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Thursday, May 29, 2008

Female squirting... It's real, it's fantastic!!!

Allow me to share this tid bit... Female squirting (the equivalent of male ejaculation) - hot enough topic for ya? Good! Let's get started..

My initial reaction to learning about the existence of female squirting was 'euwwww gross!'... Oh, how ignorant I was to the pleasures of the liquid of love ;o) My bf was the educator in this case and I just assumed that 'my body didn't do that' sorry! And really, who would want the sheets soaked? (remember, I hadn't tried it yet)...

So, we tried.. apparently there is a 'spider man' type of move.. best described as giving a peace sign with your fingers and curling them inward towards your palm.. then stroking gently to coax the squirt for release. And one day... all of that teasing of my g-spot finally brought me the sweetest eruption of clear fluid that squirted like a sprinkler onto my bf's chest.. and it was SO GOOD!!

From that point on.. I was hooked (kinda like the shape of the finger position my bf had to encourage the squirt after all!)...

If you want to try this with your partner I highly suggest it.. and be patient.. and gentle.. it may take a while to perfect. Insert your fingers into your woman.. two fingers preferably.. separate your fingers about an inch apart.. feel around for her g-spot which should feel like a spongy/walnut sized spot on her inner vaginal wall (towards her tummy). Once you find this spot.. gently massage it.. make sure she's turned on.. slow & steady wins the race here boys!!! If you are doing it right, you may feel it start to slightly grow or bulge.. it's filling up with her squirt... Once you feel she's really turned on.. increase your massage movement and add some more pressure.. and continually press and release that built-up bulge.. the faster the more spray effect.. you may be pleasantly surprised!!!!

Squirting can show itself in many ways.. sometimes it's just a slow gush of clear fluid.. other times it's a lavish spray - chances of that happening increase when your woman pushes down with her stomach muscles when you are beginning to spray her.. We've even gotten to the point where my bf will work the spot during foreplay.. and just by riding him it'll trigger my g-spot into gushing/spraying all over him - makes for a deliciously slippery ride that you won't soon forget!

It's not the SAME as an orgasm.. but can be just as pleasurable and intense.. It's also NOT pee from what you may hear.. and the p.rn that shows girls spraying for miles.. chances are they have been filled with water (give or take Cytheria)... it's tasteless for the most part.. and it's clear.. and any extra lube is always fun!!!

My new goal... work it out on myself... to put on a show for my fella ;o)

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Happy squirting~~~~~

Cheers xo!

Saturday, May 24, 2008

Thoughts from a woman who loves the *p*...

Guilty as charged... I am a woman who loves to watch porn!!! I was recently watching a talk show where the panel of women were collectively bashing porn as a threat to a relationship. WHAT?!? In my opinion, the ONLY reason why porn would be a threat to any relationship is if your man PREFERS watching porn OVER having sex with you. Otherwise, what's the harm in it?!

Porn is exciting to watch, the people are untouchable, there is no 'relationship' there, it's purely for entertainment purposes. Strip joints are a million times worse - there is physical contact there and of course, that's a deal breaker. But porn, should not be looked upon as being a source of contention - it's actually something that you can BOTH benefit from.

If your man enjoys porn, and you find it acceptable, he will be more likely to share his fantasies with you - isn't that something you would WANT? If you venture into watching some porn together you can find out what your intimate likes and dislikes are. Discover new and exciting things to try in your own sexual adventures. Try new positions, techniques, roll play... All of which, will only heighten your intimate connection with your man.

I love to find porn that I enjoy and send it to my man to watch.. he gets so excited just thinking that what I looked at turned me on. Although I am not normally one to watch porn 'while' I'm in the midst of being physical - (I find it to be distracting) - I think couples who enjoy that are likely very in sync and connected deeper then most. If you can be open to sharing something so personal and be accepting instead of judgemental, you will find your partner is even more attracted to you.

