animalistic and SLUTTY talk! If you're gonna go this route - you've got to be 'all in'.

This is the time to dig deep and expose the inner sex maniac!! Trust me, every man wants to hear it but they also don't want to hear you giggle after you get started with your 'talk' - Buy into it people! Have a glass of vino before perhaps, let any shy feelings fall away before you make the dirty talk attempt. There are so many things you can say.. start with a simple 'f.ck me baby' and see how JACKED up he gets from that alone! I'm sure the response you get will encourage you to say even more. If you are in a very secure relationship you will find this easier to do, you can feel safer exposing your fantasies during sex while using dirty talk. A safe bet is to talk dirty about how good it feels and how horny he's making you.. talk about his 'parts' and what he's doing. A simple "I love how hard you are when you f.ck me" could blow his mind!!! You don't have to shout this stuff out so the neighbours hear you - even whispering it into his ear will make him crazy ;o) Start slow and see where your comfort levels are and gauge how he reacts - build on it from there.

Even if you have been in a relationship for years and have never tried this before - it's not a part of your sex routine - it's never too late to try! In fact, keeping things HOT and FRESH is so key in long term relationships - give it a go!

Some women may roll their eyes if they are reading this. So, let me be clear - dirty talk is not something that you do ALL THE TIME... anything that you do 'constantly' can lose it's 'edge and effect' which is NOT what you want. This is a 'once in a while' 'toss it in & drive him crazy' kinda thing. Over usage is TOO routine - and being too routine with something that's suppose to be spontaneous and exciting defeats the purpose.

Embrace it and feel in control.. say it like you mean it.. and enjoy his reactions!

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Cheers (said in the dirtiest of sexy voices)

Chick xo

Saying "I love you" and what that means to your relationship...

2008-12-02T12:45:00.011-05:00

The "I love you" phenomenon. Never before have three words meant so much or had the potential to cause so much turmoil. What these words mean to your 'new' or 'not-so-new' relationship. As usual... here's this chick's take...

Firstly, I believe (in most cases) whoever says "I love you" first in the relationship usually finds themselves NOT having the upper hand as to how the relationship plays out. Think about it, if you are the first one to take that leap and throw the "ILU" out on the table you're willing to be more vulnerable. After all, no one is guaranteed to get the "ILU2" in return. Unless, you're a girl who throws out the "ILU" because you're the *romantic type* and the guy replies with the "ILU2" because he's the *HORNY* type lol!!

AND.. if you have the "ILU" put out in front of you does this mean you are obligated to give the "ILU2" in return?? What if you haven't even thought about it yet?! Because, in that instance, there is just NOT a whole lot of time to ponder a response - you either LOOK or you LEAP - you usually don't get a chance to do both unless you are very clear about how you already feel... Then it's easy.. but leaves the question.. why didn't you say it first then?

I also tend to believe, if you've been dating someone for any significant amount of time (say.. 6 months or more) and the "ILU" card has not yet been played - then you are likely either trying to avoid saying it because one of you doesn't really mean it - OR (and this is a biggie) you are trying to outlast each other in an effort to not get hurt or to maintain some sort of control. It may seem twisted but I think that happens a lot. Not all of us wear our hearts completely exposed.. If you're like me, and you do - you already know that's a risk but at least you know it's genuine.

So, once the ILU cards have been laid out on the table and life continues merrily along, what's next for these three little words??? Do they continue to mean as much as the first time you said them? Do they build up and mean more as you expand your life together? OR - like so many couples out there - do they just become as reactionary as a 'bless you' after a sneeze?! How many people have heard the ILU card played when their partner 'wants' something - whether she wants an expensive pair of shoes or jewelery ..or whether he wants sex or a night out with the boyz.. It happens all the time - sad, but true.

Some thoughts I have on keeping the "ILU's" meaningful... never let the ILU's become hollow or merely responsive. If your partner is on over-drive with their use of ILU's you don't have to be - if you feel it's cold to not respond or give the "ILU2" in return, then say it but ALSO find those moments when you are looking into their eyes and say it - so they know you mean it - versus the "ILU" as you're walking out the door or ending a phone conversation. You CAN do both - as long as the meaningful and genuine ILU's still exist, you're good! Once in a while (especially if you have been together for a while) indulge in the depth of the ILU.. with, "ILU because..." or "ILU for..." but no matter what - MEAN it - you'll find if you have depth behind your ILU's you're more likely to get that kind of response in return.

Cheesey as it all may sound.. cliche as it just may seem.. that's the kind of fit we all want to some extent. A real love.. with all the fixin's - there's nothing worse then hearing a couple say "ILU' when they really want to say "f*ck off" - there is a world of meaning behind the ILU's - use them wisely!

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Cheers my dirtee martini readers!

Chick xo

Female sex drive...

2008-11-22T11:07:00.004-05:00

It's a pretty common belief that women tend to have a lower sex drive then that of men. There is the general assumption that men ALWAYS want it and that women are continually brushing them off. I mean, it's everywhere.. talk to most couples who have been together for a while.. the men almost always complain that they never get sex or that it's routine and dulled over time.. and women tend to think that's all men ever want and dismiss it all together. This is not true of ALL couples however, it seems to be true of the majority.

First off I believe that many women simply do not really know how to freely receive pleasure. A HUGE part of knowing HOW to receive pleasure is by knowing your own body and knowing what YOU enjoy. I think that many women just don't have the interest in exploring themselves fully - which is a shame because that is the KEY to broadening your sexual horizons. There is the stigma that it's "all or nothing" with women when it comes to sex. Meaning, some women may figure they need to portray **porn star** like performances in the bedroom & they simply aren't like that... Side note here though, any discerning eye can tell you the porn star 'showings' are all about quantity not quality - There is nothing genuine in about 99% of female orgasms in pornographic performances... so take those pressures off ladies. Besides, most men just want sex, they don't need you to know how to pull off the Swedish helicopter move ;o)

As women age, as the newness of relationships settles in - it seems they become so much more uninterested in sex. Distractions of life and work causing exhaustion at the end of the day.. but the overall unimportance they place on 'sex' being a vital part of their lives is a trend you see all the time. There is scientific proof that as women age they tend to have lower levels of testosterone in their bodies - testosterone is what charges up the DRIVE to want to have sex. Now do you see what I'm getting at.. and why men want it more then women in most cases? (Sidenote: being ladylike with good testosterone levels is amazing!!). The thing is ladies, that DRIVE that is missing - is also what gives you a BOOST a 'zest for life' that we all need to feel energized - ALIVE!! Why wouldn't you want your whole body to experience 'living'.

Maybe your orgasms are non-existent or just so/so. Ever tried KEGELS??? It's the pelvic floor exercise that can be done anywhere at anytime!! You simply use the same 'squeeze' muscles that you use to stop the flow of urine. It only needs to be a few a day - and TRUST ME - this move alone can make SO MUCH DIFFERENCE in what you experience while having sex. If you keep it up, your partner will enjoy the benefits of your little 'sexercises' as well!

So many women attribute sex with love. So, for those women who are tirelessly working to take care of everything - day in and day out - if you aren't feeling those 'romantic vibes' from your man - I can fully appreciate how that can kill your desire. Men are not the best of mind readers though, state it loud and clear if you require that 'lovin feelin' to be built up before gettin' dirty!

I truly believe that a lack of sexual desire is confining... in so many ways. What is life if there is no spring in your step? What is there to sacredly bond you to your partner if sex isn't a primal drive in your connection? Like so many things in life - if you go long enough without it - you get use to that. And when you get to that point, I hope after some thought and maybe reading this blog - you'll see that you're truly missing out.

