When one is just a little more invested than the other - relationship style..

You've likely experienced this on one end of the spectrum or the other... because in MOST relationships, I believe one person is just a LITTLE more invested (or a LOT) more invested in a long term look out, than the other.

I've experienced this myself, or so I'm told, I 'think' that's the case but maybe it's really more equal than I perceive. That undying love, the unlimited adoration, that life long unwaivering committment because you just fall THAT hard for someone. Now, carrying that feeling on as the relationship flourishes is the KEY to what is ACTUALLY legitimate love and what is the mere 'newness' feeling.

I have also been witness to a difference in the level of 'investment' in a newer relationship. It sort of scared me because I saw myself.. but I think, if you don't put yourself out there and TRY, then you'll just never know what might have been. I believe it's those who are brave enough to bare their emotions who are willing to be open and invest the most.

But what if it is truly unbalanced? This is where the problems come into play. One person see's the relationship as "love" and the other sees it as casual dating. One person see's the future with a forever partner (not cowboy kinda pard'ner lol!), and the other see's a fuck buddy. One person wants to commit and the other does not.

The 2 biggest issues here are that people are either not honest or not 'completely' honest because maybe the situation fits their need at the present time... or the person who is so deeply 'falling or invested' is only seeing what they WANT to see and not the reality of the situation.

Let's not forget that PLENTY of people just 'settle' into a relationship because it's there, those are the ones I worry about - the ones who make you wonder if their toe may still be keeping the door slightly ajar...

That's my blabbering for today xo!

~C~

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Things that make women happy.... okay, THIS woman....

SEX - Well, for sex to happen you have to be in a good place right? So you're happy, feeling loved and desired.. and then you get to cum!!! Win-win!!!

BACK RUBS.... In fact, I have an ongoing fantasy about going for a massage where it leads to all sortasa nasty goodness hehe! Fellas, take note - back rubs relax us, make us feel GOOD - in turn, we'll wanna make YOU feel good too!

WINE - another relaxer.... is it just me or does a nice glass o'vino warm up your pink parts even more????

PDA's - okay, not a wet frenchie kiss in the middle of the grocery store - but hand holding... a guy's hand on my lower back when we're out... simple little signs that he's into ME when we're out and about ;o)

REMINDERS - reminders that he's into you.... it can be as simple as a text message, a card... a snuggle with a hard c*ck at the end of a long day ;o) TMI?? Well, it is MY blog peeps!!!

KITCHEN MAKE OUTS - I don't know of any girl who wouldn't like a little sneak up from behind while making dinner or doing dishes - yes those tasks need to get done and are mundane, but add a little 'I'd still f.ck ya' squeeze into the mix from my man and YOWZA - that will make my day!

BEING COMPLIMENTED - Okay, I love being complimented by my fella - makes me feel GOOD inside and out... ie: Dancing with the stars was on, and lie or not - it felt great to know he thought I was just as hawt as one of the curvier dancers (not Kristie Ally - love her tho!)... hehe!

BEING TREATED LIKE A GF - although many of us hold the wife title or 'life partner' (PUKE) - no one really wants to be treated like the dowdy ol' wife.... so here's a little tip for the fellas - you want us to f.ck you like we're your GF and not just your old ball n' chain? Then TREAT us like we're your spicy hawt gf!!!! And ladies - this works in reverse too. Give'n'take peoples!!!

BEING APPRECIATED - again, a give and take situation here - remember the GF/BF ideal as mentioned above ^^^ if your Gf had come over and done your laundry or made you dinner - you'd be so thankful, don't let those little moments of appreciation ever slip away ;o)

That's all for now, stay kinky!

Chick xo

Shows I like....

Sooo... I decided to write about something a little different. Just stuff ;o) Today, it's TV shows I looove! Here we go...