As I said before, if your man is watching porn instead of having sex with you, then this IS a problem. However, if he's just watching to get excited and ultimately wants to be physical with you then everyone benefits. Plus, who wants to think about their partner hiding things from them - or who wants to be the one who feels they have to hide their intimate secrets... no one. There is no reason to be jealous of your man watching porn if he is not using it in place of you. There are a lot more threats in every day life that could lead to eventual temptation that are REAL, whereas porn is not real. And yeah, most of the porn I've seen is tacky and completely over acted - but hey, that's what reminds me that I am the real thing when I have my man with me. I find it funny how watching porn with my bf makes him realize how fake it is - we now find we enjoy the stuff that's more 'believable' and less 'oh baby! oh baby! yes! yes! yes!' lol!!! We also prefer the porn that doesn't merely service the man but also shows scenes where the women is the focus of pleasure ;o)

If you have previously been close minded to the idea of your man watching porn.. try this.. find something you are intrigued by online - buy a porn dvd - you can order it and it will come to your mailbox instead of having to go to a sex store... light some candles one night and pop that DVD in the machine - it will be an evening neither of you will soon forget. I'm sure you'll quickly notice that the porn becomes a background accessory and the real fun happens between the two of you!!! - AND.. I'd bet that you both would want to try it out again sooner rather then later.

Sharing everything is one of the best parts of a relationship... have fun! Enjoy each other ;o)

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Cheers!!! Happy porn watching!!! xoxo!

Friday, May 23, 2008

Love wearing thongs...

"Hello, my name is 'chick-in-heels' and I am a self proclaimed, shamelessly proud, love the feel of them.. THONG WEARER' ;o) Welcome one and all.. this is a good read even if you are of the granny-panty sect lol!

I too once held the misconception about thongs. They MUST be uncomfortable, dental floss for your butt, they hurt, only sluts wear them... etc etc.. I am proud to say, many years back now, I crossed the line - I was a bikini cut panty type of girl and now I am a full fledged tawdry thong wearer YAHOOO!!!!

Ladies, misconceptions aside - if you have ever tried a thong and were not impressed might I suggest that you were wearing the WRONG style for you. Thongs come in so many sizes.. as for the commentary about having 'undies up your butt' - thongs actually make that experience LESS disruptive then full backed panties do... it's mere physics - you have full back panties and they creep up - they will end up in your crack. Now, I'd much rather have a delicately soft piece of fabric grazing that area then having a handful of cotton bunched up like a towel in there!!!

My initial experience with thongs was not great, as I said, there are so many styles. I found if it was too tight it 'did' feel uncomfortable (same as full back panties tho). I also found that I preferred the very thin t-back thongs where you barely feel like you are wearing a thing! Thongs provide GREAT lines under dress pants - make em' wonder if you are wearing any at all!! Just like with full back panties too, you have to pick the right 'height' of panty - it IS tacky to have your thong showing above the waist of your jeans - no ands-ifs-or-BUTTS! Thongs aren't privy to being shown when ladies bend over though, we've all seen our fair share of icky full backed flashes when in 'full bend' I'm sure.

I do believe that thongs are the best choice if you do not require panties for 'shapely support'. In that case it would be best to wear a seamless boy-short.. I agree. But for the most part - wearing a thong - or at least TRYING a FEW out is fun! I definitely feel a little sexier when my bf is well aware that I have a kinky pair on under my jeans. Even clothes feel better - less constricting...

Oh.. and did I mention that most men LOOOOOOVE IT???? Yep, shocking as that may seem they do! And as a former skeptic myself, I have to say I'm voting with the men on this one. It's wroth a try ladies - try different types, fabrics.. I am sure you will find one that you end up buying every shade of before you know it! And guys, if you read this.. pass it along to your girl.

.........ummm... and just so it's not left unsaid... guys.... the same vote doesn't go for you. A thong on a guy is actually a huge turn off! Trust us, it does nothing to enhance the packaging. Boxer briefs are my undie of choice for the man in my life.

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Cheers xoxo!! (by the way - hot pink is what I'm wearing now)

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Drive him wild... slip that condom on FOR him...

Ahhh the condom! The moment where your 'brain' interrupts you before running >>>full steam ahead>>> lol! A pressure cooker for many guys. Fumbling, awkward, worrying about maintaining an erection and putting the darned thing on... yeah... not exactly the *highlight* for many couples. Never mind keeping up your momentum of having HER stay in the 'zone' too. So, I'll tell you a little story...

