When one is just a little more invested than the other - relationship style..

You've likely experienced this on one end of the spectrum or the other... because in MOST relationships, I believe one person is just a LITTLE more invested (or a LOT) more invested in a long term look out, than the other.

I've experienced this myself, or so I'm told, I 'think' that's the case but maybe it's really more equal than I perceive. That undying love, the unlimited adoration, that life long unwaivering committment because you just fall THAT hard for someone. Now, carrying that feeling on as the relationship flourishes is the KEY to what is ACTUALLY legitimate love and what is the mere 'newness' feeling.

I have also been witness to a difference in the level of 'investment' in a newer relationship. It sort of scared me because I saw myself.. but I think, if you don't put yourself out there and TRY, then you'll just never know what might have been. I believe it's those who are brave enough to bare their emotions who are willing to be open and invest the most.

But what if it is truly unbalanced? This is where the problems come into play. One person see's the relationship as "love" and the other sees it as casual dating. One person see's the future with a forever partner (not cowboy kinda pard'ner lol!), and the other see's a fuck buddy. One person wants to commit and the other does not.

The 2 biggest issues here are that people are either not honest or not 'completely' honest because maybe the situation fits their need at the present time... or the person who is so deeply 'falling or invested' is only seeing what they WANT to see and not the reality of the situation.

Let's not forget that PLENTY of people just 'settle' into a relationship because it's there, those are the ones I worry about - the ones who make you wonder if their toe may still be keeping the door slightly ajar...

That's my blabbering for today xo!

~C~

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Things that make women happy.... okay, THIS woman....

SEX - Well, for sex to happen you have to be in a good place right? So you're happy, feeling loved and desired.. and then you get to cum!!! Win-win!!!

BACK RUBS.... In fact, I have an ongoing fantasy about going for a massage where it leads to all sortasa nasty goodness hehe! Fellas, take note - back rubs relax us, make us feel GOOD - in turn, we'll wanna make YOU feel good too!

WINE - another relaxer.... is it just me or does a nice glass o'vino warm up your pink parts even more????

PDA's - okay, not a wet frenchie kiss in the middle of the grocery store - but hand holding... a guy's hand on my lower back when we're out... simple little signs that he's into ME when we're out and about ;o)

REMINDERS - reminders that he's into you.... it can be as simple as a text message, a card... a snuggle with a hard c*ck at the end of a long day ;o) TMI?? Well, it is MY blog peeps!!!

KITCHEN MAKE OUTS - I don't know of any girl who wouldn't like a little sneak up from behind while making dinner or doing dishes - yes those tasks need to get done and are mundane, but add a little 'I'd still f.ck ya' squeeze into the mix from my man and YOWZA - that will make my day!

BEING COMPLIMENTED - Okay, I love being complimented by my fella - makes me feel GOOD inside and out... ie: Dancing with the stars was on, and lie or not - it felt great to know he thought I was just as hawt as one of the curvier dancers (not Kristie Ally - love her tho!)... hehe!

BEING TREATED LIKE A GF - although many of us hold the wife title or 'life partner' (PUKE) - no one really wants to be treated like the dowdy ol' wife.... so here's a little tip for the fellas - you want us to f.ck you like we're your GF and not just your old ball n' chain? Then TREAT us like we're your spicy hawt gf!!!! And ladies - this works in reverse too. Give'n'take peoples!!!

BEING APPRECIATED - again, a give and take situation here - remember the GF/BF ideal as mentioned above ^^^ if your Gf had come over and done your laundry or made you dinner - you'd be so thankful, don't let those little moments of appreciation ever slip away ;o)

That's all for now, stay kinky!

Chick xo

Shows I like....

Sooo... I decided to write about something a little different. Just stuff ;o) Today, it's TV shows I looove! Here we go...

SURVIVOR - Easy, Jeff Probst is the host of all hosts - can you imagine ANYONE else in his place - ahhh no! However, I will say that my interest in this show depends entirely on the cast & over the years there have been better seasons than others. For the upcoming season I'm hoping to see Boston Rob mess with Russell - but really.. who doesn't miss Coach? I can't be the only one... loved to hate that guy!

THE BACHELOR - or Bachelorette depending on the season. It's my guilty pleasure. I look forward to Monday's whenever it's on - sad but true. I'm a hopeless romantic at heart so it's fun to get sucked into those 'created moments' and fascinating date excursions.. but I also love to witness the drama. I'm a fan of http://www.realitysteve.com/ who gives us the REALITY behind this show in the snarkiest and most awesome of ways - and even when I know the ending (thanks Steve!) I want to watch the mental shakedowns that take place while getting down to the final rose/proposal/walk-away.. what have you... Clearly, I'm not alone - The Bachelor has been around for a long time. The only reason to go on this show is as a gateway to SOME semblance of fame - those going on to find TRUE love... c'mon!

MODERN FAMILY - Anyone who has not watched this show IS MISSING OUT!! This show is so well written - the storylines are priceless and sometimes realistic. The hilarity is the key here though. From the rich old guy with the busty Columbian wife and step-son, to the gay couple with the adopted daughter and the wife/husband + 3 kids-combo - it's an easy watch, so funny and all of the characters are likeable/laughable!!