SURVIVOR - Easy, Jeff Probst is the host of all hosts - can you imagine ANYONE else in his place - ahhh no! However, I will say that my interest in this show depends entirely on the cast & over the years there have been better seasons than others. For the upcoming season I'm hoping to see Boston Rob mess with Russell - but really.. who doesn't miss Coach? I can't be the only one... loved to hate that guy!

THE BACHELOR - or Bachelorette depending on the season. It's my guilty pleasure. I look forward to Monday's whenever it's on - sad but true. I'm a hopeless romantic at heart so it's fun to get sucked into those 'created moments' and fascinating date excursions.. but I also love to witness the drama. I'm a fan of http://www.realitysteve.com/ who gives us the REALITY behind this show in the snarkiest and most awesome of ways - and even when I know the ending (thanks Steve!) I want to watch the mental shakedowns that take place while getting down to the final rose/proposal/walk-away.. what have you... Clearly, I'm not alone - The Bachelor has been around for a long time. The only reason to go on this show is as a gateway to SOME semblance of fame - those going on to find TRUE love... c'mon!

MODERN FAMILY - Anyone who has not watched this show IS MISSING OUT!! This show is so well written - the storylines are priceless and sometimes realistic. The hilarity is the key here though. From the rich old guy with the busty Columbian wife and step-son, to the gay couple with the adopted daughter and the wife/husband + 3 kids-combo - it's an easy watch, so funny and all of the characters are likeable/laughable!!

Okay, COUGAR TOWN has to be one of my absolute FAV's!! I am so bummed if there is a repeat on because I've seen them ALL. Courtney Cox plays Jules - I was a huge 'Friends' fan so I decided to watch this show.. however, my favourite characters are that of Laurie, Ellie, Grayson, Andy and of course the amazing Bobby Cobb!! Laurie is my FAV tho, she's so goofy but completely confident with that - LOVES her! After watching this show I find myself in need of my very own humungus 'Karl' wine glass... Another easy watch with characters that always get the last laugh. And who doesn't want to play *PENNY CAN* over a few drinks with their besties?!


CALIFORNICATION - the sexed up version of Mulder - okay, so Mulder's character couldn't be further from Hank's but if Duchovny does it for you - this show cannot be missed! Had I been described a show about a womanizing, drunk, semi-successful author I likely would have passed.. but Hank and his messed-up-self is totally lovable. Not to mention totally crass and hysterical. The sex and drugs is shocking and interesting at the same time - like being a voyeur in his whacked out life. This show is on HBO which I invested in specifically to watch this gem.



The new season of American Idol is FAN-TASTIC!!! I truly believe that has everything to do with the addition of Steven Tyler. Now, in all honesty - I thought he was their replacement for Paula lol!! Figured he'd be the 'spacey' addition - Was I EVER wrong about that... first of all he's hilarious and secondly, his comments are the most legit if you ask me! I decided to give AI a chance for the first episode only... now, I'm hooked. Had it just been Jennifer/Randy/Ryan I think it would have been a snooze-fest for me but Steven makes it GREAT! Nevermind the weekly eye-sex he has with several of the female contestants - if you haven't noticed THAT part yet you haven't been watching the same show as me lol!!

So... those are some of my fav's... just thought I'd share

Chick xo

Do you REALLY know what your partner wants??

So, you've been together for a while now right? Things are going along swimmingly - or so you think at least. What's KEY is knowing how to KEEP it that way - and the only person that depends on, is your mate. Assuming things are 'great' just because 'you' are happy can be risky.

I think, that after a while, people get complacent, comfortable and perhaps without even realizing end up taking things for granted. I mean, how OFTEN do you stop to think about the things that make YOUR partner happy? When was the last time you did something entirely focused on making your partner feel good?? Even if this crosses your mind, DOING IT is they key - and follow through doesn't have to take a lot of work - but it WILL go a long way ;o)

The thing that people don't do often enough is stop to consider what it is that would REALLY make their partner smile. Ladies, I'm sure many of you would SHOCK the pants off of your man if you initiated sex, tried a new position or wore something sexy to bed. Most guys would list 'anything to do with sex' as their top 5 requests right?! But that's not the ONLY way to focus in on making your fella happy. What's his favourite beer? Pick some up for him - have it in the fridge and he'll see you thought of him. When is the last time you sat and listened to his favourite music and reconnected without having the TV on in the background? I don't know ANY guy who would turn down a back rub either...