I never realized what a HUGE deal it was until I saw my bf's reaction. Reached in my side table drawer, pulled out the condom, ripped it open with my teeth, pinched the tip and SLOWLY eased it down over him. This little tid-bit happened to drive my bf WILD!!! He was so impressed and it completely heightened the experience all together - never again would the 'condom-putting-on' be one of those rushed and clumsy moments - it suddenly became a part of foreplay!!!

It's not a difficult feat ladies.. and practicing on your man can be half the fun - tease him with it.. tell him he can't touch... that you want to make him ready for the ride you're about to give him ;o) Aside from the fact that it's a life saving safety measure - and the fact that most men would rather not use them - having the woman participate in making the condom wearing process a kinky one can benefit you both ;o)

The ripping open with the teeth measure is optional obviously lol!!! It happens to be one of the parts my bf finds alluring though. Open the condom, take a quick check that you have it the right side up, place on his head (lower head fyi!) squeeze the tip of the condom to remove the air - and the IMPORTANT part now.. is to use BOTH hands and lightly slide that bad boy on - I like to continually stroke both hands downwards one after the other until I reach the base... Trust me on this ladies, he'll be even harder for you when it's time to enjoy him ;o)

Of course.. going bare is my favourite.. but only if you are in an exclusive relationship and are clear of any std possibilities.. until then, make condom wearing a part of your *play routine* - it'll make something that you do to be responsible.. just a little more fun ;o)

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Cheers xoxoxo!

p.s. and happy dome-wearing 2 u!

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Internet *sparks*..... my take.......

Ahhh.. A topic I know a little something about. I admit, I've tested the waters of the internet dating pool. And for me, it was the perfect scenario. I was at home with two young kids so that kept me from being able to socialize at a bar - and REALLY - who EVER meets anyone of 'quality' at a bar?? Internet dating is a time saver for many - you can easily weed out those who don't immediately capture your interest. Pictures can be exchanged prior to any awkward meetings at a coffee shop - WHO has that kind of time to waste these days. Take it from someone whose lived through a marriage before - once you've managed to survive that - you do NOT want to waste any time and you know EXACTLY what you want and DON'T want.

Internet dating was a good avenue for me because I tend to 'type/write' in the same fashion as I speak. Many people, however, don't. You know someone like that I'm sure - someone who is GREAT and personable in PERSON but give them a keyboard to punch away at and you get one word answers that seem completely lame. At the very least, internet dating can give you a glimpse into the person you are communicating with - and most of us know if we feel 'some' sort of a connection or not.

It's also quite easy to move on if you find you are not interested in the other person and there is always someone else to choose from. You have to be somewhat guarded as there are people who misrepresent themselves. Photos are not always legit - I love the idea of having the person you are dealing with hold up today's paper in their photo ;o) Even the TYPES of pictures you view will tell you a lot about the person aside from their looks. Don't even get me started on the 'questionable' photos I was sent... that kinda guy... is TACKY and tactless! And likely more interested in HIMSELF then anything else. Nudie pics?!?!? Seriously - not cool. Besides, that's so much more fun to do once you're actually 'in' the relationship - but that's for another blog tee hee ;o)

A photo exchange early on is a good idea. The last thing either party wants is to feel connected through email/chat exchange and find the person they are speaking with looks NOTHING like how they described themselves or that you are simply not attracted physically. Plus, before getting to know the person's whole life story you can easily decline anything further if the photos don't suit your search. Also, be somewhat guarded as to what 'information' you give out about yourself - don't instantly give out your address or phone numbers.. you don't want to end up with a stalker either.

Be yourself, nerves can be set aside as you have that 'filter' prior to a face-to-face meeting.. And if you connect, if your conversation flows, if the photo exchanges go well.. then make plans to meet. My suggestion is a public place and a short initial meeting to break the ice - leave it open ended so you can decide whether or not you wish to meet again.. and voila!

I was lucky enough to find a needle in a haystack online. How a few clicks can change your life.. let me tell ya!

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Cheers xo!!!

Monday, May 12, 2008

Thursday, May 8, 2008

In sync or speaking another language... or both...

Ahhh the difference in how the sexes speak... It's inevitable I suppose. I'm figuring that you should consider yourself lucky if you find someone who is on the same ~wavelength~ 'most' of the time. After all, we are all individuals with unique thoughts, theories and beliefs. Something I believe strongly is that two differing thoughts do not indicate one is right and one is wrong - they are merely, different.

