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Saturday, April 25, 2009

Aggressive sex....

I’ve gotta admit – the thought of kinky, fun & playfully aggressive sex is a HUGE turn on! This isn’t an everyday occurrence but it’s for those times when the HUNTRESS in me has adrenaline running through my veins. I know what I want and I know how to get it – and sometimes I want more than that!! If you have a willing partner it can be very kinky & exciting to unleash some scratch marks down the back or smacks of the ass ;o)

I would only advise this type of play when both parties find it kinky and fun and more importantly, when there is a LOT of trust and comfort already established. The intent is never demeaning or hurtful – it’s like play-wrestling for example, you kinda want to egg your partner on and see who can end up taking control. (side note: some of the hottest sex can come out of play wrestling lol!!)...

Now, if you’ve never “played” this way before you may want to ‘build it up’ before you completely unleash on your partner. After all, you want them to play along here. Start off with some less obvious moves – nibbles that gradually increase in pressure, light dragging of nails down the back, a firm squeeze of the butt cheeks... If all goes well in time, see how adding more to your repertoire goes. Nipple pinching, ass smacks that leave a good mark, a slight squeeze with your hands around their neck, hair pulling – ohhhh the list goes on!!! Everything in moderation though and the focus is on PLEASURE. The point of invoking aggression into your sex play is to heighten the level of intensity – the passion – the FIRE!!

Most guys would probably say they’d like a girl to be aggressive from time to time in the bedroom. I mean, who doesn’t want to feel like their partner wants to f.ck the shit out of them sometimes?! – Isn’t that the ultimate compliment (oh... okay, maybe it’s just me hehe!).. The reverse is usually true as well – taking turns with the aggressive play is ideal!! Sometimes feeling overpowered and submissive can give you the feeling of being completely TAKEN ;o) There is a level of kinky play here that definitely gets the blood pumping – among other things!!

As much as I love the naughty play (a.k.a. an intense f.ck session ~MEOW~) I will be the first to admit that I wouldn’t want that ALL the time – After all, anything that becomes ‘routine or regular’ defeats the purpose of having those spicy times come into play. Mix it up – sex is so much more intensely fun when you aren’t quite sure how crazzzzzy it’s gonna get ;o)

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Friday, April 17, 2009

Social networking sites... make cheating easy

My motto for Facebook... “Facebook is for stalkers.” Think about it, it’s true. I would venture to guess the MAJORITY of people on these social networking sites are looking to flirt or hook up, not the minority. Do you really think the men on these sites are investing time to catch up with other GUYS they stopped talking to in highschool?! Trust me, most people are drawn in by the intrigue of what friend requests they may receive from the opposite sex. Sure it’s easy to convince ourselves that this is not the purpose of why WE or our PARTNERS are on these sites. It’s simple to believe that private settings mean you are protected from the hunt or being hunted - not so. Just because you know of your partner’s social networking sites and find nothing threatening – don’t be so quick to assume that is the extent of their online activity. ANYONE can create alternate email addresses or an online alias – one in which they distinguish themselves as single, available & looking to hook up.

Between Facebook, Myspace, Twitter.. and so many others – almost every single profile promotes your relationship status. Can you honestly say there is NO possibility that your partner has accounts you are unaware of? How much time does your spouse spend on the computer? Social networking is even promoted in many workplaces as a communication tool. If your partner has access to a computer at work – and who doesn’t? The door is wide open. Whereas before social networking, people might pick up on their partner spending time away from the house, etc – now it’s as easy as having a private email account – logging onto a social networking site and planning a lunchtime meet....

I always say, the more unexplained ‘outings’ your partner requires – or the late nights after work – are all MAJOR red flags!! Be aware...

These are just the regular social networking sites that can present such temptations. Nevermind the dating sites that are now available. There are even sites promoting casual encounters, no strings attached affairs, etc. Ashley Madison is specifically aimed at hooking up people who are married and wish to have an affair. For some reason so many people who find themselves initially intrigued by the attention or new conversations don’t really qualify their online ‘relationships’ as affairs. I say, anything you can’t do in front of your partner’s face – qualifies as an affair – that goes for anything you type in an email/chat too.