Okay, COUGAR TOWN has to be one of my absolute FAV's!! I am so bummed if there is a repeat on because I've seen them ALL. Courtney Cox plays Jules - I was a huge 'Friends' fan so I decided to watch this show.. however, my favourite characters are that of Laurie, Ellie, Grayson, Andy and of course the amazing Bobby Cobb!! Laurie is my FAV tho, she's so goofy but completely confident with that - LOVES her! After watching this show I find myself in need of my very own humungus 'Karl' wine glass... Another easy watch with characters that always get the last laugh. And who doesn't want to play *PENNY CAN* over a few drinks with their besties?!


CALIFORNICATION - the sexed up version of Mulder - okay, so Mulder's character couldn't be further from Hank's but if Duchovny does it for you - this show cannot be missed! Had I been described a show about a womanizing, drunk, semi-successful author I likely would have passed.. but Hank and his messed-up-self is totally lovable. Not to mention totally crass and hysterical. The sex and drugs is shocking and interesting at the same time - like being a voyeur in his whacked out life. This show is on HBO which I invested in specifically to watch this gem.



The new season of American Idol is FAN-TASTIC!!! I truly believe that has everything to do with the addition of Steven Tyler. Now, in all honesty - I thought he was their replacement for Paula lol!! Figured he'd be the 'spacey' addition - Was I EVER wrong about that... first of all he's hilarious and secondly, his comments are the most legit if you ask me! I decided to give AI a chance for the first episode only... now, I'm hooked. Had it just been Jennifer/Randy/Ryan I think it would have been a snooze-fest for me but Steven makes it GREAT! Nevermind the weekly eye-sex he has with several of the female contestants - if you haven't noticed THAT part yet you haven't been watching the same show as me lol!!

So... those are some of my fav's... just thought I'd share

Chick xo

Do you REALLY know what your partner wants??

So, you've been together for a while now right? Things are going along swimmingly - or so you think at least. What's KEY is knowing how to KEEP it that way - and the only person that depends on, is your mate. Assuming things are 'great' just because 'you' are happy can be risky.

I think, that after a while, people get complacent, comfortable and perhaps without even realizing end up taking things for granted. I mean, how OFTEN do you stop to think about the things that make YOUR partner happy? When was the last time you did something entirely focused on making your partner feel good?? Even if this crosses your mind, DOING IT is they key - and follow through doesn't have to take a lot of work - but it WILL go a long way ;o)

The thing that people don't do often enough is stop to consider what it is that would REALLY make their partner smile. Ladies, I'm sure many of you would SHOCK the pants off of your man if you initiated sex, tried a new position or wore something sexy to bed. Most guys would list 'anything to do with sex' as their top 5 requests right?! But that's not the ONLY way to focus in on making your fella happy. What's his favourite beer? Pick some up for him - have it in the fridge and he'll see you thought of him. When is the last time you sat and listened to his favourite music and reconnected without having the TV on in the background? I don't know ANY guy who would turn down a back rub either...

Guys, think BEYOND flowers here... what does she REALLY like? When you make her breakfast - but add a little something to that to show you're into her - even a sticky note can go a LONG way to making her feel loved. Give her some loving moments that DON'T necessarily lead to sex... (make a note here fellas - the more of these moments you give the more sex you'll end up having anyways - I SPEAK THE TRUTH!!!).

The REAL key here is actually knowing what it is that would make your partner feel good. Too many people think about that THEY want and not enough about what their PARTNER wants. If you want something in return, try giving it first. If you are always the one giving and you aren't getting the same appreciation in return then there's a problem. It doesn't take hours to make these little moments possible but it can benefit for a long time when you follow through. I think the relationships that go the distance are those that regularly show their appreciation to one another. Think about it, if you're happy where you are now - you'll be glad you did...

Chick xo

taste test...

Let's face it, if you're having ANY fun whatsoever during sex... at some point you are using your mouth for a little more than kissing. If you're not - pull up a chair and take notes people!!

The potential is limitless as to what your lips can do and where your tongue can linger. If your partner is hygienic (and you should expect nothing less) then there should be no hesitation to find out what they taste like from head to toe. If you're like me, the very thought will make you drool with anticipation ;o)

All too many times "if" you receive oral sex it's limited to the foreplay experience alone. This is a travesty!!!! Half the fun of a good session is knowing that a well dipped blow job can come at any time.. or being lapped at after the juices have been forced out of you *blush* ~ yes, I know what I like hehe! Do you know how kinky it is to see what you taste like coming off of your partner's body? It's DEVINE!! Everyone can brush their teeth or rinse their mouths later - when in the moment the key is to LET GO and ~play~ outside the box (and in hehe!).

Don't confine yourself to the foreplay only oral sex treatment - some people are so uptight they won't even kiss after giving or receiving oral sex - c'mon!!!!! Sex is all about fun and lust and being just a little bit daring... It's not about hesitating - you'll only experience true bliss if you let go of any worry and let the intensity of the moment carry you away!!!

There's an entire body to savour - don't go missing out!!

Vote on the poll above, comment below, email me your topic suggestions or questions to chicktidbits@live.ca ~ most importantly get your tongue exercise regularly and come back often!!