Waving the flag for the ~insanely sexually charged chickee's of the world~ (oh yes, I am!).

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Chick xo

Worshipping the penis...

2008-10-25T10:48:00.010-04:00

I think there are a majority of women out there who simply cannot imagine the thought of 'worshipping the penis'. I've heard the commentary among women.. how it looks like a 'dead birds nest' how there is nothing attractive about the male sex organ.. I too have had my own cringe-worthy experience with a smelly 'ant eater'.. I know, GROSS! Trial and error I say... but when you find a cock that does it for you - GRAB HOLD ladies ;o)

If you are lucky enough to have found a penis that you deem attractive (and attraction is all a state of perception) then it's time to show your appreciation. There is a lot to be said for not just 'manipulating' a penis in order to achieve sexual gratification - a whole new level of sexual connection lies just beneath the surface. It has to do with your mind & how you really FEEL about your partner's most erotic body part.

Getting up close and getting to know all of the folds and creases of your man's cock is half the fun! Besides, it would truly be a shame to only acknowledge the TIP of his iceberg! Spend some quality time with your guy's penis.. get to know it.. no two are alike.. meet the whole gang while you're at it - never forget the dangle-brothers. The more interest you show in how your man's cock really works.. the better you can please him.. and a girl who knows her way around a cock is a goddess in every man's eyes. Oral sex is one of the top pleasure seekers by men - so if you take a genuine interest in worshipping your man's penis and learning how to enjoy it - your man will certainly have a whole new appreciation for you too.

All too many times women seem to dismiss blow jobs as being only for special occasions like his birthday... c'mon! Imagine if men viewed sex in this way - if they would only provide penetration on a special occasion - there'd be some mighty cranky people out in this world with some majorly pent up angst! So, if giving your man a blow job isn't something you currently enjoy - it might be time to consider how to WANT to enjoy his manhood. I have a few ideas...

If you have a man who has 'scent' from down below that turns you off - work around it - strip him down and take him into the shower.. be playful.. soap him up.. rinse him off and give him the experience of being explored by you in the steamy setting of the shower. Once his bewilderment over an experience like that has subsided.. remind him of how you like to fully enjoy him when he's squeaky clean like that ;o) I guarantee you.. any worries of a stinky pee pee will soon be history! If you are really adventurous try enjoying him all the way from the front to the back when you know he's all cleaned up... just a suggestion hehe!

Now, if don't mind the scent of your man.. or if a touch of 'marinade' (as I like to call it) is something you find appealing try making some time where you ONLY enjoy him. There are enough books out there that indicate a man should do this - but why not a woman? I for one, don't think that giving your man the 'basics' should cut it (and of course vice versa). After all, don't you want him to think of you as his ultimate sex fantasy - if the answer is yes, then INDULGE him sistas! Lie your man down on the bed.. unzip.. and take your time teasing and exploring.. and just when he's dying to touch you and return the favour.. tell him you want a little more time to enjoy HIM. I'd lay money most men will have never experienced something like this before.

If you have a man who tends to be on the 'bushy' side there are ways to convince him to do some manscaping as well. Start with yourself.. show up with a freshly shaved pussy and ask him how much he likes it bare.. tell him how much you love it.. tell him how you would love to spend more time savouring his cock if it was free of any 'furry' inhibitors ;o) I can attest to being the kind of woman who SHOWS her appreciation for a cleanly kept landscape on my man..

Point being, if you can find ways to genuinely be turned on by your man's penis then you are likely ahead of the game. This is about using your mouth, tasting, smelling, touching, admiring - using all of your senses to LOVE his cock... even before you feel him inside of you. I am certain that your man will soon show you his gratitude and that your desire for each other will be heightened beyond what you thought was possible.

Let me know how it goes.. break out that sex queen that you are and LOVE his penis! Email your questions or comments to chicktidbits@live.ca, subscribe, vote... and come back often!

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The road from ~sweet kitty~ to ~dirty MILF~ ...

2008-10-10T16:27:00.005-04:00

I remember when I first heard the term MILF.. wondering what it was.. 'googling' my way to becoming more informed on the code name. Coming across such websites as 'milf hunter' (kinky and somewhat funny it's so fake in my opinion).. Realizing that MILF actually meant 'Mother I'd Like-to Fuck'. Gotta admit, a devilish grin came across my face. Was this the category I was now in? No longer the fresh little kitty who could make men purrrr... Now I was identified as a 'mother' - it was different. For me, the term MILF just inspires those of us who crave to hold fast to our desirable & sexual side of life. It means there is a SEXUAL creature under all of the ~mommy-ness~ that shields us ;o) Perhaps the 'kitty' had just evolved into a well experienced TIGRESS.. and that, was okay with me. After all, I happen to believe a true TIGRESS can make a man scream with passion vs a little kitty who can only entice a purr... hehe!

On another note however, many women tend to lose sight of their sexual prowess once they become consumed by motherhood - it happens - a lot. It's the tried & tested rule that most couples experience a lowering in sexual activity when children come into their lives. I feel it's so important for us Mama's to celebrate our sexuality and continue to harvest it. Too many women lose their individuality and the sexual connection with their partners with being so Mommy-focused. It's important to find the space where your sexual being still exists & to NEVER lose it. We all know who these Mommy's are - they carry themselves well, they still have the swagger yet benefit from having more life experience and most often are in the throws of their prime sexual years.

Believe me, I take my kids to the park, I grocery shop with them, etc, etc... doesn't mean I can't look good doing it - When you feel sexy - people know it. I think in most cases a MILF is even more desirable then a fresh kitty We are sexually mature women in our prime! - We know what we want & more importantly, how to get it ;o)

Here's to my MILF sistas of the world.. never lose your swagger ladies! Someone is always taking notice.

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Just when I thought I was the expert of the ORGASM...

2008-09-29T18:03:00.004-04:00

Isn't one of the best parts about sex that there is always something new to discover. Here's me, queen *O*.. I bashfully admit that I am one of the lucky few women who is blessed with the capability of achieving multiple orgasms during sex. Thankfully, I have a partner who knows how to work me and who entices me to 'work' on him to reach those heights!!

I recently found the most delicious of positions which happens to ROCK my world into mind-blowing, cross-eyed orgasms!!!! So of course, I had to share with my readers. Now for technical purposes I'm going to explain the set up. Woman on top.. Guy on the bottom.. guy has 2 pillows behind his head (I believe this helps with the angle).. girl has him fully inserted and is leaning over top of his chest... now the kicker, have him press (not push but PRESS) down on your butt cheeks. This spreads the girl open and pushes him towards her g-spot and with the right motions from the chick on top - you too, may be of the small percentage of women who can achieve g-spot orgasm!! If it sounds confusing, take this photo I've selected.. imagine it horizontally and that's the press move that the guy has to make.. Oh.. and being naked helps too lol!!

From the small to the earth-shattering, I am so grateful to experience a variety of orgasms several times over during a session. Let everything escape your mind and tell your partner what you like, what you want to try.. and NEVER be afraid to venture outside of the box. Variety is the spice of life as they say ;o)

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Jeans on a man... what does it for me....