How to proceed if you feel there may be questionable behaviour happening in your relationship... There are certainly ways to educate yourself on how to search your computer for online sites that may have been viewed or photos that may have been looked at. Use Google to educate yourself on these techniques if you feel it might be worth a look to ease your mind – or confirm your suspicions. If it means downloading computer monitoring software – do it. If your partner is constantly viewing their blackberry for messages – even after business hours – it’s a fair scenario to ask to see for yourself if things are legit. All too many people are finding out about broken trust through their partner’s online profiles or activities. Be informed that the numbers are on the rise for people using social networking to lead double lives.

The best advice I can give is to be open about your online activities with your partner and expect the same thing in return. Be aware of work related activity on the computer as well – this is a common screen for other things. If you and your partner have nothing to hide from one another – there will be no risk of invading one another’s privacy. Conduct yourself online as if your partner was sitting right beside you... hopefully they will do you the same courtesy.

If you take the risk, prepare for the consequences. Not everyone who uses social networking sites is out to cheat – but be aware – many are and the numbers are on the rise.

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Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Regular reminiscing ~ a relationship tip...

Ever stop and reflect upon your relationship? I happen to think that successful couples do. Not everyday, but once in a while.. thinking about the little moments you've shared - or having pause in your day to think about your main ~squeeze!!~ The secret world that only you and your partner are completely privy to.

I've heard of people who suggest remembering the things that first attracted you to your partner (usually advice given when trouble is already on the horizon)... My suggestion here is that happy couples often draw upon those shared moments because they STILL hold that level of passion. Basically, if you find yourself smiling when you reflect on your life with your partner it means you are still going strong. People who are in unhappy situations don't look back and recall the butterflies.

The moments that make you stop and smile don't have to be the whirlwind trips you took or even anything extravagant - It can be as simple as your first kiss.. A time you laughed so hard together.. How nervous you were before you met.. If you remain in a space where you couldn't imagine anyone else sharing those experiences with you, than you are likely still moving along strong!!

Remember the spice... does it still stir something inside you today? There is no reason to lose that first feeling of desire and lust. If you still want to impress one another, if you still feel the passion and excitement that drew you together in the first place - you are golden!! If you still think about your partner and want to rip their clothes off - you've GOT IT!

So take a moment, reflect, remember... do you still get tingles? ....GOOD!!!

Now run along and keep the fires a'burnin'!!!

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Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Blow jobs...always essential!!!

All too many times I hear about the guys who keep their fingers crossed about getting a birthday blow job.. Or the ones who were constantly blown while dating only to look back on the glory days as a faded memory after marriage. Most guys are so grateful to get the odd roll in the sheets.. that they settle for sex without oral as still being a huge achievement. WHY is it that so many women would rather skip the glory of giving a good blow job?? I don't get it?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Okay ladies, I am not oblivious here, I ~~CAN~~ appreciate that a lot of guys can literally *stink up the joint* south of the boarder. If that is the case - anyone can sympathize with not wanting to go that route. Understanding as anyone would be when faced with a cheese-curdling smell - I'd still wanna figure out a way to put my lips on his tip ;o) If you can't convince your guy to 'spruce up' before getting kinky - keep in mind that spit can work wonders!! Then toss in the commentary of how you like him well rinsed off like that - that it makes you want to stay down there even longer... or how his fresh out of the shower look makes you c.ck hungry!!! (oops.. is that kind of pillow talk only for me??)

What I don't understand is just plain ol' NOT wanting to go down on your guy?!? I mean, my motto is.. "it's not sex if there are no blow jobs" lol!!! And why is it that blow jobs (if they occur) only tend to happen at the very beginning of the 'session'??? What is so wrong with several sucks throughout??? What is so scary about going down after he's dipped into you?? If we're all in a good place regarding hygiene - it's all good - and extremely kinky!!! Plus, whatever isn't to your *taste* is made for spitting ;o)

When the scope of your bedroom play minimizes.. so does a part of your connection. The person you choose to have a relationship with should be the person you invest the most time and effort into... regarding all aspects of your life together. Unless you are having a quickie - find time to LOVE that lollipop!!!!!! Pleasing one another should be looked upon as a turn-ON not a chore.

Open wide... even if you're his bride ;o) Haven't met a guy who didn't like to be savoured... don't think yours is any different.

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Chick xo