Cheers,

Chick xo

The drive of a man ~ female style ~

"I love dick. To be honest, that I cannot live without."
- Christina Aguilera tells Out

Oh Christina - I hear ya sister!!!!!! I was asked once, if I could have sex whenever I wanted to - how often would I want it? ...The answer was instant "once a day!!" (sometimes more if I can get it!!! But definitely once a day is my ideal).

I've been told I give a BJ 'with love' - and I know I do.... do you know why? Because I DO LOVE IT!! I love the look of it, the feel of it, the scent, the taste.... it's crazy right?! If guys think about sex every 7 seconds, then I think about it every 5 lol!!

So now I wonder... for all the guys who think they could never be out-sexed by a woman... have you ever really had that experience? I know my breed is a rare one lol! I've had men say to me "we'll see if you can keep up" and I think... oh honey, you have NO IDEA who you're dealing with here - for as long as I can remember, I've had this relentless drive.

I tend to think that guys who have highly sexual women lose something in the pursuit -the chase - the 'hunter' side of a man. If guys can have great sex whenever they want it, does it lose some of it's lustre? Would men rather carry the torch of domination when it comes to s.x? I think most men THINK they would want a highly sexual woman but if they had one - it may overwhelm instead of turn them on...

Share your opinions here, leave a comment, email me your ideas chicktidbits@live.ca, vote on the poll above and visit me again!!

cheers,

Chick xo

Embracing your sexual alter ego...

I think women either HAVE this or have the POTENTIAL for this... your sexual alter ego. It's one of those things that allows us to open the door to uninhibited sexual freedom. To fully enjoy the possibilities and satisfaction of completely 'letting go' during sex.

It's not always easy to clear our minds of the every-day goings on. Sometimes clearing our heads and getting into sex-mode is the furthest thing from a woman's mind (okay not mine, but I'm not talking about me here - I'm an odd bird that way!!). I often times enjoy adding a little SPICE to the game of sex - and that's what it should be - a full on game - play it - challenge yourself - think outside the box! (no pun intended lol!!).

Recently I put on a little cowgirl hat, added some high heel boots and sauntered down the stairs to greet my prey... After a few brief poses - it was ON!! Make him watch in the mirror when you do things to him - he can visualize that it's some dirty cowgirl down on him.. some slutty stripper that lives in his deepest darkest fantasies - but the best part - it's YOU!!! Let that cowgirl hat open the door to embracing your sexual alter ego. Behave in ways that the 'good housewife' would never think of. A little costume can take you far.

Maybe even just some sexy panties - something that breaks you out of the routine - the norm. Keep things on the edge once in a while. Everyone likes to get revved up for a surprise or two. And ladies, heels provide for leverage in certain positions that bare feet just can't compete with!!! Not to mention when in mid-air they make for wicked thrust handles ;o) MEOW!!! Maybe let him catch you 'already warming up' and see how quickly he catches up or begs to assist - let the woman take control ;o)

Don't just wait for the mundane to occur in the bedroom at the regular time on an anticipated date. Be spontaneous - allow yourself to be someone you wouldn't normally be from day to day. Let the mild mannered kitty transform into the hungry pussy once in a while. If a wig or costume or piece of lingerie does it for ya - own it! You'll be amazed what playing the role can do for you (and of course for him!)...

Email your topic suggestions, questions or comments to me at chicktidbits@live.ca vote on the poll above, comment below and visit often you dirty birds!!

Cheers,

Cowgirl in heels - and owning it!! ;o)

Jesse James Sandra Bullock - Affairs....

You know, I’ll bet that Jesse James really did and DOES love Sandra Bullock. You see, most guys who cheat don’t let the potential consequences of their actions enter their minds. To them, the mistress and the wife are two completely separate worlds and for whatever reason, the majority of guys who enter into affairs – figure they can balance both – that one has nothing to do with the other. The excitement and the ‘rise’ are totally separate entities from their family/wife and what could potentially EXPLODE. And when the affair DOES come to light... it usually doesn’t end the way they’d want it to.

I wonder if any of the guys out there are taking pause now at what’s happened with Tiger Woods and Jesse James. Aside from the risk of losing their wives/families over the affair – the chicks they are having affairs with ALWAYS have the potential go to ‘FATAL ATTRACTION’ on them! Whether you think you’re just having a casual fling or are in love with your mistress – love and sex can do CRAZZZZZY things and turn people very ugly! The moment you cross the line, there is potential for that ‘other person’ to show up at your front door and bring to light that dirty little secret. And now with text messages, emails, voice mails, etc... the potential to get caught only increases. Especially if you’re having an affair with someone who is single – most women are gonna want MORE out of the situation at some point. Convincing yourself otherwise is risky business. I think the ONLY time you can AFFORD to have an affair – is when you don’t CARE if you get caught – meaning, you are PREPARED to leave the marriage at all costs. (Plus the chick Jesse James cheated with is just butt f.ckin ugly!!!)...