Guys, think BEYOND flowers here... what does she REALLY like? When you make her breakfast - but add a little something to that to show you're into her - even a sticky note can go a LONG way to making her feel loved. Give her some loving moments that DON'T necessarily lead to sex... (make a note here fellas - the more of these moments you give the more sex you'll end up having anyways - I SPEAK THE TRUTH!!!).

The REAL key here is actually knowing what it is that would make your partner feel good. Too many people think about that THEY want and not enough about what their PARTNER wants. If you want something in return, try giving it first. If you are always the one giving and you aren't getting the same appreciation in return then there's a problem. It doesn't take hours to make these little moments possible but it can benefit for a long time when you follow through. I think the relationships that go the distance are those that regularly show their appreciation to one another. Think about it, if you're happy where you are now - you'll be glad you did...

Chick xo

taste test...

Let's face it, if you're having ANY fun whatsoever during sex... at some point you are using your mouth for a little more than kissing. If you're not - pull up a chair and take notes people!!

The potential is limitless as to what your lips can do and where your tongue can linger. If your partner is hygienic (and you should expect nothing less) then there should be no hesitation to find out what they taste like from head to toe. If you're like me, the very thought will make you drool with anticipation ;o)

All too many times "if" you receive oral sex it's limited to the foreplay experience alone. This is a travesty!!!! Half the fun of a good session is knowing that a well dipped blow job can come at any time.. or being lapped at after the juices have been forced out of you *blush* ~ yes, I know what I like hehe! Do you know how kinky it is to see what you taste like coming off of your partner's body? It's DEVINE!! Everyone can brush their teeth or rinse their mouths later - when in the moment the key is to LET GO and ~play~ outside the box (and in hehe!).

Don't confine yourself to the foreplay only oral sex treatment - some people are so uptight they won't even kiss after giving or receiving oral sex - c'mon!!!!! Sex is all about fun and lust and being just a little bit daring... It's not about hesitating - you'll only experience true bliss if you let go of any worry and let the intensity of the moment carry you away!!!

There's an entire body to savour - don't go missing out!!

Vote on the poll above, comment below, email me your topic suggestions or questions to chicktidbits@live.ca ~ most importantly get your tongue exercise regularly and come back often!!

Cheers,

Chick xo

The drive of a man ~ female style ~

"I love dick. To be honest, that I cannot live without."
- Christina Aguilera tells Out

Oh Christina - I hear ya sister!!!!!! I was asked once, if I could have sex whenever I wanted to - how often would I want it? ...The answer was instant "once a day!!" (sometimes more if I can get it!!! But definitely once a day is my ideal).

I've been told I give a BJ 'with love' - and I know I do.... do you know why? Because I DO LOVE IT!! I love the look of it, the feel of it, the scent, the taste.... it's crazy right?! If guys think about sex every 7 seconds, then I think about it every 5 lol!!

So now I wonder... for all the guys who think they could never be out-sexed by a woman... have you ever really had that experience? I know my breed is a rare one lol! I've had men say to me "we'll see if you can keep up" and I think... oh honey, you have NO IDEA who you're dealing with here - for as long as I can remember, I've had this relentless drive.

I tend to think that guys who have highly sexual women lose something in the pursuit -the chase - the 'hunter' side of a man. If guys can have great sex whenever they want it, does it lose some of it's lustre? Would men rather carry the torch of domination when it comes to s.x? I think most men THINK they would want a highly sexual woman but if they had one - it may overwhelm instead of turn them on...

Share your opinions here, leave a comment, email me your ideas chicktidbits@live.ca, vote on the poll above and visit me again!!

cheers,

Chick xo