2008-09-17T09:17:00.009-04:00

I'm the kinda girl who's favourite look on a man is when he's in a perfectly fitted pair of his old jeans. Not the ones that look scraggly... the ones that fit him just right, in ALL the right places. Now, I'm not a 'labels' kinda girl.. I just want to see him in the jeans where the view looks GOOD from all angles. You know, the ones that he wears with a little bit of strut to his walk.. they are comfortable and his ass is HOT in them!! Plus, the trendy-trendy jeans kinda give me the sign that the guy would be a little too ~fake~ or pretentious for my liking. Everyone knows what jeans are their fav's and what ones they feel sexiest wearing.. those ones!

So, my criteria for hot looking jeans on a guy is... 1. they don't have to be the trendsetter styles, 2. the ASS has to catch my eye. Now, if your guys is blessed with a lovely apple bottom then hallelujah!!! Those butts look the best in jeans if you ask me. You know, the ones where there is a curve to the lower back that leads down to a bite-worthy, totally squeezable set of buns, the ones that fill out the back side of jeans so perfectly! 3. The jeans have to FIT the man not the opposite! There is no bigger turn off then to see a guy who is wearing his jeans hanging low and way too over sized - puke me out! Even for those not so blessed, who may have the flat or tiny butt curse - find jeans that fit YOU - the loose-hanging butt jeans do nothing for the small butted fella. 4. do not buy jeans that are too tight! No one wants to see jeans on a guy so tight that you can still see that he wears whitey-tighties - that's a no no! I don't mind using my talents in being able to tell whether my fella is hanging left or right that day - so long as I can't tell if he's been circumcised as well lol!!! (Naughty joke - sorry!) 5. I am not a big fan of the jeans with the buttoned-pocket in the rear - I feel that style looks best on women or teenagers - but would a real guy's guy purchase jeans like that... ?? 6. A bit of comfort-wear zones in the jeans can look cool - some of the distressed jeans have the 'comfortably worn' look already worked in for ya! Never confuse this with full on visible ass-rips or overly obvious wallet wear - You know what I'm talking about - guys, don't ruin the ass-view for us ladies, keep your wallets in your jackets k?? We wanna see BUNS!!!! 7. My final tip would be to NEVER wear your jeans so low that any bending would be cause for crack-itis - if I wanna see more, I'll remove them myself thanks!!

Those are my tid bits on men in jeans. A guy wearing a great pair of jeans makes me wanna touch and squeeze... or at the very least, *THINK* about touching and squeezing!!! Whether my fella matches his jeans with a plan t-shirt, a nice sweater, a dressier collared shirt - jeans have been around for a long time & continue to be a staple in most peoples wardrobes. Most importantly, if you CARE how you look when you walk out the door - others will too!

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Sex addict..... interesting!

2008-09-03T13:32:00.005-04:00

So, I'm sure I can't be alone in this... but has David Duchovny's recent statement regarding his entry into rehab for sex addiction suddenly elevated him to 'even sexier' status?! Crazy I know! I mean, the guy has an addiction.. but YEESH.. Suddenly the mental images of this sex addicted star flood the brain ;o)

Who knows what the real story is. I hope for the sake of his relationship that his addiction was only linked to internet porn.. and if THAT'S the case, really... what's the problem?! That rehabilitation facility had better make room for a LOT more of us if loving internet porn makes you a sex addict!!! Then again, I have been accused of being boarder line addicted myself hehe!

I know my interest has been peaked to check out the 'Californication' series where, from what I understand, David Duchovny plays the role of a sex addict. Guess that could be considered TV porn? Oh boy.. another addiction for me to deal with ;o)

I get it, there IS certainly a serious side to addiction issues.. but I'm sorry, that's not what I'm talking about. Just giving my tid-bits on the fact that I've been wondering what the latest celebrity addict was 'into'....

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Unhappily together.... not always!

2008-08-21T09:53:00.004-04:00

Truly, I get tired of hearing about it. How everyone has such sh.tty marriages... how marriage ruins everything... blah blah blahhhhh!!! And even *I* have experience in ending a bad marriage. I once remember someone telling me that at least I had the 'guts' to go through with getting out of it instead of just complaining about it. But the thing that got to me most, that wore my spirit down the heaviest.. was believing that the ideal relationship existed & that everyone deserved that. For something that seems so rarely attainable, I believe it's possible for everyone to have.

It isn't marriage or kids or money stresses or family that tears a couple apart. It's allowing all of those issues to be the excuse. A marriage truly falls apart when you stop enjoying the one you are with. THAT is when all of the other issues are easy to blame. If you are not having sex, you are not enjoying one another as you should.. If you are not sharing your free time together (and wanting to).. you are not enjoying one another. Take it as a red flag once you stop wanting to flirt with one another. It's easy to say what's wrong... what's not easy is investing and believing in what you want your relationship to be - which has to be a two way street... if it isn't... MOVE ON. Easier said then done, always! But, if you want your life to be a happy one, isn't it worth finding the person who will give you what you want.. the person who should also be the one you WANT to give everything you have to.

Make your connection a priority. Always.... Never let that change.... and you too, may be one of the 'minority' who can manage to stay happy for the long haul.

Spend your free time together, enjoy one another, laugh often.... when you are with the right person... all of these things should seem effortless... because they just 'are'.

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Shaved pussy... meow!

2008-07-23T17:51:00.005-04:00

I mean, is there ANY other way these days? Personally, I find a landing strip just tacky and most of the ones I've seen on porn aren't so pretty. Anyone who still maintains the 'au natural' look of 'el BUSHWHACKER' is also not into 'being all that they can be' for their partner - unless, for some unhygienic reason they are 'into' that kinda thing. Sorta went out in the 70's didn't it? I am of the frame of mind that keeping your 'area' well groomed is in line with wearing nice undies in case you are ever in a car accident. One never knows when a shaved feline can come into play...

Now, there are tricks to the trade on this one. Once you commit to shaving you have to put in the time to maintain it. Yes, there is stubble.. but NOT if you shave daily.. or.. if you are 'ballsy' (no pun intended) enough to wax it.. Then again, waxing calls for a certain amount of growth which I just can't even 'BARE' to grow!

Plus the fact that it drives most men WILD to see a well maintained, freshly shaved pussy. There is the lure of skin on skin contact.. there is no hesitation based on 'flossing' during oral sex.. and removing any barriers to clitoral stimulation is always a huge benefit.

Now fellas, this doesn't let you off the hook either! I for one, love a man who 'manscapes!'.. it's DEVINE. And yes, it also makes some of us gals a little more 'eager' to venture down below.. Hey, if there is potential for more blow jobs wouldn't you give it a try? I don't necessarily need my man to be clean shaven down south, but I do prefer a man who at the very least knows how to trim ;o)

How to bring this up with your woman?? Easy.. blame it on the blog of a chick-in-heels! Until then, stock up on your shaving cream and keep those blades sharp!

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kinky bedroom play mixed in with some lovin.. = the full spectrum ;o)

2008-07-04T10:40:00.003-04:00

So... there ARE those of us girls who like a little *frisk* and *kink* in the bedroom. Tender lovin' is great but I find the ^^^FIRES^^^ ignite when the play gets a little more... intense... heated... forceful... on both parts ;o) Of course, this kind of play is ONLY enjoyable when both parties are into it and realize it's all about the 'fantasy' aspect.

There are times when I want to feel like the man I'm with is 'ALL MAN' and is 'taking complete control' of my body. Dishing out whatever he can give me. However, there are times when I certainly want to teach him a lesson about who can be boss in the bedroom as well. There's something empowering about pushing the limits. Taking the passion and kink right to the edge! Keeping it *HOT*.

