kissing...

I recently read that guys only REALLY want to kiss if it leads to sex... WELL YEAH!!!! If ONLY it were that EASY eh fellas? More times than not I could go for the kiss'n'dip lol! I do however, think kissing says a LOT about the kind of relationship you have. You can tell when you're being kissed as a courtesy, or kissed with passionate urgency or kissed lovingly - there ARE big differences. Personally, I think ALL types should exist in your relationship repertoire.

There are a LOT of awkward kissers out there. You know them, the slobber'ers', the eyes-wide-open kissers, the tongue down your throat - or oopposite - tongue is afraid to come out kissers, the kiss you like you're a sibling kissers, the never open their mouth's kissers, the biters, etc.... Pay CLOSE attention to whether or not you've been complimented on your kissing abilities - if not, then there's likely a GOOD reason for it... maybe it's time for a new attempt.

Why I think all kisses are important in a relationship is easy - peck on the lip kisses are necessary because there are times when that's all that's called for - In public places, around family and friends.... the little peck kisses are good then. However, if you are in the midst of a foreplay session - peck on the lip kisses are a NO NO! Passionate kissing is the opposite - NOT to be done in public or around others - save that for more intimate moments. This is when you kiss with a little more pressure and urgency - use your tongue - heavy breathing, you get the idea... I think anyone can handle working the kisses I've described here - even tho not everyone is good at it ;o)

I think the most important kiss that is a tell tale sign of your relationship is the loving kiss. The one where you can FEEL there's meaning behind it. Maybe it's gentle, it's definitely MORE than the peck on the lips - but a little more loving than the 'I'm about to take you' kiss - somewhere in the middle. I think it's softer, fingers running through your hair maybe, just the right amount of tongue - maybe the slightest nibble... It's the one that every now and again - makes u dizzy ;o)

All too many couples lose the zest for decent kissing as a relationship goes on. Anyone saving those good kisses solely for use in the bedroom, are missing out. (and a hint... what better way to end up in the bedroom then the spontaneous kiss in the kitchen - ahhhh! Now you get it!!). I truly believe anyone who isn't putting an effort into making out with decent kissing is losing out on real intimacy. You want more passion - then give it, and start with those luscious lips of yours will ya?!

MWAH!!!

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Chick xo!

Tiger Woods ....Another guy who thinks he just won't get caught

I think even the skeeviest of guys is shaking their heads at Tiger's 'transgressions' and his complete lack of control. Talk about a fall from grace. Was this guy wound so tight that he had to have SOMETHING give eventually? Maybe... or maybe he's just one o those types who thinks they can have their cake and eat it too. That shit always catches up to you though - in one way or another. In Tiger's case I think the count is up to 12 and increasing...

Who knows what the back story is here... how unhappy his marriage was, etc. I'll be the first one to sympathize with the pains of being in a sexless marriage - but was that REALLY the case here? I doubt it - they have a 9 month old baby - and the affairs were ongoing for years with some of these women... Clearly, invincible on the course does not mean invincible in life. It's one thing if your spouse is aware of the lacking in a marriage - but to present it as 'perfect' and continue to welcome children into the mix - it just screams GREED. It's not a situation where he went onto meet his soul mate here - he was pokin' a hole in any warm place that was offering. Not to mention the deets coming out about being unprotected during these indiscretions - yuk! Gawd help his wallet if he ends up passing STD's around this already skanky mess.

And ya know, even if you're married to a dreadful hag - if you have the MEANS (and we all KNOW he did) then *man up* and get out!!! Tiger's flaw was maintaining the facade of perfection while living a lie. I do think that most guys, if they figure they had the capability of getting away with it - would cheat - and still keep their cushy lives at home in tact. That's likely why a lot of affairs DO happen - because people think they'll get away with it. Most think of covering their tracks, not what they will lose when they DO get caught. I hate to think what his kids will feel as they grow up and are able to access the truth about their Dad and what he CHOSE to do... that kinda stuff is irreparable.

I heard a good analysis of this issue recently.... that Tiger was a pretty 'geeky' fella growing up. That he was mastering his golf game instead of sowing his wild oats when he was younger... so it was building up in him and had to come out eventually. It just happened to come out at a time when he was married with two young children and pinned a spotlight on his complete lack of control over himself.

So why is Tiger suffering under such public opinion and David Letterman did not? Well, David Letterman spoke out prior to the public's general knowledge of the indiscretions. ALSO, people seem to have a lot more tolerance for cheating if you are with a 'girlfriend' or 'boyfriend' as opposed to a 'spouse' who holds a marriage license. As committed as some people may be, that piece of paper that defines you as 'married' does hold a lot of weight. In other words, had Tiger only been living with Elin and not married to her - I'd bet his 'transgressions' wouldn't be so newsworthy. Sad, but true...