Now, aside from causing irreparable damage to your relationship with your spouse... consider it double fold if you have children in the picture too. It’s one thing for your spouse to discover your affair but how would you face your children being aware of it? Sandra Bullock became step-mom to Jesse James’ kids – an affair can have far reaching affects. Thing is, most guys won’t THINK on these levels when getting caught up in an affair. A new woman who shows sexual interest in you seems to be so intoxicating to most men that considering the risks of crossing the line doesn’t usually come into play.

I’m thinking most guys who have affairs aren’t CRAZY IN LOVE with their mistresses anyways... figuring they can stop things whenever they decide – not always the way the mistress thinks though. If asked what was more important to them – their wives/families or the mistress – the guys will almost always say that their wife/family means more to them of course... doesn’t mean they don’t want to take the mistress or potential mistress up on what they’re offering!

Most guys have an idea of what they’d like to see in a wife/mother-of-their-children type. And usually it’s NOT the same as what they would want from a mistress. A lot of guys want more sex from their wives but do they REALLY want their wife to be the dirty slut that the mistress is? It’s the old theory of who you ‘can’ and ‘can’t’ bring home & introduce to the folks.... It’s the rare situation where a man feels he has a presentable wife/mother type on one hand, who turns into the vixen/kinky-whore for him in the bedroom. Guys SAY they want a woman who can offer them both sides – but is that really true? Can they separate the dirty girl in the bedroom and the woman who he brings to Easter with the family? Or is the sex he has with his wife more ‘love’ based and the sex he fantasizes about with a mistress more about ‘getting off’ to his deepest darkest desires. For some reason most people don’t have ‘both’ scenarios in the relationship they have with their spouse.

I always say it’s ONE THING if your marriage is in trouble and you could possible ‘see’ that you haven’t been close physically, etc... those weak moments in a relationship always have the potential to create outside interests. But to be completely blindsided (no pun intended Sandy) has to be the worst of the worst. It’s in those cases that I truly believe the guys think... they just wouldn’t get caught... because they probably were pretty happy with their marriages. Sure most people who have affairs aren’t in the public eye – but what about a workplace affair (which is often where it begins) – there probably isn’t as much consideration for how your career can be affected until it’s too late.. Or an affair with someone that your family knows as being part of your circle of friends.. it all has an affect that most involved in the affairs do not consider until all hell breaks loose.

I think the blindside affair has to be the LOWEST of the low. It’s the true con artist who convinces his spouse he’s completely in love and devoted while living a lie... having your cake and eating it too – is ALWAYS too good to be true. Wonder how Jesse's gonna feel when Sandy finds a new man to treat her right... yeah, that's another thing he SHOULD have considered before dipping his wang in the tattoo skank!

If you’re willing to take the risk, you have to really hate your spouse and expect to leave on ugly terms. Chances are that’s how it’s gonna break down – even if things to come to light long after an affair has ended...

That’s my two cents anyways.. vote on the poll, email me your topic suggestions to chicktidbits@live.ca, comment below and come visit me often!! Until next time... think long and hard before digging into the cookie jar kids ;o)

Cheers!!!
Chick xo

The Bachelor - overpowered by the pussy!

I think all a man wants is to be adored but MORE importantly, he wants the ease of getting pussy. I’ve come to this conclusion through my observations as a female and from recently watching THE BACHELOR. Here’s a guy (Jake) who has a choice between a quality woman who is seemingly PERFECT for him (Tenley) but who isn’t giving up the ‘tang’ so easily... Apparently sharing the same morals and values with the Bachelor – isn’t as important as the other woman (Vienna) who is an immature and abrasive extension wearing quack who very EASILY uses the cooter to get what she wants. Guess who he picked.... he is, after all, a man.

It became very clear on the overnight dates. Here’s Tenley – the perfect girl, who has only ever been with her ex-husband – they never show in detail what actually happens on the overnight dates but anyone with half a brain could see that Tenley did NOT screw Jake that night. Vienna – the immature fake blonde (who has risqué pics circling the internet) made it quite clear to the viewing audience as she slipped into a skimpy white camisole, that she was about to TAKE ownership of Jake. And from that night forward, Tenley took a back seat – and Vienna was the front runner.

Even when the girls were faced with meeting Jake’s famiy...the pussy took precedence. Tenley met the family and fit in right away – they LOVED her!! She is, after all, perfect. Vienna went in and the initial reaction was that the family was NOT impressed. Yet, in swoops Jake to ensure they give her the benefit of the doubt – you know why – because she f.cked him good – that’s why! If roles were reversed, Tenley would have been a shoe in. I guess there is something to be said for having some experience under your belt versus saving yourself for marriage these days huh? Goes to show, that a man’s urges are top priority.

Jake is a guy who professes to be very ‘proper’ and a ‘good guy’... listens to his parents advice... thinks he holds himself to these high standards – In reality, he’s like every guy out there – They’re on the hunt for some good pussy and once they find it they wanna make sure they can have it whenever they like. Thing is, most guys end up suffering in the end for putting the needs of their cock ahead of the needs of their LIFE. Those who are able to find a balance between the two – have a RARE catch indeed. This is NOT the case here with the Bachelor. There is NO doubt in my mind that Vienna took him to the base... and when you’re in a competition for a man’s affection – that’ll crown you every time!

That’s the key, if you want to hold onto a guy – f.ck him like no one has, or could ever f.ck him again.