I want my man to be the kind who has many ideas in the bedroom... who wants routine when you can have moments of lovin' & moments of unbridled desire!!! So long as both partners are game - enjoy!!

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Sex on a boat...

2008-06-11T09:27:00.002-04:00

It's EVER-SO-KINKY to find new and exciting places to have sex. Who *really* wants to be confined to the 'expected sex' that comes from being tucked into bed at the end of the day? I mean, that's all good and great.. but there's SOMETHING, ever so *delicious* about having a spontaneous romp in an unexpected place ;o) Trust me... I know!!!

Sex on a boat has GOT to be one of my fav's!!! There's something about being out in the sun, scantily clad, a few beverages in tow, tunes playing in the background... and being alone with no distractions to admire my man-meat!! His bare chest.. glistening in the sun.. the rhythm of the water rocking the boat ever so gently while we anchor..

It's a recipe for desire!!! Not to mention the slippery fun that water-play can bring... even if sex in the water isn't your 'thing' - foreplay in the water is undeniably kinky!!!

There is something so 'heightening' about taking sex to a new location... It's guaranteed to take your passion to a new level. It creates a certain *spice* that breaks free from any routine you may normally have regarding your sex life. For me the boat scene sets me into a "frenzy" but there are MANY other spots that can work for a little 'fun' too. Sex in a car can also be quite fun - sure it's not the most comfortable spot - but it's not necessarily about what's most comfortable at that point - it's about what's EXCITING and spontaneous!!!

So.. give it a shot ;o) Be it your kitchen counter.. the back seat of a car.. on a boat.. keep it fresh.. keep it exciting.. and by all means, keep it COMING!!!!!

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A woman's view on whether 'SIZE' matters...

2008-06-10T11:52:00.003-04:00

One of my favourite lines... 'is he a GROW-er or a SHOW-er' lol!!! Because that can affect whether or not size matters ya know!

It's funny when you watch porn and you see that most of the guys are rather LARGE in size. It's even more amusing to know that 99% of the women in those porn movies are *faking it* with these well endowed men. After all, most porn is created to excite a male dominated audience. Anyway.. that's just one tid bit... back to my topic...

Does size really matter??? Here's my theory... Size will ONLY be an issue if you find that you cannot be turned on by your partner due to 'the fit'. Now the 'fit' has a couple of meanings... 1.) if the man is too small - meaning that you just don't 'feel' him much when he's inside. 2.) if the woman is too loose - same outcome. 3.) If the man is too large for the woman and causes pain during sex. SO.. as you can see - the main concern for many men being 'their hung-ed-ness' isn't the only factor that comes into play when being rated by a woman.

Not to mention the obvious, there are many men who are 'rather large' and who have NO IDEA how to finesse a woman's body. So, really - that's like having a Porsche and NOT knowing how to drive stick!!! C'mon! Who wants a Porsche just staring back at them (with it's one eye lol!) but not willing to enjoy the ride. So, not all 'green giants' come through in those clutch moments!

Personally, I like the mid-length in a man.. the size that I can do EVERY position enjoyably with! Average - certainly does NOT mean average in ability to please ;o) I've also known men who have 'great packages' and who have had issues with other women because of how loose the woman was - totally separate issue from the size of the guy's thingie! ;o)

Now, of course.. there are guys who are maybe a little 'less' then in the world of penile size - but you know what, there are MANY girls out there that are of the 'smaller fit' category as well. What it all comes down to is how you both FEEL and if you can both experience pleasure together - and I'm convinced, everyone has a match for that.

Let's not forget GIRTH.. I mean, how could I even broach this topic without speaking of girth? Not only does LENGTH come in all shapes & sizes.. but so does circumference! What a woman prefers and will enjoy all depends on what fits HER body - and since we are all different in that aspect.. don't be sucked in by the absurd pressure to be huge! Everything comes down to 'fit' with your partner.. and that is different for each couple...

Now, run along and have fun finding your perfect fit!!!! ;o)

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Threesome fantasy play...

2008-06-09T09:50:00.003-04:00

...and by *fantasy* I am CLEAR that this is something that TOTALLY turns me on in the fantasy world but makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand up with the slightest hint of reality... For me, this one is definitely a fantasy. It's kinky, it's taboo, it's scary, it's exciting... but... it's a turn on for me.The 3some ;o)

In my fantasy it's her and I, then her and I sharing him, then watching her have him while I instruct them what to do, then making her watch us and knowing she wants him again.. It's watching him enjoy another woman, it's craving his reaction to a new woman right in front of me, it's all of us tasting each other.. making him feel like a sex god..

In version 'B' of my fantasy it's him, another mystery man and me.. It's the thrill of knowing I could easily handle two men in bed.. it's knowing I could please them both and please them well.. feeling that they both crave what I am giving.. having the heat and hunger of two men taking over my body with no hesitation.. Watching my man as I take on another..

And in an INSTANT.. when the fantasy is over and the very thought of reality hits.. I suddenly don't like the fantasy anymore. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has ever imagined a 3some.. we all likely have to some extent.. at some point.. 'thought' about it. It's definitely something that excites me.. the thought.. but when the moment of fantasy has passed the reality of what that would mean to my man and I - to what we have - is too much to bear. He is my love and what we have is sacred above anything else. What is freeing, is that we share all of these powerful thoughts and we excite in the 'fantasy' together without allowing reality to ever threaten us. There is something about sharing our fantasies and never being rejected for them that has connected us more deeply. No hesitation, no judgement, we are free because we are sharing.. at the same time we are protected as our fantasies remain safe - between us... Oh yes.. there are many more fantasies.. this is just one of my favs...

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Not every woman wants a man with a 'perfect' body...

2008-06-05T14:05:00.007-04:00

So, although it's always nice to take a 'peek' at a man with a beautiful physique it's not exactly what all women want when it comes to the type of men they desire to be in a 'real' relationship with. Sure the ads of male models perched in their 'ever so snug fitting' boxer-briefs are drool-worthy - but when it comes down to the real 'stuff' I highly doubt most women want such vanity in a man.

First of all, if I am with a man who has perfectly cut abs - it's a turn off for me. REALLY.. REAL-LY!... and here's why... most women are unrealistically insecure about their own bodies.. we see it EVERYWHERE - magazines, movie stars, models, etc.. Women put more pressure on how they look to 'themselves' then anyone else ever could. So, to be with a man who is physically perfect - is NOT comforting to most women I know. My instinct when I see a male model with perfect body is "good gawd.. he must be so vain" - it's a preconceived notion, yes.. but do I want my man shaving his legs or plucking his eyebrows.. or spending MORE time then ME in front of a mirror - NO THANKS. I get the same heebie-jeebies when I see guys with highlights in their hair - 'honey.. pretty isn't manly'. Any girlfriends I've ever had all have the same viewpoint as I do - we want a MAN not 'Rico-Suave'.

At the same time we don't necessarily want someone who doesn't care for their own health and has let themselves go either. That's a common problem once couples hit the 'comfort zone'.. just put on the stretchy pants & figure all will be well - NOT SO.. if you don't feel sexy yourself physically.. guess what, your partner may also start to view you in the same light. No matter what you may look like now, having sexual confidence in yourself only makes you more attractive to others.