Even if Tiger had legitimate feelings for the women he had affairs with, the sheer number of women discounts any meaning here... I sure hope he thinks it was worth it - his life will never be the same again.

So if you're going to cheat - and you don't have the b@lls to leave your marriage/relationship first - then make sure you are fully prepared for the sh.t to hit the fan. And ensure that you are prepared to lose the person you betrayed because more times than not, it's inevitable. Some situations may seem worth it - but I can tell you, it's NEVER an easy road to take.

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Chick xo

My tramp stamp...

So this is my new tattoo... purdy huh? I wanted something feminine and flowy. Tat's are edgy enough to go through with and I wanted something that would look pretty... always. Pretty, for a "tramp stamp" eh? Gawd I lothe that term. Lower back tat's get a bad wrap. I think the term tramp stamp should belong to someone who is daft enough to put cherries dangled at the top of their ass crack - or the words 'back door lover' - that kinda thing. Truth be told the lower back is one of the SMARTEST places to get a tat. The skin doesn't tend to change a whole lot - it can be well hidden if need be - or displayed when those intimate moments call ;o) Oh... and did I mention that they are fawkin' sexy too??? Well, at least I think so!!

My new tat covered one that I had done when I was 18 - it wasn't even half as pretty (and I can say that cuz I had designed the first little one). For a LONG time I had wanted to update it or change it - and now that summer was over I decided to go through with it. I forgot what tattooing felt like - and it felt a LOT different from how I 'thought' I remembered it - I think that had everything to do with the fact that my new tat was at least 4 times the size of my first. Some spots I could take okay - but SOME spots definitely had me gritting my teeth argggggg!!! I sat slung over a barber-style tattoo chair for about 2 & 1/2 hours - OUCH!!! I couldn't wear proper pants for a week but ya know - it was worth it - I love it!!!

Tattoos are so much more popular now than they were when I got my first tat. Personally, I like one tattoo - a focal point - but I do "get" it - it's a creative outlet. I don't understand people who get them to show their toughness or memorialize a pet?! I flipped through a tattoo magazine while I was being ink'd and saw a girl with a 'strawberry shortcake' on one arm and 'hello kitty' on another - WTF - really W-T-F???????

Anyways, I like my tattoo - tramp stamp - whatever u wanna call it - good thing too, from what I hear - it'll be there for a while ;o) I think I'll call it my 'tramp stamp' when I'm feelin' frisky and my tattoo when I'm feeling like a 'good girl' hehe!!

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Chick xo

Beejers...

Ya know why BJ's are virtually non-existent after marriage... because MOST women (if they are honest) do not LIKE giving them. The only reason they do give them is to PLEASE their man... Yup, I said it - it's true! Rare is the woman who LIKES to give BJ's - If you find one - HOLD ON TIGHT!!! For whatever twisted reason couples seem out to 'impress' one another until marriage - then they often times seem to just 'give up' - and the sex is the first to go.

Think about this... do you have to coax your woman into giving you a bj? Do you have to ask for it? Is it hard enough to get sex as often as you want it - so you don't wanna push it with a request for oral play??? Then guess what... she doesn't LIKE it.

If a woman feels unloved or unappreciated and that you only want to give her attention in order to get sex - guess what - she likely won't wanna blow you. So... that part aside, let's figure you are a good guy - attentive - loving - someone who spends time pleasing your woman - then you SHOULD expect some lickin' love in return ;o) But I guess the REAL key is how do you get your woman to LIKE doing it other than just to please you....???

My tips are simple. First off, be very clean - I don't just mean having your morning shower, going to work all day then expecting a lick-fest that night. Tidy up right before you get physical.. if you can, grab a quick shower.. if that's not possible then make your way to the bathroom and do a sink/dink-rinse ;o) Secondly, pay attention to the BUSH - yes guys - your man-forests!! If you are comfortable - go hairless (my personal favourite - allows me to lick and suck and drip all over my guy's skin).. If bald-eagle isn't your style MAKE SURE you groom - yes, trim those pubes fellas!!! Get down there, and trim away - the less hair the better chance your woman will want to venture south. I mean think about it - would you prefer to munch on a hairy bush or glide your tongue and lips across some 'barely there' action?? - the answer is simple... My final tip is to pay close attention to what your partner likes or dislikes about oral sex... If she doesn't want you to cum in her mouth - don't! If she doesn't want you to hold the back of her head and force her to take you deeper - don't!! The more comfortable you can make your woman the more apt she will be to TAKE you down...

A little tid bit - if you find a woman who likes to give a bj, will take it in her mouth, wants you to pull her hair while you shove it deeper into her throat... (*blush*)... keep'er ;o)

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Chick

I hate it when I don't get laid....

Yeah, that's the MAN in me I guess - I just get *miserable* when I go a day or so without it. It actually pisses me off!!! No wonder guys are at the mercy of most women when it comes to getting some action. At least I know I will have relief in the very near future - I can't imagine what kind of tension would build up if I did not have a foreseeable cum within site.