You see it all the time – in those ‘what does he see in HER??’ situations.... I’ll give you the answer 99.9% of the time... it’s all about the PUSSY!

Vote on the poll above, email me at chicktidbits@live.ca for any topic requests/ideas. Comment and come visit me often – I’ll keep more up to date with the blog – been slaggin’ it for a bit ;o)

p.s. for anyone secretly loving the Bachelor/Bachelorette show as I do – make sure to take a moment to read www.realitysteve.com – he knows his stuff and makes watching so much more worthwhile!

Cheers!

Chick xo

kissing...

I recently read that guys only REALLY want to kiss if it leads to sex... WELL YEAH!!!! If ONLY it were that EASY eh fellas? More times than not I could go for the kiss'n'dip lol! I do however, think kissing says a LOT about the kind of relationship you have. You can tell when you're being kissed as a courtesy, or kissed with passionate urgency or kissed lovingly - there ARE big differences. Personally, I think ALL types should exist in your relationship repertoire.

There are a LOT of awkward kissers out there. You know them, the slobber'ers', the eyes-wide-open kissers, the tongue down your throat - or oopposite - tongue is afraid to come out kissers, the kiss you like you're a sibling kissers, the never open their mouth's kissers, the biters, etc.... Pay CLOSE attention to whether or not you've been complimented on your kissing abilities - if not, then there's likely a GOOD reason for it... maybe it's time for a new attempt.

Why I think all kisses are important in a relationship is easy - peck on the lip kisses are necessary because there are times when that's all that's called for - In public places, around family and friends.... the little peck kisses are good then. However, if you are in the midst of a foreplay session - peck on the lip kisses are a NO NO! Passionate kissing is the opposite - NOT to be done in public or around others - save that for more intimate moments. This is when you kiss with a little more pressure and urgency - use your tongue - heavy breathing, you get the idea... I think anyone can handle working the kisses I've described here - even tho not everyone is good at it ;o)

I think the most important kiss that is a tell tale sign of your relationship is the loving kiss. The one where you can FEEL there's meaning behind it. Maybe it's gentle, it's definitely MORE than the peck on the lips - but a little more loving than the 'I'm about to take you' kiss - somewhere in the middle. I think it's softer, fingers running through your hair maybe, just the right amount of tongue - maybe the slightest nibble... It's the one that every now and again - makes u dizzy ;o)

All too many couples lose the zest for decent kissing as a relationship goes on. Anyone saving those good kisses solely for use in the bedroom, are missing out. (and a hint... what better way to end up in the bedroom then the spontaneous kiss in the kitchen - ahhhh! Now you get it!!). I truly believe anyone who isn't putting an effort into making out with decent kissing is losing out on real intimacy. You want more passion - then give it, and start with those luscious lips of yours will ya?!

MWAH!!!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Chick xo!

Tiger Woods ....Another guy who thinks he just won't get caught

I think even the skeeviest of guys is shaking their heads at Tiger's 'transgressions' and his complete lack of control. Talk about a fall from grace. Was this guy wound so tight that he had to have SOMETHING give eventually? Maybe... or maybe he's just one o those types who thinks they can have their cake and eat it too. That shit always catches up to you though - in one way or another. In Tiger's case I think the count is up to 12 and increasing...

Who knows what the back story is here... how unhappy his marriage was, etc. I'll be the first one to sympathize with the pains of being in a sexless marriage - but was that REALLY the case here? I doubt it - they have a 9 month old baby - and the affairs were ongoing for years with some of these women... Clearly, invincible on the course does not mean invincible in life. It's one thing if your spouse is aware of the lacking in a marriage - but to present it as 'perfect' and continue to welcome children into the mix - it just screams GREED. It's not a situation where he went onto meet his soul mate here - he was pokin' a hole in any warm place that was offering. Not to mention the deets coming out about being unprotected during these indiscretions - yuk! Gawd help his wallet if he ends up passing STD's around this already skanky mess.

And ya know, even if you're married to a dreadful hag - if you have the MEANS (and we all KNOW he did) then *man up* and get out!!! Tiger's flaw was maintaining the facade of perfection while living a lie. I do think that most guys, if they figure they had the capability of getting away with it - would cheat - and still keep their cushy lives at home in tact. That's likely why a lot of affairs DO happen - because people think they'll get away with it. Most think of covering their tracks, not what they will lose when they DO get caught. I hate to think what his kids will feel as they grow up and are able to access the truth about their Dad and what he CHOSE to do... that kinda stuff is irreparable.

I heard a good analysis of this issue recently.... that Tiger was a pretty 'geeky' fella growing up. That he was mastering his golf game instead of sowing his wild oats when he was younger... so it was building up in him and had to come out eventually. It just happened to come out at a time when he was married with two young children and pinned a spotlight on his complete lack of control over himself.

So why is Tiger suffering under such public opinion and David Letterman did not? Well, David Letterman spoke out prior to the public's general knowledge of the indiscretions. ALSO, people seem to have a lot more tolerance for cheating if you are with a 'girlfriend' or 'boyfriend' as opposed to a 'spouse' who holds a marriage license. As committed as some people may be, that piece of paper that defines you as 'married' does hold a lot of weight. In other words, had Tiger only been living with Elin and not married to her - I'd bet his 'transgressions' wouldn't be so newsworthy. Sad, but true...