I believe that most couples prefer to be with someone who physically is similar to them. Obviously if you are athletic, you like to do be active and would likely be attracted to like-minded types. My point is, so many men think that women desire these huge guys with muscles that go on for miles... NOT SO. I was recently viewing a photograph of Daniel Craig (James Bond) - nice body - definitely - but face, uhhhh... not exactly my cup of tea. Gotta say, he wouldn't make the cut. So fellas, be fit enough to be considered healthy (for yourself and to attract others) and don't cross over into vanity-insanity.. that's exactly where most women's 'perfect type' falls - and more then likely - that's the majority of you out there..

Save your pennies, avoid the fake tan sprays and shaved chest.. be comfortable in your body - after all, how many women have you been attracted to in relationships who have had perfect abs.... EXACTLY!

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The meaning behind HOW u fight & GREAT make-up sex!!!...

2008-06-05T09:17:00.009-04:00

So, it's true.. every couple has their ups & downs. EVERY couple fights at some point in time. Even if couples 'never' seem to fight, it likely just means they keep it inside - which can be even more destructive. I believe that HOW couples fight is a good indication of how the rest of their relationship flows as well.

For many couples, fighting includes yelling and raised tempers.. I would say this all depends on the personality types involved. For SOME, that style works - it airs the problem and to some extent indicates a level of passion they have in the relationship. An article I recently read suggested the same 'drive' one gets from arguing with a partner, releases the same 'drive' as they experience with sex. And with that sort of drive - what do we all crave??? Release!! Makes sense to see why so many couples turn to 'make-up sex' as the finality of the argument. In my opinion, that's all great and good - so long as SOMETHING was resolved and it's not just a 'distraction' which is merely delaying yet another, more built-up argument later.

We've all heard people speak of their parents who never fought... and many times, these are the folks, who.. once the kids have been raised - realize that they've been holding in deep hostility and resentment towards one another for years. Silence can be vicious... I think it's often times WORSE to hold in your frustrations then to scream and yell - at least the latter has the potential of coming to a resolution. No one is a mind-reader when it comes to relationships... no one.. Plus, if you are the type who holds in your anger, the chances of experiencing make-up sex are nil. Also, if this type of build up continues over a long period of time - it probably wouldn't be too much of a stretch to say that your sex life wasn't what you'd WANT it to be either.

Then, there's the type that I can attest to, as I am one of them. I'm a 'resolver'... Once I'm ready to talk I want to talk until it's fixed. I want to feel content and feel that my partner is also satisfied with the outcome of our discussion. I do not believe that everyone will EVER agree on EVERY topic.. So, weigh how important the problem is to you in the first place - *pick your battles* as they say. You can't make a HUGE deal about crumbs on the counter vs. whether or not you want to get married, if you catch my drift. Having disagreements doesn't mean that you HAVE TO or WILL agree - but it does mean that each of your opinions are heard. Hopefully, if you are able to focus on staying constructive, you will find that there is always room to compromise. After all, if you love the person you are with, and want to continue to make things work - compromise is always worth it in the end. The BEST part of this type of approach to dealing with disagreements/arguments is that both people are more likely to end up feeling satisfied. And in my humblest of opinions, when both people are at ease with the outcome of a discussion - that's when the BEST make-up sex is possible... When you have GROWN as a couple, respected one another and become closer for it - that's when true passion arises - that's when the reconnection through skin-on-skin will be most satisfying.... I speak from experience ;o)

As I always say, sex between a couple is what connects your relationship more deeply then any other in your life... never lose that perspective ;o)

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Female squirting... It's real, it's fantastic!!!

2008-05-29T12:01:00.004-04:00

Allow me to share this tid bit... Female squirting (the equivalent of male ejaculation) - hot enough topic for ya? Good! Let's get started..

My initial reaction to learning about the existence of female squirting was 'euwwww gross!'... Oh, how ignorant I was to the pleasures of the liquid of love ;o) My bf was the educator in this case and I just assumed that 'my body didn't do that' sorry! And really, who would want the sheets soaked? (remember, I hadn't tried it yet)...

So, we tried.. apparently there is a 'spider man' type of move.. best described as giving a peace sign with your fingers and curling them inward towards your palm.. then stroking gently to coax the squirt for release. And one day... all of that teasing of my g-spot finally brought me the sweetest eruption of clear fluid that squirted like a sprinkler onto my bf's chest.. and it was SO GOOD!!

From that point on.. I was hooked (kinda like the shape of the finger position my bf had to encourage the squirt after all!)...

If you want to try this with your partner I highly suggest it.. and be patient.. and gentle.. it may take a while to perfect. Insert your fingers into your woman.. two fingers preferably.. separate your fingers about an inch apart.. feel around for her g-spot which should feel like a spongy/walnut sized spot on her inner vaginal wall (towards her tummy). Once you find this spot.. gently massage it.. make sure she's turned on.. slow & steady wins the race here boys!!! If you are doing it right, you may feel it start to slightly grow or bulge.. it's filling up with her squirt... Once you feel she's really turned on.. increase your massage movement and add some more pressure.. and continually press and release that built-up bulge.. the faster the more spray effect.. you may be pleasantly surprised!!!!

Squirting can show itself in many ways.. sometimes it's just a slow gush of clear fluid.. other times it's a lavish spray - chances of that happening increase when your woman pushes down with her stomach muscles when you are beginning to spray her.. We've even gotten to the point where my bf will work the spot during foreplay.. and just by riding him it'll trigger my g-spot into gushing/spraying all over him - makes for a deliciously slippery ride that you won't soon forget!

It's not the SAME as an orgasm.. but can be just as pleasurable and intense.. It's also NOT pee from what you may hear.. and the p.rn that shows girls spraying for miles.. chances are they have been filled with water (give or take Cytheria)... it's tasteless for the most part.. and it's clear.. and any extra lube is always fun!!!

My new goal... work it out on myself... to put on a show for my fella ;o)

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Thoughts from a woman who loves the p...

2008-05-24T10:10:00.006-04:00

Guilty as charged... I am a woman who loves to watch porn!!! I was recently watching a talk show where the panel of women were collectively bashing porn as a threat to a relationship. WHAT?!? In my opinion, the ONLY reason why porn would be a threat to any relationship is if your man PREFERS watching porn OVER having sex with you. Otherwise, what's the harm in it?!

Porn is exciting to watch, the people are untouchable, there is no 'relationship' there, it's purely for entertainment purposes. Strip joints are a million times worse - there is physical contact there and of course, that's a deal breaker. But porn, should not be looked upon as being a source of contention - it's actually something that you can BOTH benefit from.

If your man enjoys porn, and you find it acceptable, he will be more likely to share his fantasies with you - isn't that something you would WANT? If you venture into watching some porn together you can find out what your intimate likes and dislikes are. Discover new and exciting things to try in your own sexual adventures. Try new positions, techniques, roll play... All of which, will only heighten your intimate connection with your man.

I love to find porn that I enjoy and send it to my man to watch.. he gets so excited just thinking that what I looked at turned me on. Although I am not normally one to watch porn 'while' I'm in the midst of being physical - (I find it to be distracting) - I think couples who enjoy that are likely very in sync and connected deeper then most. If you can be open to sharing something so personal and be accepting instead of judgemental, you will find your partner is even more attracted to you.