For as RILED up as I get.. I won't 'do the deed' myself at this point... it's been too long (3 days eek!!) and when I get to this place the only reasonable release would have to come from nothing less than a FUCK RAMPAGE. (where did that LADY in me go???)... don't worry she'll show face again when it's time to cuddle ;o) FYI, it won't be time to cuddle until I can no longer stand up lol!!

Seriously, am I the only one who gets this way??? I wanna be kissed and grabbed, pushed up against the wall and ripped apart... over and over and OVER again ;o) After a day or so I wanna f.ck my guy like he's being punished for keeping it from me. Make him PAY... As much as that may make me sound like a man - that's what makes me ALL woman!!!

What do u think? Do you get cranky without sex?? Is it a slow boil for u or an instant FLASH ATTACK that oozes from your pores??

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Chick

Love thru the ages... does it change?

From puppy love.. to dreamy teenage dating.. twenties romances.. and adult relationships.. do you think the love changes??

At first it's all so innocent - puppy love that is. It's easy and it just IS - because you don't know any better. It's giddy and it's part of being a little kid at some point. Teenage relationships are usually hormone driven/inspired.. so much is changing and new emotions come onto the scene. In your twenties you are exposed to the 'bar scene' of dating and relating - perhaps you're looking for that 'lifetime mate'... or what may be the START of that kind of relationship. Getting a true taste of Independence, perhaps a career is started... Into your thirties, fourties and so on seems to be a little more 'settled and directed'... you have some sort of LIFE established and you want to find someone who fits into that scene without too much of a struggle.

I tend to think, if you've met someone when you were younger and managed to stick it out together and STILL feel the love - then you are indeed, a rarity. I would think, if this is the case then you and your partner obviously were able to grow TOGETHER which isn't usually the norm. If on the other hand, you are in the majority - then you have likely dated several people through several different stages of your life - which will (or has) eventually bring you to whoever you are with at THIS stage of life. I am of the belief that each relationship provides a clearer and clearer picture of what you truly want in a mate. Does the love change? I think so - I believe, the more you have been through the more you understand what you really want in a relationship. I do also think, that whatever the LOVE feeling is for each of us - many of us knew how we wanted it to feel from very early on.

When you're young all you think about is whatever makes you feel good, or who pays attention.. in your twenties it's likely more to do with fun - who fits in with your friends and makes for a good time.. into your thirties and fourties I think you start to get a little bit more grounded and mature about who you want to build a life with.. and onward from there - the important things are who makes you happy and who will be there for you thru the long haul...

Of course life, and kids and bills and jobs.. etc... tend to affect the lives of so many couples. And it's the couples in mid-life who face the challenge of balancing it all - and still wanting their relationship to take centre stage. That's just the thing though, too many people lose site of their relationship being a focal point during this time. Think of the stories of people who send their kids off to college and realize they no longer know one another. Yet, there are those who grow closer and closer over time - and as they go thru various things in their lives - together. You know the ones, the old fogies who are still holding hands. No matter what phase you are in now - I think you have to believe in it - if you really want it.

Regardless, no matter what stage you're in - when you feel the magic - you'll know it. There will no longer be the 'check boxes' for what ideals your mate will fit - they just will. Those relationships are the ones that go the distance. That are meaningful past the first few months ;o)

What's the key... I think, if you want it to be a priority as your life goes on... then it's upto you to make it your priority - hopefully the partner you've chosen will do the same ;o)

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Chick xo

Messy sex

When I think of 'messy sex' I immediately think FUN!!! I mean, who wants neat & tidy boom-boom?! NOT MOI!!! The more bodily fluid that's spewed - the more fun you'll have ;o) There's sweat, spit, blood, cum, squirt... never mind the wine spills (cheers!!). Sheets?! What sheets... that's what laundry is for hehe!

Messy sex is having wildly kinky fun abandoning any inhibitions. Sex without sweat means you're not working hard enough ;o) I pride myself on squirting thru 3 layers of bedding - now THAT's a good time!!! Ever get so riled up with your partner that spitting in their face while you're in the thick of it only ads to how hard you fuck? ...oh, just me then? oops! I'm not talking about EVERY time - that would be a wee bit degrading right?? (hehe!) But... yeah, whenever the mood strikes that makes you wanna rip into your partner's body to GET YOURS ;o)

Don't be afraid of messy sex - everything can be cleaned off later. Let the fluid FLYYYY!!! Slippery, dirty sex is earned I say ;o) If you've ever had the sensation of being squirted, then you know what I'm talkin' about... If you've ever let your yogurt shoot all over her face, you'll be on board with this train of thought hehe! If you have yet to play in this manner - get on board folks. Leave that missionary, lights out, ironed sheet sex for the "happily" married couples hehehe!!! I kid...

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Chick xo!!