Jesse James Sandra Bullock - Affairs....

You know, I’ll bet that Jesse James really did and DOES love Sandra Bullock. You see, most guys who cheat don’t let the potential consequences of their actions enter their minds. To them, the mistress and the wife are two completely separate worlds and for whatever reason, the majority of guys who enter into affairs – figure they can balance both – that one has nothing to do with the other. The excitement and the ‘rise’ are totally separate entities from their family/wife and what could potentially EXPLODE. And when the affair DOES come to light... it usually doesn’t end the way they’d want it to.

I wonder if any of the guys out there are taking pause now at what’s happened with Tiger Woods and Jesse James. Aside from the risk of losing their wives/families over the affair – the chicks they are having affairs with ALWAYS have the potential go to ‘FATAL ATTRACTION’ on them! Whether you think you’re just having a casual fling or are in love with your mistress – love and sex can do CRAZZZZZY things and turn people very ugly! The moment you cross the line, there is potential for that ‘other person’ to show up at your front door and bring to light that dirty little secret. And now with text messages, emails, voice mails, etc... the potential to get caught only increases. Especially if you’re having an affair with someone who is single – most women are gonna want MORE out of the situation at some point. Convincing yourself otherwise is risky business. I think the ONLY time you can AFFORD to have an affair – is when you don’t CARE if you get caught – meaning, you are PREPARED to leave the marriage at all costs. (Plus the chick Jesse James cheated with is just butt f.ckin ugly!!!)...

Now, aside from causing irreparable damage to your relationship with your spouse... consider it double fold if you have children in the picture too. It’s one thing for your spouse to discover your affair but how would you face your children being aware of it? Sandra Bullock became step-mom to Jesse James’ kids – an affair can have far reaching affects. Thing is, most guys won’t THINK on these levels when getting caught up in an affair. A new woman who shows sexual interest in you seems to be so intoxicating to most men that considering the risks of crossing the line doesn’t usually come into play.

I’m thinking most guys who have affairs aren’t CRAZY IN LOVE with their mistresses anyways... figuring they can stop things whenever they decide – not always the way the mistress thinks though. If asked what was more important to them – their wives/families or the mistress – the guys will almost always say that their wife/family means more to them of course... doesn’t mean they don’t want to take the mistress or potential mistress up on what they’re offering!

Most guys have an idea of what they’d like to see in a wife/mother-of-their-children type. And usually it’s NOT the same as what they would want from a mistress. A lot of guys want more sex from their wives but do they REALLY want their wife to be the dirty slut that the mistress is? It’s the old theory of who you ‘can’ and ‘can’t’ bring home & introduce to the folks.... It’s the rare situation where a man feels he has a presentable wife/mother type on one hand, who turns into the vixen/kinky-whore for him in the bedroom. Guys SAY they want a woman who can offer them both sides – but is that really true? Can they separate the dirty girl in the bedroom and the woman who he brings to Easter with the family? Or is the sex he has with his wife more ‘love’ based and the sex he fantasizes about with a mistress more about ‘getting off’ to his deepest darkest desires. For some reason most people don’t have ‘both’ scenarios in the relationship they have with their spouse.

I always say it’s ONE THING if your marriage is in trouble and you could possible ‘see’ that you haven’t been close physically, etc... those weak moments in a relationship always have the potential to create outside interests. But to be completely blindsided (no pun intended Sandy) has to be the worst of the worst. It’s in those cases that I truly believe the guys think... they just wouldn’t get caught... because they probably were pretty happy with their marriages. Sure most people who have affairs aren’t in the public eye – but what about a workplace affair (which is often where it begins) – there probably isn’t as much consideration for how your career can be affected until it’s too late.. Or an affair with someone that your family knows as being part of your circle of friends.. it all has an affect that most involved in the affairs do not consider until all hell breaks loose.

I think the blindside affair has to be the LOWEST of the low. It’s the true con artist who convinces his spouse he’s completely in love and devoted while living a lie... having your cake and eating it too – is ALWAYS too good to be true. Wonder how Jesse's gonna feel when Sandy finds a new man to treat her right... yeah, that's another thing he SHOULD have considered before dipping his wang in the tattoo skank!

If you’re willing to take the risk, you have to really hate your spouse and expect to leave on ugly terms. Chances are that’s how it’s gonna break down – even if things to come to light long after an affair has ended...

That’s my two cents anyways.. vote on the poll, email me your topic suggestions to chicktidbits@live.ca, comment below and come visit me often!! Until next time... think long and hard before digging into the cookie jar kids ;o)

Cheers!!!
Chick xo

The Bachelor - overpowered by the pussy!

I think all a man wants is to be adored but MORE importantly, he wants the ease of getting pussy. I’ve come to this conclusion through my observations as a female and from recently watching THE BACHELOR. Here’s a guy (Jake) who has a choice between a quality woman who is seemingly PERFECT for him (Tenley) but who isn’t giving up the ‘tang’ so easily... Apparently sharing the same morals and values with the Bachelor – isn’t as important as the other woman (Vienna) who is an immature and abrasive extension wearing quack who very EASILY uses the cooter to get what she wants. Guess who he picked.... he is, after all, a man.

It became very clear on the overnight dates. Here’s Tenley – the perfect girl, who has only ever been with her ex-husband – they never show in detail what actually happens on the overnight dates but anyone with half a brain could see that Tenley did NOT screw Jake that night. Vienna – the immature fake blonde (who has risqué pics circling the internet) made it quite clear to the viewing audience as she slipped into a skimpy white camisole, that she was about to TAKE ownership of Jake. And from that night forward, Tenley took a back seat – and Vienna was the front runner.

Even when the girls were faced with meeting Jake’s famiy...the pussy took precedence. Tenley met the family and fit in right away – they LOVED her!! She is, after all, perfect. Vienna went in and the initial reaction was that the family was NOT impressed. Yet, in swoops Jake to ensure they give her the benefit of the doubt – you know why – because she f.cked him good – that’s why! If roles were reversed, Tenley would have been a shoe in. I guess there is something to be said for having some experience under your belt versus saving yourself for marriage these days huh? Goes to show, that a man’s urges are top priority.

Jake is a guy who professes to be very ‘proper’ and a ‘good guy’... listens to his parents advice... thinks he holds himself to these high standards – In reality, he’s like every guy out there – They’re on the hunt for some good pussy and once they find it they wanna make sure they can have it whenever they like. Thing is, most guys end up suffering in the end for putting the needs of their cock ahead of the needs of their LIFE. Those who are able to find a balance between the two – have a RARE catch indeed. This is NOT the case here with the Bachelor. There is NO doubt in my mind that Vienna took him to the base... and when you’re in a competition for a man’s affection – that’ll crown you every time!

That’s the key, if you want to hold onto a guy – f.ck him like no one has, or could ever f.ck him again.

You see it all the time – in those ‘what does he see in HER??’ situations.... I’ll give you the answer 99.9% of the time... it’s all about the PUSSY!

Vote on the poll above, email me at chicktidbits@live.ca for any topic requests/ideas. Comment and come visit me often – I’ll keep more up to date with the blog – been slaggin’ it for a bit ;o)

p.s. for anyone secretly loving the Bachelor/Bachelorette show as I do – make sure to take a moment to read www.realitysteve.com – he knows his stuff and makes watching so much more worthwhile!

Cheers!

Chick xo