As I said before, if your man is watching porn instead of having sex with you, then this IS a problem. However, if he's just watching to get excited and ultimately wants to be physical with you then everyone benefits. Plus, who wants to think about their partner hiding things from them - or who wants to be the one who feels they have to hide their intimate secrets... no one. There is no reason to be jealous of your man watching porn if he is not using it in place of you. There are a lot more threats in every day life that could lead to eventual temptation that are REAL, whereas porn is not real. And yeah, most of the porn I've seen is tacky and completely over acted - but hey, that's what reminds me that I am the real thing when I have my man with me. I find it funny how watching porn with my bf makes him realize how fake it is - we now find we enjoy the stuff that's more 'believable' and less 'oh baby! oh baby! yes! yes! yes!' lol!!! We also prefer the porn that doesn't merely service the man but also shows scenes where the women is the focus of pleasure ;o)

If you have previously been close minded to the idea of your man watching porn.. try this.. find something you are intrigued by online - buy a porn dvd - you can order it and it will come to your mailbox instead of having to go to a sex store... light some candles one night and pop that DVD in the machine - it will be an evening neither of you will soon forget. I'm sure you'll quickly notice that the porn becomes a background accessory and the real fun happens between the two of you!!! - AND.. I'd bet that you both would want to try it out again sooner rather then later.

Sharing everything is one of the best parts of a relationship... have fun! Enjoy each other ;o)

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Cheers!!! Happy porn watching!!! xoxo!

Love wearing thongs...

2008-05-23T19:46:00.006-04:00

"Hello, my name is 'chick-in-heels' and I am a self proclaimed, shamelessly proud, love the feel of them.. THONG WEARER' ;o) Welcome one and all.. this is a good read even if you are of the granny-panty sect lol!

I too once held the misconception about thongs. They MUST be uncomfortable, dental floss for your butt, they hurt, only sluts wear them... etc etc.. I am proud to say, many years back now, I crossed the line - I was a bikini cut panty type of girl and now I am a full fledged tawdry thong wearer YAHOOO!!!!

Ladies, misconceptions aside - if you have ever tried a thong and were not impressed might I suggest that you were wearing the WRONG style for you. Thongs come in so many sizes.. as for the commentary about having 'undies up your butt' - thongs actually make that experience LESS disruptive then full backed panties do... it's mere physics - you have full back panties and they creep up - they will end up in your crack. Now, I'd much rather have a delicately soft piece of fabric grazing that area then having a handful of cotton bunched up like a towel in there!!!

My initial experience with thongs was not great, as I said, there are so many styles. I found if it was too tight it 'did' feel uncomfortable (same as full back panties tho). I also found that I preferred the very thin t-back thongs where you barely feel like you are wearing a thing! Thongs provide GREAT lines under dress pants - make em' wonder if you are wearing any at all!! Just like with full back panties too, you have to pick the right 'height' of panty - it IS tacky to have your thong showing above the waist of your jeans - no ands-ifs-or-BUTTS! Thongs aren't privy to being shown when ladies bend over though, we've all seen our fair share of icky full backed flashes when in 'full bend' I'm sure.

I do believe that thongs are the best choice if you do not require panties for 'shapely support'. In that case it would be best to wear a seamless boy-short.. I agree. But for the most part - wearing a thong - or at least TRYING a FEW out is fun! I definitely feel a little sexier when my bf is well aware that I have a kinky pair on under my jeans. Even clothes feel better - less constricting...

Oh.. and did I mention that most men LOOOOOOVE IT???? Yep, shocking as that may seem they do! And as a former skeptic myself, I have to say I'm voting with the men on this one. It's wroth a try ladies - try different types, fabrics.. I am sure you will find one that you end up buying every shade of before you know it! And guys, if you read this.. pass it along to your girl.

.........ummm... and just so it's not left unsaid... guys.... the same vote doesn't go for you. A thong on a guy is actually a huge turn off! Trust us, it does nothing to enhance the packaging. Boxer briefs are my undie of choice for the man in my life.

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Cheers xoxo!! (by the way - hot pink is what I'm wearing now)

Drive him wild... slip that condom on FOR him...

2008-05-22T10:40:00.007-04:00

Ahhh the condom! The moment where your 'brain' interrupts you before running >>>full steam ahead>>> lol! A pressure cooker for many guys. Fumbling, awkward, worrying about maintaining an erection and putting the darned thing on... yeah... not exactly the *highlight* for many couples. Never mind keeping up your momentum of having HER stay in the 'zone' too. So, I'll tell you a little story...

I never realized what a HUGE deal it was until I saw my bf's reaction. Reached in my side table drawer, pulled out the condom, ripped it open with my teeth, pinched the tip and SLOWLY eased it down over him. This little tid-bit happened to drive my bf WILD!!! He was so impressed and it completely heightened the experience all together - never again would the 'condom-putting-on' be one of those rushed and clumsy moments - it suddenly became a part of foreplay!!!

It's not a difficult feat ladies.. and practicing on your man can be half the fun - tease him with it.. tell him he can't touch... that you want to make him ready for the ride you're about to give him ;o) Aside from the fact that it's a life saving safety measure - and the fact that most men would rather not use them - having the woman participate in making the condom wearing process a kinky one can benefit you both ;o)

The ripping open with the teeth measure is optional obviously lol!!! It happens to be one of the parts my bf finds alluring though. Open the condom, take a quick check that you have it the right side up, place on his head (lower head fyi!) squeeze the tip of the condom to remove the air - and the IMPORTANT part now.. is to use BOTH hands and lightly slide that bad boy on - I like to continually stroke both hands downwards one after the other until I reach the base... Trust me on this ladies, he'll be even harder for you when it's time to enjoy him ;o)

Of course.. going bare is my favourite.. but only if you are in an exclusive relationship and are clear of any std possibilities.. until then, make condom wearing a part of your *play routine* - it'll make something that you do to be responsible.. just a little more fun ;o)

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Cheers xoxoxo!

p.s. and happy dome-wearing 2 u!

Internet sparks..... my take.......

2008-05-21T10:34:00.002-04:00

Ahhh.. A topic I know a little something about. I admit, I've tested the waters of the internet dating pool. And for me, it was the perfect scenario. I was at home with two young kids so that kept me from being able to socialize at a bar - and REALLY - who EVER meets anyone of 'quality' at a bar?? Internet dating is a time saver for many - you can easily weed out those who don't immediately capture your interest. Pictures can be exchanged prior to any awkward meetings at a coffee shop - WHO has that kind of time to waste these days. Take it from someone whose lived through a marriage before - once you've managed to survive that - you do NOT want to waste any time and you know EXACTLY what you want and DON'T want.

Internet dating was a good avenue for me because I tend to 'type/write' in the same fashion as I speak. Many people, however, don't. You know someone like that I'm sure - someone who is GREAT and personable in PERSON but give them a keyboard to punch away at and you get one word answers that seem completely lame. At the very least, internet dating can give you a glimpse into the person you are communicating with - and most of us know if we feel 'some' sort of a connection or not.

It's also quite easy to move on if you find you are not interested in the other person and there is always someone else to choose from. You have to be somewhat guarded as there are people who misrepresent themselves. Photos are not always legit - I love the idea of having the person you are dealing with hold up today's paper in their photo ;o) Even the TYPES of pictures you view will tell you a lot about the person aside from their looks. Don't even get me started on the 'questionable' photos I was sent... that kinda guy... is TACKY and tactless! And likely more interested in HIMSELF then anything else. Nudie pics?!?!? Seriously - not cool. Besides, that's so much more fun to do once you're actually 'in' the relationship - but that's for another blog tee hee ;o)

A photo exchange early on is a good idea. The last thing either party wants is to feel connected through email/chat exchange and find the person they are speaking with looks NOTHING like how they described themselves or that you are simply not attracted physically. Plus, before getting to know the person's whole life story you can easily decline anything further if the photos don't suit your search. Also, be somewhat guarded as to what 'information' you give out about yourself - don't instantly give out your address or phone numbers.. you don't want to end up with a stalker either.