Even if Tiger had legitimate feelings for the women he had affairs with, the sheer number of women discounts any meaning here... I sure hope he thinks it was worth it - his life will never be the same again.

So if you're going to cheat - and you don't have the b@lls to leave your marriage/relationship first - then make sure you are fully prepared for the sh.t to hit the fan. And ensure that you are prepared to lose the person you betrayed because more times than not, it's inevitable. Some situations may seem worth it - but I can tell you, it's NEVER an easy road to take.

What's your take? Comment below... email me any topic suggestions to chicktidbits@live.ca vote on the poll and come visit again soon!

Cheers!!

Chick xo

My tramp stamp...

So this is my new tattoo... purdy huh? I wanted something feminine and flowy. Tat's are edgy enough to go through with and I wanted something that would look pretty... always. Pretty, for a "tramp stamp" eh? Gawd I lothe that term. Lower back tat's get a bad wrap. I think the term tramp stamp should belong to someone who is daft enough to put cherries dangled at the top of their ass crack - or the words 'back door lover' - that kinda thing. Truth be told the lower back is one of the SMARTEST places to get a tat. The skin doesn't tend to change a whole lot - it can be well hidden if need be - or displayed when those intimate moments call ;o) Oh... and did I mention that they are fawkin' sexy too??? Well, at least I think so!!

My new tat covered one that I had done when I was 18 - it wasn't even half as pretty (and I can say that cuz I had designed the first little one). For a LONG time I had wanted to update it or change it - and now that summer was over I decided to go through with it. I forgot what tattooing felt like - and it felt a LOT different from how I 'thought' I remembered it - I think that had everything to do with the fact that my new tat was at least 4 times the size of my first. Some spots I could take okay - but SOME spots definitely had me gritting my teeth argggggg!!! I sat slung over a barber-style tattoo chair for about 2 & 1/2 hours - OUCH!!! I couldn't wear proper pants for a week but ya know - it was worth it - I love it!!!

Tattoos are so much more popular now than they were when I got my first tat. Personally, I like one tattoo - a focal point - but I do "get" it - it's a creative outlet. I don't understand people who get them to show their toughness or memorialize a pet?! I flipped through a tattoo magazine while I was being ink'd and saw a girl with a 'strawberry shortcake' on one arm and 'hello kitty' on another - WTF - really W-T-F???????

Anyways, I like my tattoo - tramp stamp - whatever u wanna call it - good thing too, from what I hear - it'll be there for a while ;o) I think I'll call it my 'tramp stamp' when I'm feelin' frisky and my tattoo when I'm feeling like a 'good girl' hehe!!

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Chick xo

Beejers...

Ya know why BJ's are virtually non-existent after marriage... because MOST women (if they are honest) do not LIKE giving them. The only reason they do give them is to PLEASE their man... Yup, I said it - it's true! Rare is the woman who LIKES to give BJ's - If you find one - HOLD ON TIGHT!!! For whatever twisted reason couples seem out to 'impress' one another until marriage - then they often times seem to just 'give up' - and the sex is the first to go.

Think about this... do you have to coax your woman into giving you a bj? Do you have to ask for it? Is it hard enough to get sex as often as you want it - so you don't wanna push it with a request for oral play??? Then guess what... she doesn't LIKE it.

If a woman feels unloved or unappreciated and that you only want to give her attention in order to get sex - guess what - she likely won't wanna blow you. So... that part aside, let's figure you are a good guy - attentive - loving - someone who spends time pleasing your woman - then you SHOULD expect some lickin' love in return ;o) But I guess the REAL key is how do you get your woman to LIKE doing it other than just to please you....???

My tips are simple. First off, be very clean - I don't just mean having your morning shower, going to work all day then expecting a lick-fest that night. Tidy up right before you get physical.. if you can, grab a quick shower.. if that's not possible then make your way to the bathroom and do a sink/dink-rinse ;o) Secondly, pay attention to the BUSH - yes guys - your man-forests!! If you are comfortable - go hairless (my personal favourite - allows me to lick and suck and drip all over my guy's skin).. If bald-eagle isn't your style MAKE SURE you groom - yes, trim those pubes fellas!!! Get down there, and trim away - the less hair the better chance your woman will want to venture south. I mean think about it - would you prefer to munch on a hairy bush or glide your tongue and lips across some 'barely there' action?? - the answer is simple... My final tip is to pay close attention to what your partner likes or dislikes about oral sex... If she doesn't want you to cum in her mouth - don't! If she doesn't want you to hold the back of her head and force her to take you deeper - don't!! The more comfortable you can make your woman the more apt she will be to TAKE you down...

A little tid bit - if you find a woman who likes to give a bj, will take it in her mouth, wants you to pull her hair while you shove it deeper into her throat... (*blush*)... keep'er ;o)

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Chick

I hate it when I don't get laid....

Yeah, that's the MAN in me I guess - I just get *miserable* when I go a day or so without it. It actually pisses me off!!! No wonder guys are at the mercy of most women when it comes to getting some action. At least I know I will have relief in the very near future - I can't imagine what kind of tension would build up if I did not have a foreseeable cum within site.

