Thoughts from a woman who loves the *p*...

Guilty as charged... I am a woman who loves to watch porn!!! I was recently watching a talk show where the panel of women were collectively bashing porn as a threat to a relationship. WHAT?!? In my opinion, the ONLY reason why porn would be a threat to any relationship is if your man PREFERS watching porn OVER having sex with you. Otherwise, what's the harm in it?!

Porn is exciting to watch, the people are untouchable, there is no 'relationship' there, it's purely for entertainment purposes. Strip joints are a million times worse - there is physical contact there and of course, that's a deal breaker. But porn, should not be looked upon as being a source of contention - it's actually something that you can BOTH benefit from.

If your man enjoys porn, and you find it acceptable, he will be more likely to share his fantasies with you - isn't that something you would WANT? If you venture into watching some porn together you can find out what your intimate likes and dislikes are. Discover new and exciting things to try in your own sexual adventures. Try new positions, techniques, roll play... All of which, will only heighten your intimate connection with your man.

I love to find porn that I enjoy and send it to my man to watch.. he gets so excited just thinking that what I looked at turned me on. Although I am not normally one to watch porn 'while' I'm in the midst of being physical - (I find it to be distracting) - I think couples who enjoy that are likely very in sync and connected deeper then most. If you can be open to sharing something so personal and be accepting instead of judgemental, you will find your partner is even more attracted to you.

As I said before, if your man is watching porn instead of having sex with you, then this IS a problem. However, if he's just watching to get excited and ultimately wants to be physical with you then everyone benefits. Plus, who wants to think about their partner hiding things from them - or who wants to be the one who feels they have to hide their intimate secrets... no one. There is no reason to be jealous of your man watching porn if he is not using it in place of you. There are a lot more threats in every day life that could lead to eventual temptation that are REAL, whereas porn is not real. And yeah, most of the porn I've seen is tacky and completely over acted - but hey, that's what reminds me that I am the real thing when I have my man with me. I find it funny how watching porn with my bf makes him realize how fake it is - we now find we enjoy the stuff that's more 'believable' and less 'oh baby! oh baby! yes! yes! yes!' lol!!! We also prefer the porn that doesn't merely service the man but also shows scenes where the women is the focus of pleasure ;o)

If you have previously been close minded to the idea of your man watching porn.. try this.. find something you are intrigued by online - buy a porn dvd - you can order it and it will come to your mailbox instead of having to go to a sex store... light some candles one night and pop that DVD in the machine - it will be an evening neither of you will soon forget. I'm sure you'll quickly notice that the porn becomes a background accessory and the real fun happens between the two of you!!! - AND.. I'd bet that you both would want to try it out again sooner rather then later.

Sharing everything is one of the best parts of a relationship... have fun! Enjoy each other ;o)

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Cheers!!! Happy porn watching!!! xoxo!