Be yourself, nerves can be set aside as you have that 'filter' prior to a face-to-face meeting.. And if you connect, if your conversation flows, if the photo exchanges go well.. then make plans to meet. My suggestion is a public place and a short initial meeting to break the ice - leave it open ended so you can decide whether or not you wish to meet again.. and voila!

I was lucky enough to find a needle in a haystack online. How a few clicks can change your life.. let me tell ya!

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Cheers xo!!!

...the ceremony

2008-05-12T10:20:00.001-04:00

Letting go of the old and starting anew...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxqvjW0zYFg

In sync or speaking another language... or both...

2008-05-08T09:31:00.003-04:00

Ahhh the difference in how the sexes speak... It's inevitable I suppose. I'm figuring that you should consider yourself lucky if you find someone who is on the same ~wavelength~ 'most' of the time. After all, we are all individuals with unique thoughts, theories and beliefs. Something I believe strongly is that two differing thoughts do not indicate one is right and one is wrong - they are merely, different.

Compromising to respect one another's different thoughts is ideal - (it's not a win or lose situation) it all depends on how much you want the end result to flow together. I try very hard to step back and look at the big picture, however I too am guilty of being sucked into spiral thinking when emotions run high & I feel passionate about something. There are many situations where we mentally weigh the situation & strive to see the 'how will we ever meet' on certain topics. I suppose, if you are trying to see the how in working through your differences.. you are likely making your relationships and communications stronger for it.

Human nature.. what you believe, you achieve - don't they say? So when do you decide to feel weaker and BEND? When do you stand your ground? When do you cross over? I think the best bet is to always TRY to put yourself in the other person's position - as difficult as that may be, it will usually grant you with some sort of appreciation. Appreciating one another's view points (whether or not you ultimately agree) is the best form of compassion and will lead to a common respect regardless of whether or not you agree.

Some topics may have you distanced so far from one another that it brings up the point that men and women will always speak different languages. I hate to generalize though, I'd rather believe that it all comes down to circumstance. If it's not a 'deal breaker' situation, then take it as an 'issue' & do not allow it to rupture your entire relationship. For me, it always comes down to whether or not I am feeling 'good' most of the time.. or not. That is my indicator. However, there are moments where we all have to fall before we can pick ourselves back up again. That's just a part of life..

In the end, there is much to be left up to interpretation... clarity and compassion are always key.

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Cheers... (no kisses n' hugs today)

...and the award for the most romantic proposal ever goes to:

2008-05-05T15:36:00.002-04:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fNYs3vR-qYg

Ahhhh leave it to a gay man to know exactly how to do it ;o) That scene literally gives me goosebumps and I've watched it several times now!!! Simple, honest.. touching. A moment in time that will forever be remembered. No fancy restaurant, no crowd of people, no outrageous display - genuine... how refreshing is that?!

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Cheers xo!

Ahhh love... it's good stuff...

2008-05-02T09:19:00.003-04:00

So, this article made me nod my head several times... some interesting little tid bits about how we are affected by love.

http://msn.chemistry.com/msnarticles/25-love-factoids?trackingid=508259&bannerid=2002322&GT1=26000

After enduring the end of an engagement & the dissolution of a marriage in my lifetime, the man I have now found definitely has the 'it' factor. How does one know this, well there are many ways - one of which is certainly having the experience of past relationships. Growing platforms, hopefully leading you to the right person or to learn more about what you want in the 'right person'. Once you know it, everything else seems to fit.

Side note here: If you really love someone, the feelings of 'love'... and this is important... LAST. There should be no compromising on that point. Comfort level should only indicate a deeper more lasting love - that continues to make you feel GOOD... otherwise, it's indifference. I believe, when you are truly in love, you find yourself doing whatever it takes to keep it strong and growing.. and feeling the way it should...

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Cheers xo!

Good tips to ponder.. and a little splash of my own thoughts on point 16

2008-05-01T13:35:00.002-04:00

16 things it took me over 50 years to learn:
by Dave Barry, Nationally Syndicated Columnist

1. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.

2. If you had to identify, in one word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, and never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be 'meetings.'

3. There is a very fine line between 'hobby' and 'mental illness.'

4. People who want to share their religious views with you almost never want you to share yours with them. (Ahhh Zeitgeist - love a challenge, wake up peeps!)

5. You should not confuse your career with your life.

6. Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance. (This one isvery important) Rhythm or not fellas - shake it, it's a huge turn on!!

7. Never lick a steak knife. Lotsa better things to lick ;op

8. The most destructive force in the universe is gossip.

9. You will never find anybody who can give you a clear and compelling reason why we observe daylight savings time.

10. You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she's pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.

11. There comes a time when you should stop expecting other people to make a big deal about your birthday. That time is age 11. ...or 33 ;o)

12. The one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender,religion, economic status or ethnic background, is that, deep down inside, we ALL believe that we are above average drivers.

13. A person, who is nice to you, but rude to a waiter, is not a nice person.(This is very important. Pay attention. It NEVER fails.)

14. Your friends love you anyway. and ALWAYS

15. Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic. But a genius built the sybian lol!!!

16. Thought for the day: Men are like fine wine. They start out as grapes;and it's up to the women to stomp the crap out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with... I prefer: Men are like fine wine.. pick a good one and savour it!!! Let it fill you up and warm your insides ;o)

Cheers xo!!!

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Losing friends via divorce...

2008-04-29T17:17:00.005-04:00

Never, did I EVER think it would happen to me. My friends were CLOSE.. I mean like SISTERS to me. They saw my wounds from a loveless marriage. They endured the pain with me.. they consoled me.. they empathized.. they AGREED that I had to get out. I had three sister-like friends - closer then close.. people I thought I would know well into my 90's. One I had known for almost 30 years, another for 20 and the final 'sister-friend' I had been inseparable with for 10 years. We experienced so much together - growing up.. getting married.. having babies.. having marital issues.. and yes, I was the only one who went through with leaving. Biggest balls in the bunch! And lovingly, they would have agreed with that sentiment. Out of these three sister-friends.. only one now remains. Sad.. isn't it.. people told me that would happen and I still didn't believe it could be.

These sister-friends knew my pain inside & out. They knew that my spirit would endure all that would come with regards to leaving my marriage. They clearly saw it.. everything that was so wrong. I dug deep, I saw a very bright light at the end of the tunnel and I knew the ones I loved most would be there waiting for me and seeing me through. And now.. there is one..

Then two sister-friends turned their backs once I was out.. once the dust had settled and I had moved on with my new life - and they saw that I was happy.. that I was decent towards my ex-husband.. that I was making the best life for my children and myself.. THIS is when they turned. Were they jealous that I got out and bettered my life as I said that I would??? Were they unable to accept that I had a new man who was everything I'd dreamed of?? Those who know me best know that I love intensely, that I am all-giving.. but cross me and cut me one too many times and I will never give you a second thought. I do expect to get what I give.. and you know what, we all should.. I expect the people I allow to get THAT close to be there for me as intensely and loyally as I would be for them. Why should there be any exceptions to that?

I can say, with everything I have been through.. I do not harbour any regrets. I hold my head high and still feel that burning spirit inside that will carry me through. For those who choose to judge me or cause me pain.. I know you will feel the void of my friendship. It will be a lesson.