For as RILED up as I get.. I won't 'do the deed' myself at this point... it's been too long (3 days eek!!) and when I get to this place the only reasonable release would have to come from nothing less than a FUCK RAMPAGE. (where did that LADY in me go???)... don't worry she'll show face again when it's time to cuddle ;o) FYI, it won't be time to cuddle until I can no longer stand up lol!!

Seriously, am I the only one who gets this way??? I wanna be kissed and grabbed, pushed up against the wall and ripped apart... over and over and OVER again ;o) After a day or so I wanna f.ck my guy like he's being punished for keeping it from me. Make him PAY... As much as that may make me sound like a man - that's what makes me ALL woman!!!

What do u think? Do you get cranky without sex?? Is it a slow boil for u or an instant FLASH ATTACK that oozes from your pores??

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Chick

Love thru the ages... does it change?

From puppy love.. to dreamy teenage dating.. twenties romances.. and adult relationships.. do you think the love changes??

At first it's all so innocent - puppy love that is. It's easy and it just IS - because you don't know any better. It's giddy and it's part of being a little kid at some point. Teenage relationships are usually hormone driven/inspired.. so much is changing and new emotions come onto the scene. In your twenties you are exposed to the 'bar scene' of dating and relating - perhaps you're looking for that 'lifetime mate'... or what may be the START of that kind of relationship. Getting a true taste of Independence, perhaps a career is started... Into your thirties, fourties and so on seems to be a little more 'settled and directed'... you have some sort of LIFE established and you want to find someone who fits into that scene without too much of a struggle.

I tend to think, if you've met someone when you were younger and managed to stick it out together and STILL feel the love - then you are indeed, a rarity. I would think, if this is the case then you and your partner obviously were able to grow TOGETHER which isn't usually the norm. If on the other hand, you are in the majority - then you have likely dated several people through several different stages of your life - which will (or has) eventually bring you to whoever you are with at THIS stage of life. I am of the belief that each relationship provides a clearer and clearer picture of what you truly want in a mate. Does the love change? I think so - I believe, the more you have been through the more you understand what you really want in a relationship. I do also think, that whatever the LOVE feeling is for each of us - many of us knew how we wanted it to feel from very early on.

When you're young all you think about is whatever makes you feel good, or who pays attention.. in your twenties it's likely more to do with fun - who fits in with your friends and makes for a good time.. into your thirties and fourties I think you start to get a little bit more grounded and mature about who you want to build a life with.. and onward from there - the important things are who makes you happy and who will be there for you thru the long haul...

Of course life, and kids and bills and jobs.. etc... tend to affect the lives of so many couples. And it's the couples in mid-life who face the challenge of balancing it all - and still wanting their relationship to take centre stage. That's just the thing though, too many people lose site of their relationship being a focal point during this time. Think of the stories of people who send their kids off to college and realize they no longer know one another. Yet, there are those who grow closer and closer over time - and as they go thru various things in their lives - together. You know the ones, the old fogies who are still holding hands. No matter what phase you are in now - I think you have to believe in it - if you really want it.

Regardless, no matter what stage you're in - when you feel the magic - you'll know it. There will no longer be the 'check boxes' for what ideals your mate will fit - they just will. Those relationships are the ones that go the distance. That are meaningful past the first few months ;o)

What's the key... I think, if you want it to be a priority as your life goes on... then it's upto you to make it your priority - hopefully the partner you've chosen will do the same ;o)

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Cheers!!

Chick xo

Messy sex

When I think of 'messy sex' I immediately think FUN!!! I mean, who wants neat & tidy boom-boom?! NOT MOI!!! The more bodily fluid that's spewed - the more fun you'll have ;o) There's sweat, spit, blood, cum, squirt... never mind the wine spills (cheers!!). Sheets?! What sheets... that's what laundry is for hehe!

Messy sex is having wildly kinky fun abandoning any inhibitions. Sex without sweat means you're not working hard enough ;o) I pride myself on squirting thru 3 layers of bedding - now THAT's a good time!!! Ever get so riled up with your partner that spitting in their face while you're in the thick of it only ads to how hard you fuck? ...oh, just me then? oops! I'm not talking about EVERY time - that would be a wee bit degrading right?? (hehe!) But... yeah, whenever the mood strikes that makes you wanna rip into your partner's body to GET YOURS ;o)

Don't be afraid of messy sex - everything can be cleaned off later. Let the fluid FLYYYY!!! Slippery, dirty sex is earned I say ;o) If you've ever had the sensation of being squirted, then you know what I'm talkin' about... If you've ever let your yogurt shoot all over her face, you'll be on board with this train of thought hehe! If you have yet to play in this manner - get on board folks. Leave that missionary, lights out, ironed sheet sex for the "happily" married couples hehehe!!! I kid...

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Chick xo!!

The tendency to go 'SAFE' after being *burned*...

How many of us can admit that we went SAFE after being burned??? ME... see me raising my hand over here?? Yup, it's true... I went from the good-looking, crazily obsessed and over-protective guy to a chubby, safe guy... why is it always after MUCH reflection that this seems so pathetically obvious?