Compromising to respect one another's different thoughts is ideal - (it's not a win or lose situation) it all depends on how much you want the end result to flow together. I try very hard to step back and look at the big picture, however I too am guilty of being sucked into spiral thinking when emotions run high & I feel passionate about something. There are many situations where we mentally weigh the situation & strive to see the 'how will we ever meet' on certain topics. I suppose, if you are trying to see the how in working through your differences.. you are likely making your relationships and communications stronger for it.

Human nature.. what you believe, you achieve - don't they say? So when do you decide to feel weaker and BEND? When do you stand your ground? When do you cross over? I think the best bet is to always TRY to put yourself in the other person's position - as difficult as that may be, it will usually grant you with some sort of appreciation. Appreciating one another's view points (whether or not you ultimately agree) is the best form of compassion and will lead to a common respect regardless of whether or not you agree.

Some topics may have you distanced so far from one another that it brings up the point that men and women will always speak different languages. I hate to generalize though, I'd rather believe that it all comes down to circumstance. If it's not a 'deal breaker' situation, then take it as an 'issue' & do not allow it to rupture your entire relationship. For me, it always comes down to whether or not I am feeling 'good' most of the time.. or not. That is my indicator. However, there are moments where we all have to fall before we can pick ourselves back up again. That's just a part of life..

In the end, there is much to be left up to interpretation... clarity and compassion are always key.

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Cheers... (no kisses n' hugs today)

Monday, May 5, 2008

...and the award for the most romantic proposal ever goes to:


Ahhhh leave it to a gay man to know exactly how to do it ;o) That scene literally gives me goosebumps and I've watched it several times now!!! Simple, honest.. touching. A moment in time that will forever be remembered. No fancy restaurant, no crowd of people, no outrageous display - genuine... how refreshing is that?!

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Cheers xo!

Friday, May 2, 2008

Ahhh love... it's good stuff...

So, this article made me nod my head several times... some interesting little tid bits about how we are affected by love.


After enduring the end of an engagement & the dissolution of a marriage in my lifetime, the man I have now found definitely has the 'it' factor. How does one know this, well there are many ways - one of which is certainly having the experience of past relationships. Growing platforms, hopefully leading you to the right person or to learn more about what you want in the 'right person'. Once you know it, everything else seems to fit.

Side note here: If you really love someone, the feelings of 'love'... and this is important... LAST. There should be no compromising on that point. Comfort level should only indicate a deeper more lasting love - that continues to make you feel GOOD... otherwise, it's indifference. I believe, when you are truly in love, you find yourself doing whatever it takes to keep it strong and growing.. and feeling the way it should...

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Cheers xo!

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Good tips to ponder.. and a little splash of my own thoughts on point 16

16 things it took me over 50 years to learn:
by Dave Barry, Nationally Syndicated Columnist

1. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.

2. If you had to identify, in one word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, and never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be 'meetings.'

3. There is a very fine line between 'hobby' and 'mental illness.'

4. People who want to share their religious views with you almost never want you to share yours with them. (Ahhh Zeitgeist - love a challenge, wake up peeps!)

5. You should not confuse your career with your life.

6. Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance. (This one isvery important) Rhythm or not fellas - shake it, it's a huge turn on!!

7. Never lick a steak knife. Lotsa better things to lick ;op

8. The most destructive force in the universe is gossip.

9. You will never find anybody who can give you a clear and compelling reason why we observe daylight savings time.

10. You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she's pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.

11. There comes a time when you should stop expecting other people to make a big deal about your birthday. That time is age 11. ...or 33 ;o)

12. The one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender,religion, economic status or ethnic background, is that, deep down inside, we ALL believe that we are above average drivers.

13. A person, who is nice to you, but rude to a waiter, is not a nice person.(This is very important. Pay attention. It NEVER fails.)

14. Your friends love you anyway. and ALWAYS

15. Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic. But a genius built the sybian lol!!!

16. Thought for the day: Men are like fine wine. They start out as grapes;and it's up to the women to stomp the crap out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with... I prefer: Men are like fine wine.. pick a good one and savour it!!! Let it fill you up and warm your insides ;o)

Cheers xo!!!

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