And now, I hold tightly and ever more appreciatively to my closest friends.. I keep faith in myself that I will live my best life without allowing negative opinions to influence me.. and be proud that I've found the strength to do so.

So, if you find you are a friend of someone who is enduring separation or divorce.. listen.. be supportive.. it's THEIR life.. and you are their friend.. treat them as you would want to be treated and supported in return. Opinions and judgements aside - however, that's a recipe for a good friendship regardless of what one may be going through.

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=9467&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=7&GT1=26000

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Cheers xo!

Divorced.. and I still believe in happily ever after...

2008-04-26T10:47:00.006-04:00

I've been separated for about 2 years now. It was a testament to keeping my faith in deserving the ~happily ever after~ I've always believed was possible. It's a part of my fundamentals, keeping a hope that *truly happy* is a real concept, it does exist.. and that I would have that in my life.

Speak to anyone who initiated a separation or divorce.. it's not about 'giving up' or 'throwing in the towel' - it's about fighting to save yourself. There are so many people who are not strong enough to muster the internal strength it takes to get out of a bad marriage/relationship. When you resign yourself to staying in a situation that is unhappy, survival mode kicks in and many people become mere shells of what they once were... now just going through the motions... stuck.

Losing my Mother at a young age has given me an internal drive that is 'all too aware' that life is much too short & for what little time we have, we owe it to ourselves to make the most if it. I left my marriage with two young children in tow. I was well aware that being a shell of myself in my marriage would only lead me to being a shell of a mother too - survival mode does that to a person. I knew I deserved better, I knew my children deserved better... and the stirring inside of me *believed* that 'happily ever after' existed... that we are all capable of attaining it.

Many people become jaded and lose faith in the 'happily ever after' scenario when they've endured the pain of divorce. That is a warranted stance - however, at some point if you want to have a genuinely happy relationship in your life again - you have to leave those negative connotations in your past. After all, no one would expect you to remarry your ex - and most would hope that you'd find someone that made you *believe* once again.

Enduring the pain of divorce warrants it - you can endure! Moving on from divorce means truly accepting the vulnerability and believing you can trust your happiness once again with a new person. No one can predict what tomorrow will bring - but don't you think, believing it will be happy - might just make today's outlook a little more enjoyable - then anticipating repetitive doom. Yeah... exactly!

Cheers xo!

The dating game...

2008-04-26T10:02:00.002-04:00

Ever since I can remember I've been *relationship girl*.. I was never interested in the mind games that I believed dating encompassed. In fact, since I was 16 I've pretty much gone from relationship to relationship. Not for fear of being alone but just because I was *good* at it. I always took into consideration what would make my bf's happy. I wanted to be that gf that made the person I was with, only want to be with me. I wanted to meet the right one, and enjoy being together from then on. From the instant I entered into a new relationship I wore my heart on my sleeve. There were no 'fronts' no 'impression stages' I put myself out there and I gave it my all, and that seemed to work. Thing is, not everyone I ended up with had the same intentions - however, that's something you don't realize until it's usually too late. I still think it's better to emerge having learned a lesson then completely wasted your time in the first place. I suppose that's all about the perspective you take.

One, I realized after accepting a proposal, another I realized after marriage and two young children.. Now that I'm older and wiser.. I find I see things even more clearly. It wasn't the wrong decisions, it was simply the wrong people. The very thought of head-games that so many 'daters' play makes me nauseous. At this stage of the game, I can say I HAVE LEARNED... I am a giver - and it's all or nothing with me.. I haven't changed much since I was a young girl - only my receptors have changed - making me more aware of what's out there and what truly makes me happy. My gut instinct says that dating is a waste of time, you learn the most about what you want and who 'works' with you when you are in a more exclusive, deeper relationship. This is when inhibitions are cast aside and you can establish what is REAL.

It is completely risky to be unguarded.. but at least it's true. I've read too many articles where they advise the girl to 'play hard to get'.. 'act aloof' to cause the man to 'chase' you. Or tips for men that suggest he 'play the bad boy' or 'cater to her every whim' - if that's not YOU.. why BOTHER??

Compromising or working together in a relationship is always beneficial.. but start that relationship off being truest to yourself first. The right person, the person you will enjoy being with most will be the one who takes you as you are - and won't cause you to feel you are taking a gamble or risk or feel as though you're being played.

It's a jungle out there - if you find a good one - hold on tight!

Cheers xo!

tid bits from a chick in heels

Things that make women happy.... okay, THIS woman....

Shows I like....

Do you REALLY know what your partner wants??

taste test...

The drive of a man ~ female style ~

Embracing your sexual alter ego...

Jesse James Sandra Bullock - Affairs....

The Bachelor - overpowered by the pussy!

kissing...

Tiger Woods ....Another guy who thinks he just won't get caught

My tramp stamp...

Beejers...

I hate it when I don't get laid....

Love thru the ages... does it change?

Messy sex

The tendency to go 'SAFE' after being *burned*...

Do men only get married for pussy???

My thoughts on masturbating...

The perfect tease...

What men want women to know....

Playful sex.... taking the reigns...

Cut or Uncut - my preference.........

My personal man turn offs....

What I've learned from my build up sex experiences...

Patience.. build up.. horny...

Visually stimulating... Position chit chat...

Boobies ( o )( o )

There is no "i" in TEAM but there is an *M* and *E*

Peen-eye!!!

Fucking vs. soul sharing....or maybe BOTH!!!

The two sides of jealousy...

Online dating... how to get started

Aggressive sex....

Social networking sites... make cheating easy

Regular reminiscing ~ a relationship tip...

Blow jobs...always essential!!!

Men complaining about their wives... and sex lives

Sex in a car ..or truck ..or anything u can park!!

Reuniting after a break up???.... NEVERRRRR!!!

Bromance ...gotta love it!

SEX... yes, it's ALWAYS on my mind ;o)

SHE'S just not that into you...

Anal sex ...

Rub'n'tug...

Public displays of affection....

Valentine's Day.... my take....

"Keep the fights clean & the sex dirty!!!"

I always thought I had a different point of view...

Is your sexual schedule in sync?...

One girl's review of the 'Viagra' experience...

Lingerie ...a MUST!!!

Regular sex doesn't guarantee a good sex life... it's all about SPICE!

Dirty talk... Gotta give it a try!!!

Saying "I love you" and what that means to your relationship...

Female sex drive...

Worshipping the penis...

The road from ~sweet kitty~ to ~dirty MILF~ ...

Just when I thought I was the expert of the ORGASM...

Jeans on a man... what does it for me....

Sex addict..... interesting!

Unhappily together.... not always!

Shaved pussy... meow!

kinky bedroom play mixed in with some lovin.. = the full spectrum ;o)

Sex on a boat...

A woman's view on whether 'SIZE' matters...

Threesome fantasy play...

Not every woman wants a man with a 'perfect' body...

The meaning behind HOW u fight & GREAT make-up sex!!!...

Female squirting... It's real, it's fantastic!!!

Thoughts from a woman who loves the *p*...

Love wearing thongs...

Drive him wild... slip that condom on FOR him...

Internet *sparks*..... my take.......

...the ceremony

In sync or speaking another language... or both...

...and the award for the most romantic proposal ever goes to:

Ahhh love... it's good stuff...

Good tips to ponder.. and a little splash of my own thoughts on point 16

Losing friends via divorce...

The tendency to go 'SAFE' after being burned...

There is no "i" in TEAM but there is an M and E

Thoughts from a woman who loves the p...

Internet sparks..... my take.......