Jesse James Sandra Bullock - Affairs....

You know, I’ll bet that Jesse James really did and DOES love Sandra Bullock. You see, most guys who cheat don’t let the potential consequences of their actions enter their minds. To them, the mistress and the wife are two completely separate worlds and for whatever reason, the majority of guys who enter into affairs – figure they can balance both – that one has nothing to do with the other. The excitement and the ‘rise’ are totally separate entities from their family/wife and what could potentially EXPLODE. And when the affair DOES come to light... it usually doesn’t end the way they’d want it to.

I wonder if any of the guys out there are taking pause now at what’s happened with Tiger Woods and Jesse James. Aside from the risk of losing their wives/families over the affair – the chicks they are having affairs with ALWAYS have the potential go to ‘FATAL ATTRACTION’ on them! Whether you think you’re just having a casual fling or are in love with your mistress – love and sex can do CRAZZZZZY things and turn people very ugly! The moment you cross the line, there is potential for that ‘other person’ to show up at your front door and bring to light that dirty little secret. And now with text messages, emails, voice mails, etc... the potential to get caught only increases. Especially if you’re having an affair with someone who is single – most women are gonna want MORE out of the situation at some point. Convincing yourself otherwise is risky business. I think the ONLY time you can AFFORD to have an affair – is when you don’t CARE if you get caught – meaning, you are PREPARED to leave the marriage at all costs. (Plus the chick Jesse James cheated with is just butt f.ckin ugly!!!)...

Now, aside from causing irreparable damage to your relationship with your spouse... consider it double fold if you have children in the picture too. It’s one thing for your spouse to discover your affair but how would you face your children being aware of it? Sandra Bullock became step-mom to Jesse James’ kids – an affair can have far reaching affects. Thing is, most guys won’t THINK on these levels when getting caught up in an affair. A new woman who shows sexual interest in you seems to be so intoxicating to most men that considering the risks of crossing the line doesn’t usually come into play.

I’m thinking most guys who have affairs aren’t CRAZY IN LOVE with their mistresses anyways... figuring they can stop things whenever they decide – not always the way the mistress thinks though. If asked what was more important to them – their wives/families or the mistress – the guys will almost always say that their wife/family means more to them of course... doesn’t mean they don’t want to take the mistress or potential mistress up on what they’re offering!

Most guys have an idea of what they’d like to see in a wife/mother-of-their-children type. And usually it’s NOT the same as what they would want from a mistress. A lot of guys want more sex from their wives but do they REALLY want their wife to be the dirty slut that the mistress is? It’s the old theory of who you ‘can’ and ‘can’t’ bring home & introduce to the folks.... It’s the rare situation where a man feels he has a presentable wife/mother type on one hand, who turns into the vixen/kinky-whore for him in the bedroom. Guys SAY they want a woman who can offer them both sides – but is that really true? Can they separate the dirty girl in the bedroom and the woman who he brings to Easter with the family? Or is the sex he has with his wife more ‘love’ based and the sex he fantasizes about with a mistress more about ‘getting off’ to his deepest darkest desires. For some reason most people don’t have ‘both’ scenarios in the relationship they have with their spouse.

I always say it’s ONE THING if your marriage is in trouble and you could possible ‘see’ that you haven’t been close physically, etc... those weak moments in a relationship always have the potential to create outside interests. But to be completely blindsided (no pun intended Sandy) has to be the worst of the worst. It’s in those cases that I truly believe the guys think... they just wouldn’t get caught... because they probably were pretty happy with their marriages. Sure most people who have affairs aren’t in the public eye – but what about a workplace affair (which is often where it begins) – there probably isn’t as much consideration for how your career can be affected until it’s too late.. Or an affair with someone that your family knows as being part of your circle of friends.. it all has an affect that most involved in the affairs do not consider until all hell breaks loose.

I think the blindside affair has to be the LOWEST of the low. It’s the true con artist who convinces his spouse he’s completely in love and devoted while living a lie... having your cake and eating it too – is ALWAYS too good to be true. Wonder how Jesse's gonna feel when Sandy finds a new man to treat her right... yeah, that's another thing he SHOULD have considered before dipping his wang in the tattoo skank!

If you’re willing to take the risk, you have to really hate your spouse and expect to leave on ugly terms. Chances are that’s how it’s gonna break down – even if things to come to light long after an affair has ended...

That’s my two cents anyways.. vote on the poll, email me your topic suggestions to chicktidbits@live.ca, comment below and come visit me often!! Until next time... think long and hard before digging into the cookie jar kids ;o)

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Chick xo