I even went as far as to marry Jabba The Hut.. I can say that now because I've since moved on from that minor distraction ;o) I later learned of the nick-name some friends of the family had for us as a couple 'beauty and the beast' - thankfully my ex was referred to as the latter...

Unfortunately safe isn't always BETTER. In some cases, maybe it is - perhaps going with someone who appears safe can make life easier. Maybe they are heavier set or not so easy on the eyes.. and perhaps that unconsciously puts our mind at ease for the risk of cheating - the less attractive our mate is, the less attractive they will be to others. Maybe you're shaking your head reading this now - but I'm sure, if you haven't experienced this phenomenon yourself - you can guess someone around you that has. I've known the odd guy or two who SETTLED down with the SAFE girl after being cheated on... went with the less attractive girl physically but went for the girl they felt was loyal. Knowing what I know about guys, I doubt they'd have gone that route had they not been burned first off. I know, it sounds shallow and vain - well, it kinda is... no one will admit this, but it's likely often the case after surviving a rough relationship.

I do believe you can have both, the attraction and the loyalty - a fine mix for sure - one we are all searching for. Ultimately if you're happy that's all that matters... I just think defense mechanisms tend to kick in when choosing a partner after a burn-experience.

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Chick xo!!

Do men only get married for pussy???

So, apparently this is true in MANY M-A-N-Y cases of marriage. This is a very common theme as to WHY a guy will propose and marry a woman - so that he doesn't have to 'do the work' anymore to get pussy. Sounds a little f.cked up eh? But - if guys are honest - I'll bet you, that this is true for most.

It's much easier for a girl to go out and get laid than it is for a guy. Guy's usually have to work for it - play the game - put in their time - to even have the potential to get some action. Once in a relationship - guys don't forget what it felt like to previously go without - and a motivating factor to 'hang on' or commit to a girl via marriage - is to have guaranteed pussy. So ladies, just when you think your guy is a romantic, is deeply in love with you or that he's your soul mate... consider this, that ring on your finger... is similar to a regularly-redeemable-lap dance ;o) It was likely purchased with your pussy in mind - not just your MIND... Most guys won't man-up and admit it - but ask other guys - they know better...

Megan Fox was recently quoted saying "Women hold the power because we have vagina's. If you're in a heterosexual relationship and you're a female, you win." And most of the time - this is true. Unless you are like me... the rare breed of cock-whipped-females out there - If all it took was to put a ring on it - I would!!!!! And you'd better believe that a commitment like that DOES and SHOULD come with expectations of a healthy sex life ;o)

As highly reported, sex often dwindles after marriage - but these guys can still likely get action easier from their wives than they can from anyone else - so they stay, and they hope they'll get laid every once in a while... sad huh? I've been on that side of a marriage - wanting sex with no desire from my husband coming my way.. it sucks, and it was a BIG factor that ended that situation.

So, shocked as I was to hear that most men are heavily motivated to marry for pussy - I guess it's probably true. So much for true love, fireworks and all that jazz huh....

Oh well - if you're like me, you still think that the HAVE IT ALL situation DOES exist... If you're married I hope you're getting laid, if you're single - make sure the one you eventually commit to loves sex... good luck to us all!!

Cheers,

Chick xo

My thoughts on masturbating...

So, we all do it.. and anyone who says they don't do it are either extremely repressed or lying - more than likely it's the latter ;o) I think masturbating is fantastic - it's healthy, it feels good - no one gets hurt and it's reliably satisfying!! So long as masturbation doesn't REPLACE your sex life it's all good..

I know I'm not the only one who has done the deed in spaces other than my bedroom. Anyone else take it into the bathroom stall at work? At your desk maybe - *blush* - in your car - on a boat down below while everyone else thinks you're changing hehe! I'm sure tons of us have done it in bed while our partner slept.. There are times when I get so greedy I'll play even after an intense round of sex with my partner - when on a roll why stop the game?!??

Subjects of my masturbation fantasies vary. Anything from the simple images from watching porn, to staring at my partner's body or imagining it, to fantasizing about encounters with multiple men... ahhhh the list goes on. What is fairly consistent though, is that when I do masturbate - I've got that goal of cumming in mind and I can get there pretty quickly if I want to ;o) Sometimes, once isn't enough either... I'm capable of getting there when I need to ;o)

My favourite means of pleasuring myself is circular motions with my moistened fingertips. Many women prefer vibrators - I've got my share of toys but they never seem to measure up to the feeling of real, warm skin on skin play ;o) In a pinch tho, I'm able to take myself over the edge fully clothed - with the right amount of stimulation of course hehe! I like my scent, I like my taste - I like to play and I KNOW I'm not alone... Afterall, if we can't enjoy ourselves fully how is anyone else gonna be expected to do it? Lucky for me, masturbating doesn't take anything away from sex with my partner - in fact the more I cum - the more I WANT to cum - so it only benefits him ;o) Every now and again I'll with hold - and by the time I get to cum the ramp up is intense!! You can also consider throwing a little self-pleasure into your sex play - doesn't the thought of watching your partner touch themselves turn you on??? EXACTLY!!!!

Hope you enjoyed this as much as I (often) do hehe!!

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Chick xo!!